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[Nilaul]

I think you should find her and drag her by her hair back into your room like a cave man. Real man don't ask but take whatever they like.

 

[Dabookerman]

Women don't need to explicitly say no. It's pretty obvious when the interest isn't there.
And this isn't even a "woman" thing, because when guys break up or show no interest, they tend to be vague as well.

 

[Winterfang]

You remind of this guy used to work with. Besides being a human bag of shit, he would hit on EVERY girl at work. Even if they had a boyfriend or not.

He would be rejected and then move on to the next one.

Some highlights:

-He once slid in behind a girl while she was sitting in her office chair.

-He once got really mad at a girl who was having issues with her boyfriend and blamed her for "only dating jerks!" And not dating him.

-He would only listened to "The Gladiator" soundtrack and talk about how great it was.

-He once tried to explain the intricacies of Resident Evil with a girl he had a crush on.

-He went through a co-worker's phone to get the phone number of a friend whom he colluded with in order to try to get in with the co-worker. He asked her friend to ask the co-worker to hang out at the mall. When the co-worker arrived at the mall, he was there to meet her with flowers! She was dating someone else at this time, of course, who he thought was a "jerk."

-He was eventually fired for having a picture of the girl he was rejected by on his desk. Seems innocent enough? No. It was a picture of her ass with the words ,"[co-worker]'s FAT ASS" written below it.

Wait, except he wasn't fired. He was given the "opportunity to quit" because he was the son of a higher-up in the company.

What a pathetic bag of shit. From this guy's point of view, he was the nicest, coolest person ever. I had a few run-ins with him myself, one of them involving him telling me he didn't think I was smart enough to solder (I was fixing something at work) and how "impressed" he was.

OP, I'm saying you're a bag of shit like my old co-worker. I'm just saying there are some traits that are similar. Mostly the obliviousness and inappropriate sexual pushiness. If you can learn anything from this, learn that you need to reassess your romantic situation and not shit where you sleep.

Jeez people, easy on OP. Is really hard to confess to someone.

Edit: never mind seems to be a typo.

 

[Paper Sparrow]

hmmm interesting. but was is his approach/persistence that turned u off or was is his looks?

There was honestly a point where I feared for my well-being. Looks had nothing to do with it, I was already in a relationship. :/

 

[jasonng]

Women don't need to explicitly say no. It's pretty obvious when the interest isn't there.
And this isn't even a "woman" thing, because when guys break up or show no interest, they tend to be vague as well.

That just gave me the biggest douche chills.

 

[ItIsOkBro]

Women don't need to explicitly say no. It's pretty obvious when the interest isn't there.
And this isn't even a "woman" thing, because when guys break up or show no interest, they tend to be vague as well.

 

[nvrndr]

hmmm interesting. but was is his approach/persistence that turned u off or was is his looks?

Why does it have to be either or? Maybe he stunk real bad. Or had a shitty personality? Or he had something else up with him?

 

[Stet]

Women don't need to explicitly say no. It's pretty obvious when the interest isn't there.
And this isn't even a "woman" thing, because when guys break up or show no interest, they tend to be vague as well.

 

[ISOM]

Why do these types of threads go on and on even though the OP has stopped posting and solutions have already been offered?

 

[Bsigg12]

Women don't need to explicitly say no. It's pretty obvious when the interest isn't there.
And this isn't even a "woman" thing, because when guys break up or show no interest, they tend to be vague as well.

Some people are absolutely terrible at taking hints. I have a friend who doesn't know when to back off and I'll get a text from the girl he's seeing asking to help her out because she's over it. It's really annoying.

 

[Sapiens]

Jeez people, easy on OP. Is really hard to confess to someone.

Edit: never mind seems to be a typo.

Oops, shit. Yes, definitely a typo.

 

[Stet]

Why do these types of threads go on and on even though the OP has stopped posting and solutions have already been offered?

Cautionary tales.

 

[Neoriceisgood]

How will she know you really love her if you only send 4 messages a day? (´･ω･`)

 

[Wind's Howling]

Well..

Here is hoping you learned from your mistakes, OP.

Pushing, being desperate and texting more than her? Oh boy. Never do that.

 

[Derwind]

Ah, she knew what was up right at "Need any help with Math? Or anything else?*pant pant*"

And reconfirmed it at "Is your internet lagging?" (3 minutes later)

 

[docbon]

Women don't need to explicitly say no. It's pretty obvious when the interest isn't there.
And this isn't even a "woman" thing, because when guys break up or show no interest, they tend to be vague as well.

ugh what a bitch

^w^ mreoww~ ~

please respond

 

[jmood88]

Oh, that’s, I just thought that she should be upfront. That’s what I was trying to say.

The irony is that instead of doing what you expect from her, you send an obtuse and creepy-sounding message.

 

[Chettlar]

You aren't in love with her. You don't know what love is.

Indeed.

OP, seriously. Look up limerence.

 

[EviLore]

The whole "seen" mechanic is an amazing way to gauge just how insecure and needy someone is. Read it, mark it as seen, don't immediately respond.

WHY ARE YOU DOING THIS TO ME, DON'T YOU RESPECT ME? I HOPE YOU REALIZE THIS BEHAVIOR IS UNACCEPTABLE

Texting will probably result in the destruction of human civilization.

 

[Arrogant Bastard]

Is your internet lagging, I can fix that! Lost it.

 

[Perfect Blue]

Oh my god LOL

 

[slabrock]

Women don't need to explicitly say no. It's pretty obvious when the interest isn't there.
And this isn't even a "woman" thing, because when guys break up or show no interest, they tend to be vague as well.

I cringed so hard I think I broke something.

 

[Massive Duck. C.M.]

What the fuck is "glomps"

 

[jasonng]

I think that's how I'm going to have phone sex.

"Okay now I'm hugging you accidentally touching your chest. Smiley face. LOL. Now I'm touching your hand colon three three and my heart is racing."

 

[SymbiantXenos]

I remember that thread. Shit was so fucking hilarious.

That had to have been an ellaborate troll. Or at least I hope it was.

 

[Dabookerman]

Oh, that’s, I just thought that she should be upfront. That’s what I was trying to say.

Are you upfront about everything?

If a girl you weren't attracted to -at all- asked you out, would you say "No, i don't like you at all" or would you come up with an excuse?

She made it perfectly clear.

It's fine though, these are all life lessons. I've been in your shoes before, and I'm sure many of us have.

Just learn to take responsibility and not make the same mistakes.

 

[Ghost_Protocol]

This is child's play OP. Wait until you start having sex with girls and having them ignore you afterwards.

That's so much more fun. You'd think making out with and having sex with a girl would mean she's interested in you right? lol no.

So get ready

 

[Chinner]

where do you get these nice guy chat logs? i want more

 

[CHEEZMO™]

1. You creeped her out a long time ago.
2. She was just being polite by saying yes and then cancelling/avoiding. It's a passive way to avoid confrontations.
3. She is probably scared of you
4. You confessed feelings for a woman without having much interaction with her at all. What the fuck?
5. You probably are the laughing stock at the office and she has probably made aware all the other females about how creepy you are with her
6. Don't be surprised if you get into MASSIVE TROUBLE at work over this for Harassment.
7. Real life is not an anime or a dating sim, stop quantifying your interactions with her.
8. Leave her alone, god damnit.

The legit madpost responses to this are delish. The icing on the wahjah cake that is this thread.

 

[Derwind]

What the fuck is "glomps"

Glomp is the act of diving on to someone from behind in an anime-esque manner and sucking on their head...


Or so I've been told.

 

[Magwik]

I am legitimately terrified right now.

 

[Winterfang]

The whole "seen" mechanic is an amazing way to gauge just how insecure and needy someone is. Read it, mark it as seen, don't immediately respond.

WHY ARE YOU DOING THIS TO ME, DON'T YOU RESPECT ME? I HOPE YOU REALIZE THIS BEHAVIOR IS UNACCEPTABLE

Texting will probably result in the destruction of human civilization.

Even worse is that the point if sending a text, is so that he person can answer it at a later time. Once they are not busy.

Girls aren't immune to this neither, I have met friends and coworkers obsessed about an unanswered text.

 

[Goddard]

The whole "seen" mechanic is an amazing way to gauge just how insecure and needy someone is. Read it, mark it as seen, don't immediately respond.

WHY ARE YOU DOING THIS TO ME, DON'T YOU RESPECT ME? I HOPE YOU REALIZE THIS BEHAVIOR IS UNACCEPTABLE

Texting will probably result in the destruction of human civilization.

I've never thought of using this to my own advantage, I've always just seen insecure people get destroyed by it. That's smart.

 

[Ninja Scooter]

 

[Deleted member 57681]

fucking mroww

 

[Wazzy]

Ahhhhh this thread has been a good laugh.

The OP is so damn cringeworthy.

 

[oyoshimaru]

There isn't a GIF appropriate to describe how thirsty OP is.

good read.

 

[Log4Girlz]

Women don't need to explicitly say no. It's pretty obvious when the interest isn't there.
And this isn't even a "woman" thing, because when guys break up or show no interest, they tend to be vague as well.

I really wish people would stop posting my text conversations online. It's a violation of my privacy. Glomp

 

[jasonng]

I can't

I'm done

bye

 

[Bam Bam Baklava]

Please respond would be a sweet tag for the OP.

 

[Nilaul]

Dammmm lol

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[akira28]

Why do these types of threads go on and on even though the OP has stopped posting and solutions have already been offered?

it's like a train wreck in slow motion with more trains showing up, and then a plane crashes into the pile, and inexplicably, a boat filled with dynamite shows up.

 

[Cerity]

Sad thing is that I've seen these "nice guy" acts work, it's rare but there are chicks who are just as thirsty. It's just they have to creep out the majority first.

 

[Arrogant Bastard]

Brilliant, will use at a church function tonight.

 

[Scully Scully Scoo]

Why does it have to be either or? Maybe he stunk real bad. Or had a shitty personality? Or he had something else up with him?

doesnt have to be either, the reason i asked is because what if someone like brad pitt had behaved the same way op did, would the girl still have been creeped out. whether people want to ignore it or not looks make a HUGE difference

 

[Ghost_Protocol]

If it makes you feel any better OP, James Franco just made a complete idiot of himself for thirsting after an 18 year old who publicly shamed him.

So there's that

 

[DemonNite]

good read.

I just peed a little

 

[Chettlar]

That’s right. I wasn’t able to see things clearly then. (still not clear enough now maybe)
I thought I would end up being so miserable for some time but guess what? I am already feeling better now.
I love GAF

Listen, we all know you feel awful. I mean, I'm sure you're grateful and all, but yeah, it's obvious your kind of hurt. But that's ok. Learn from it. Like, actually, not just mentally.

I had a similar instance myself. It takes a while to get over the mental "oh that's good advice" and into the real state of mind where you actually "get it." OP, currently, you don't get it. The only way you're going to get it is to get out. Stop being such a needy person. Stop overthinking.

My situation was a bit different in that I was severely messed up in my brain, so I did a lot of things that I simply don't do, including practically harassing a girl like you've done. It honest to god was not my fault. But the effects and the growing process were similar. You have to get out. Have friends. Be secure. Get a life for heaven sake.

No girl is going to want a guy to be obsessed with them. It's creepy and an instant turn off. Let her do some of the obsessing. It's a balance. If you smother her, even if she already liked you before, that doesn't give her a chance to do anything back. No girl likes it, including and expecially girls who are extremely insecure themselves.


Your real fix? Be secure. Do stuff. Other stuff. Not girls. Screw it, forget about girls entirely. Be a stable person with a life before you even think about them. I know it sucks, especially if you're the kind of guy who doesn't really have a whole lot of close people in your life to begin with, but yeah, its almost like a paradox. If you want girls, forget about them -- at least for now. You've still got a fair amount of life ahead of you for the time being.

You aren't worth a girl until you can live without one. (And if you do end up getting one, trust me, it ain't the kind of girl you want).

 

[Randam]

those "please respond" texts..

 

[Easy_D]

Even worse is that the point if sending a text, is so that he person can answer it at a later time. Once they are not busy.

Girls aren't immune to this neither, I have met friends and coworkers obsessed about an unanswered text.

I really dislike it when people use texing as some kind of IM, if you want me fast, call me ffs. Had a friend who was like that and she got really pissy when I didn't reply to her texts at times. She never called me, only texted.

Edit: Looked up limerence just for the heck of it. God damn.