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[Northeastmonk]

I’m thankful for my wife. My wife bought me a copy of Silent Hill 2 when my other copy gave out. She bought me 15 video game tshirts one year. It doesn’t bug her, but I do get the occasional comment if I lose track of time. Which makes sense. My wife plays games.. She finished Horizon Forbidden West.

I don’t think I’d marry someone who didn’t understand them. What else would I do? Your spouse should have alone time and they do what they want. Why is your hobby a problem? I don’t think I’d enjoy being in a marriage like that.

Kids obsess over games and that has its mess of problems. I can’t even count how many times we’ve had to disable the kid’s Switch. Nintendo’s parental controls are pretty good. You can lock the entire system down from their smart phone app.

I’ve met spouses who had this awful marriage where the guy played nonstop and they were left to do all the work. That’s unfair to the spouse and you can tell video games aren’t looked at in a positive way. I always wait till everyone is sleeping. I play with a baby monitor next to me. I don’t ditch my family to play. If the kids are doing something and I have time then I just grab my handheld. I can always put it in rest mode.

 

[AGRacing]

My wife does not like it when I play video games. Although has no problems if I end up wasting time via TV shows etc. In truth I'm not even sure why it bothers her so much! She previously felt gaming was reserved for losers only however I have a very good job and earn double her monthly salary. Gaming is just so much more fun than watching some garbage on Netflix.

Listen to Patrice O'Neal. Specifically archived "Black Phillip" podcasts. By the end you'll know exactly why your wife doesn't like seeing you enjoy yourself.

 

[22:22:22]

Yes my wife has a morning routine and begs for food occasionally. Besides that I'm good to go.

 

[Ristifer]

My girlfriend doesn't like games and has no desire to watch me play them. We don't live together at this point, and so I make an effort to spend time with her when she's over. But if I turned on a console/PC while she's sitting there, I'd be toast.

You don't need to if your dick is good enough, they just stick around

Well, I'm 0-for-2 then. Any other suggestions?

 

[frogger]

I dislike my spouse when I play games.

 

[SlimySnake]

his witch wife

this made me burst out laughing.

I have seen so many women who were fun in their 20s get completely obliterated by harmone changes after their pregnancies. they change as human beings, sometimes permanently and part of it is the lack of sleep during those early months. part of it is the constant daily, if not hourly or minutely care of a thing that simply cant survive without them. I tried to help the best i could. Took night shifts and played video games all night in between diaper changes and feeds, but after a couple of weeks, i had to go back to work and she has since been taking care of them for over half a decade. It's torture.

I dont think people should have kids if they cant afford to send them to day care 8 hours a day and have a nanny to help out the parents from 5-9. I have seen my rich friends who had that much help and they are still struggling simply because of the harmone changes. I have seen women who have help from their parents and still struggle, but I legitimately believe that grandmothers and even grandfathers are a massive help and should move in after a child is born to help out on a daily basis. Too many parents are trying to raise kids on their own, and its just not normal. Human beings have never raised their kids like this until recently. It was always communal.

Destiny came out like weeks after my first one was born, and we really struggled for the first few weeks despite the fact they he slept almost all the time. it wasnt until my mother in law came and took over did i get a chance to breathe and started feeling less like a prisoner again. I had playing Destiny all that time in between diaper changes and feeds, but having that extra person split the responsibility with you makes all the difference in the world.

 

[SlimySnake]

I'll never understand grown men yelling at the TV in online multiplayer games

you clearly havent played warzone. lol

 

[rofif]

this made me burst out laughing.

I have seen so many women who were fun in their 20s get completely obliterated by harmone changes after their pregnancies. they change as human beings, sometimes permanently and part of it is the lack of sleep during those early months. part of it is the constant daily, if not hourly or minutely care of a thing that simply cant survive without them. I tried to help the best i could. Took night shifts and played video games all night in between diaper changes and feeds, but after a couple of weeks, i had to go back to work and she has since been taking care of them for over half a decade. It's torture.

I dont think people should have kids if they cant afford to send them to day care 8 hours a day and have a nanny to help out the parents from 5-9. I have seen my rich friends who had that much help and they are still struggling simply because of the harmone changes. I have seen women who have help from their parents and still struggle, but I legitimately believe that grandmothers and even grandfathers are a massive help and should move in after a child is born to help out on a daily basis. Too many parents are trying to raise kids on their own, and its just not normal. Human beings have never raised their kids like this until recently. It was always communal.

Destiny came out like weeks after my first one was born, and we really struggled for the first few weeks despite the fact they he slept almost all the time. it wasnt until my mother in law came and took over did i get a chance to breathe and started feeling less like a prisoner again. I had playing Destiny all that time in between diaper changes and feeds, but having that extra person split the responsibility with you makes all the difference in the world.

That is very reasonable and rare nice view. I like the way you think !

 

[SlimySnake]

Listen to Patrice O'Neal. Specifically archived "Black Phillip" podcasts. By the end you'll know exactly why your wife doesn't like seeing you enjoy yourself.

Bill Burr had a great bit about how women just cant stand seeing us be happy because their brains are wired in a way that they cant enjoy dumb shit like games and sports. It drives them nuts that we are so basic and easily entertained.

So they have to ruin it. lmao.

 

[anthony2690]

You don't need to if your dick is good enough, they just stick around

Big dicks kill chicks I'm afraid.

 

[The Stig]

No.

She plays the poop out of slay the spire and other card games.

I play....... almost everything

 

[thegame983]

It's not the gaming they don't like. It's male happiness.

 

[AJUMP23]

My wife does not like it when I play video games. Although has no problems if I end up wasting time via TV shows etc. In truth I'm not even sure why it bothers her so much! She previously felt gaming was reserved for losers only however I have a very good job and earn double her monthly salary. Gaming is just so much more fun than watching some garbage on Netflix.

I had to have this conversation with my wife. She would get upset if I played a game but not if I watched TV. I had to ask her "what is the difference if I play a game or watch TV. If you want to do something together, just say so and we will." She had to analyze her own bias and was willing to change it. We do stuff together like watch TV shows when she wants to. She doesn't like to watch movies. I sometimes watch 90 day fiancé with her....because of how crazy the people are.

 

[JimboJones]

Only when I get Cheeto dust all over the sofa.

 

[haxan7]

Big time, but she's not my spouse. We were together on and off for almost 5 years. Me playing choosing to play a game over spending time with her was like the cardinal sin.

 

[Shifty1897]

It annoys my wife but she understands that it's part of who I am. Typically we make sure we have two or three activities planned to spend time together a week and any other free time during the evening is available for solo activities, like gaming for me and watching terrible shows on Netflix for her.

 

[RoadHazard]

 

[hollams]

My girlfriend is fine with my gaming habits, or at least she has to be in order to stay with me. She really, really, doesn't like Claptrap though.

I do have this as my Contact picture for her on my Phone.

 

[jshackles]

Marriage (or any committed relationship) is give and take.

Sometimes you gotta give them the good dick, so you can take time to play video games.

 

[spawn]

My wife tolerated it until we started having kids. She even played a bit of Kingdom Hearts herself. Once you have kids then all of your attention has to be on the kids and wife

 

[AJUMP23]

My wife tolerated it until we started having kids. She even played a bit of Kingdom Hearts herself. Once you have kids then all of your attention has to be on the kids and wife

I play games with my kids.

 

[spawn]

I play games with my kids.

That is cool, but my daughter is 4 right now and only likes games on the tablet

 

[Maiden Voyage]

My wife games more than me so no.

 

[Artoris]

I personally think your spouse should support any of your interests that aren't illegal or lead to you cheating. Do you support some things she is into that you don't care for? If the answer is yes, it should go both ways. If you play games with a bit more story vs say a team deathmatch, she might not mind watching you play occasionally.

That said, you will get a ton more traction if you could actually interest her in a game or 2, at least then she could understand better why you like it. Even a phone game can help bridge the gap.

You sound like some modern marriage counsellor

 

[Meave]

My ex-wife didn’t like it.

 

[Gamerguy84]

I've heard of a lot of relationships going bad with gaming being one of the reasons. We all know how you can get immersed and play for 6 hours while it feels like 2.

Like anything else you have to do it wisely but take care of the relationship.

 

[Fahdis]

My wife is a casual gamer. Is good with some games and I love that. Recently, we started playing Star Dew Valley. I don't play these sorts of games but she's amazing at it, so she's a champ and we're both having fun!

 

[Phunkydiabetic]

Marriage (or any committed relationship) is give and take.

Sometimes you gotta give them the good dick, sometimes you gotta take the good dick.

Whoa easy there buddy

 

[kiphalfton]

The key to being happy is avoiding needy/clingy girls who expect you to spend all your time with them. If a girl has issues with you watching porn, playing video games, etc. (i.e. shit most dudes enjoy) run for the hills. You will not be happy, unless you want to become a door mat.

 

[Dthomp]

Nope, she plays almost as much as I do. Watching her playing Tormented Souls as I type this

 

[THE DUCK]

You sound like some modern marriage counsellor

Maybe I missed my calling.

 

[smbu2000]

My wife games more than me so no.

Same here. My wife plays more games than I do.
She usually switches between her Switch and playing stuff on our XSX (gamepass).

 

[welshrat]

Nope she is a gamer. Been together 29 years. Married for 20. We are a gaming household. 3 gaming PCs, PS5, SeriesX, switch. Currently completing elden ring together. My 2 lads are full on gamers as well. Won't have it any other way.

 

[Justin9mm]

It depends on the game, she hates any game where you traverse on a horse for hours on end, e.g. RDR2 lol

She hates games that are not really a joy to watch, she likes to watch me play story first driven games like most Sony Exclusives. For some weird reason she loves Doom Eternal, she thinks it's the best game ever made and she's never actually played it herself lol. She doesn't really game but we did It Takes Two, Overcooked All You Can Eat, Unravel Two and Streets of Rage remake together. She only likes to play games where she can play with me and not against me.

 

[Kamina]

Have you asked her about it, OP?

 

[Varteras]

She did. I miss her sometimes.

 

[CuteFaceJay]

My girlfriend doesn't like games and has no desire to watch me play them. We don't live together at this point, and so I make an effort to spend time with her when she's over. But if I turned on a console/PC while she's sitting there, I'd be toast.

Well, I'm 0-for-2 then. Any other suggestions?

Your house your rules? it's gonna happen at some point so she can find something to do. She'll prolly just browse around on her phone for a few hours before getting bored.

 

[GreatnessRD]

It's not the gaming they don't like. It's male happiness.

My mans outchea giving free game. Here King, you dropped this.

 

[ozz ex machina]

It's not the gaming they don't like. It's male happiness.

Haha never a truer word spoken. If it's something they don't like or can't be involved in and you enjoy it. They will be jealous. My wife definitely resents the fact if we broke up I'd be able to enjoy my life fine with plenty of fun things to do and she would just be miserable. Women in general I find to be a lot more dependent on their partner as a source of entertainment/reason to exist.

 

[BlueHawk]

Yeah she dislikes it when using the Front Room TV so I ended up gaming more on my Phone, and when I can be bothered sometimes I game on the upstairs TV.

 

[casnix]

No, she realizes it’s a hobby of mine. She also plays games in her free time. I would never have married someone who didn’t like me doing things that I enjoy. As long as it’s not destructive, what’s the problem?? Sounds selfish.

 

[MonkeyClaw36]

Fucking hell Jesus Christ

My ex wife also did this. As soon as I was about to go to friends, she'd feel ill, or find someting to say that would ruin my time with friends.
Instead of enjoying it, I would feel uncomfortable....

Or she'd say "sure go play, have fun" in the afternoon and as soon as that Playstation beep went off in the evening.... There the cunt was, complaining and everything.
Amber Heard is a darling compared to her.

Another prime example: I got F1 2017 for my birthday. Even on my fucking birthday, it was too much to ask to play with my present!!
So I ended up selling it in front of her. It hurt me so much..

The times that I DID give her the finger and just went, she'd ask proof of where I was. I never gave her that and than it would be a storm of accusations. I was cheating etc, etc.
Turns out that she cheated on me 3 times all while accusing me and playing the victim and me not giving her enough attention.

Yeah, I left that toxic sack of shit with a bag of clothes, toothbrush, charger and the small bit of self esteem that was left over.

All her relationships since than ended up being complete psychos (they were a perfect match), stalkers etc.
She begged me to come back. Fuck that. And to top it off I told her if she had 1 more relationship about which my kids would complain to me, I'd contact child services.

She's now an insecure, lonely being and I came out stronger than I ever was.
I dont hate her anymore, I just pity the fool.

Oh how the tables have turned.

Gotta love Karma.

 

[OZ9000]

Wife yesterday after I played rocket league with some friends:

"I can't believe you and your buddies play football with cars. I have never seen anything more stupid. I didn't want to say anything at the time but oh my god that is simply bizarre. Football with cars?!"

Lmao

 

[OZ9000]

Women in general I find to be a lot more dependent on their partner as a source of entertainment/reason to exist.

This is so goddamn true.

 

[MonkeyClaw36]

Wife yesterday after I played rocket league with some friends:

"I can't believe you and your buddies play football with cars. I have never seen anything more stupid. I didn't want to say anything at the time but oh my god that is simply bizarre. Football with cars?!"

Lmao

You're laughing it off but deep down you know this is shitty behaviour.
You can do 2 things:

- Even the odds. Do the exact same thing she is doing to you, just to make a point, but this will lower you to her level.
- Leg it! Get out of that toxic atmosphere. Yes, it will be shit for a while. But it will only get better.

Eventually you will just accept the situation as it is. But no-one has to. Don't put yourself on the backburner.

 

[John Bilbo]

Wife yesterday after I played rocket league with some friends:

"I can't believe you and your buddies play football with cars. I have never seen anything more stupid. I didn't want to say anything at the time but oh my god that is simply bizarre. Football with cars?!"

Lmao

Yeah Rocket League with mates is stupid... Stupid fun that is!

Who cares if it is soccer with cars or bears with pogo sticks when you are having fun with your friends and taking a load off

 

[Alan Wake]

She doesn't understand why I play videogames but she respects my hobby and that the most important thing. I am careful not to let my hobby take presidence over our relationship or even one single evening when she's not working. I game for an hour or so and then we can watch a movie or do something else together for the rest of the evening. Compromises, compromises.

 

[ParaSeoul]

She doesn't understand why I play videogames but she respects my hobby and that the most important thing. I am careful not to let my hobby take presidence over our relationship or even one single evening when she's not working. I game for an hour or so and then we can watch a movie or do something else together for the rest of the evening. Compromises, compromises.

 

[OZ9000]

You're laughing it off but deep down you know this is shitty behaviour.
You can do 2 things:

- Even the odds. Do the exact same thing she is doing to you, just to make a point, but this will lower you to her level.
- Leg it! Get out of that toxic atmosphere. Yes, it will be shit for a while. But it will only get better.

Eventually you will just accept the situation as it is. But no-one has to. Don't put yourself on the backburner.

I did tell her I didn't care what she thought - it's damn good fun.

We get along well on all other aspects besides "gaming". Nothing worth losing a marriage over.

 

[DAHGAMING]

My missus dont mind, she dabbles in abot of Pokemon herself but not big into games but shes more than happy for me to bust out a game sesh, I dont get to game much anyway now days so its not like its all I do which I would think might be an issues.