Here's a question worth pondering: What if George Lucas was a competent director and got a stellar performance out of everyone involved, including Jake Lloyd? Would he have gone on the same trajectory as he did, or could his life had gone differently? I think of Haley Joel Osment and Drew Barrymore, who had both starred in highly successful blockbusters as child actors.
Haley seemed to be the level headed of the two, having not been the poster child for drug dependency like Drew was, but did he ever have the issues that Jake did as a result of his stardom? It's like he dropped off the face of earth when he hit puberty and then reemerged on Veep. Drew, on the otherhand, ended up falling on hard times before she was even 10, but I don't know if it had anything to do with backlash stemming from her performance in E.T.. I don't know what Haley's thoughts on his experience with Sixth Sense was, but I know that Drew looks back fondly on her role in E.T. through numerous interviews throughout the years. As people have said many times here, kids can be assholes, so I'm sure that Haley and Drew got their fair share of hate as well. Fast forward to the present, any asshole could pile on them for starring in Sixth Sense and E.T. but at the end of the day, what power do they have? I think if Jake were able to say "fuck it" and own his place in TPM without apologies it's possible he could have won over a sizable fanbase as a result.
And for the record, I don't believe that George Lucas ruined anyone's childhood. I always figured that it was meant to be a humorous byline by comedians and satirists, but I never assumed that people would actually take that meme to heart. The world we live in:-/