OP, I don't usually like being this honest, but it's something you need to hear.
That was one of the creepiest posts I have ever read in my years of surfing GAF.
Not only is the girl not interested, she is likely afraid of you at this point.
And while that might not be fair, you may be completely harmless, there comes a time when we're socializing with other people that we need to take a step back and evaluate how we are coming off and what are actions are saying.
You missed that mark. Completely.
Also, we can't get so caught up in the result that we want to get that we completely ignore what's actually happening. This girl was not being subtle. She's just not into you.And you're so caught up in your own desires that you're not paying attention to any of the feedback that she's actually giving you. So not only you being creepy, but you're being self-absorbed.
OP, you are not that guy. Not yet. But you could be. The behavior you've shown is in the ballpark, you just didn't cross the line into stalker territory. Take a long step back and look at your attitudes and your life
Wait, I just re-read the OP and it looks like you asked her out again in the last week and she replied "when?" and "where?"
Is that true? Am I reading that right?
I just want to make sure. Because if after half a year she hasn't been able to find a way to say she's not into you in that way and is STILL responding to you, then she's definitely a coward. Are you both adults? You definitely misread signs badly, but she should have been able to say SOMETHING a little more direct after all this time. Unless you're teenagers, that's kind of ridiculous.
Wait, I just re-read the OP and it looks like you asked her out again in the last week and she replied "when?" and "where?"
Is that true? Am I reading that right?
I just want to make sure. Because if after half a year she hasn't been able to find a way to say she's not into you in that way and is STILL responding to you, then she's definitely a coward. Are you both adults? You definitely misread signs badly, but she should have been able to say SOMETHING a little more direct after all this time. Unless you're teenagers, that's kind of ridiculous.
Some good advice, yes. But I think a few of the people here are quite simply cruel.
I'm just going to say, honestly, GAF just isn't the best place for relationship advice, especially if you're young and inexperienced. I mean, there's been quite a few people who are trying to be helpful, but there's a good number of posters here that can be downright vicious.
To be fair, that sort of thing has existed at least as far back (if not further) as intra-AOL mails in at least the mid-90s, where you could see the status of any mail you sent to anyone else on AOL - whether it was unread, read, and if it was read, at what time it was read.
From the sound of it, she was never interested in the first place, nor was there ever the possibility of her being interested.
Interactions with women aren't always a matter of "If you do everything right they'll be interested, and if they're not interested, you did something wrong."
Sometimes, for a variety of reasons that might have nothing at all to do with you, they just might not be interested.
I think the situation's pretty shitty for both sexes. One person has to be the "bad guy" and the other person has to deal with getting rejected, which can really hurt, especially if you're a pretty nice guy who just has sucky friends.
As much as we're trying to make a particular point to the OP here, there is a point in this as well - that, if you're a guy, just going around and making advances on and expressing interest in every woman you interact with - even if you drop the issue as soon as they indicate they aren't interested - is likely to get you mocked/ridiculed/ignored as well. So, there is an issue there as well.
Fortunately, with only dating websites, you can message everyone on there and no one will be the wiser <.< Just saying... >.>
It feels as though OP was this close to paying to have a plane fly in the skies over her place with a banner saying "WHY WON'T YOU RESPOND TO MY TEXTS <girl's name>?!!?!"
. OP have you tried entering a closet or large cupboard, clenching your fists, and returning to the past? First thing to do- destroy your phone, buy a decent bottle of scotch, and forget she and everyone else who isn't you exists. Then put on Journey.
It just reminds me of when I used to do things similar. Different technologies, but similar stuff. If you have to convince someone to go out with you, then they aren't interested. They might like being pursued, might like the attention, might even reciprocate some of it. But if they flake out all the time. not genuinely excited to see/hear from you, then they aren't worth the time. I think we all learn that lesson at some time in life.
At this point in life, I put up so little effort I do wish I was atleast a little like my former self. I just don't want to be bothered most of the time.
It just reminds me of when I used to do things similar. Different technologies, but similar stuff. If you have to convince someone to go out with you, then they aren't interested. They might like being pursued, might like the attention, might even reciprocate some of it. But if they flake out all the time. not genuinely excited to see/hear from you, then they aren't worth the time.
At this point in life, I put up so little effort I do wish I was atleast a little like my former self.
I would never consider killing or raping you, Denko, so dont worry. Is that what you thought I would do?
I really lost my sh#t.
I feel bad for Denko, I was just reading and I felt so sick, I can't imagine what was the life of that girl back then, I hope she could forget about it eventually.