Imagine just one drunken night of partying many years ago in your high school or early college days where there was nothing out of the ordinary to remember and suddenly a twitter accusation is saying you raped some girl who actually pushed herself on you. And in today's world, both parties being drunk still means the man is the rapist and everyone will automatically believe the woman no matter what you say. It's fucking ridiculous.
This is what I don't like. At all. It's such a huge double standard when women are allowed to be flirtatious, alluring, and in control of initiating anything sexual and making advances (in which case, the man is looked down upon for not accepting). But the moment a man attempts to flirt or try to get some attention, it's seen as creepy or he's a sexual predator. Apparently, when women do that shit, she's just an independent woman in control of her sexuality and having harmless fun. I can't tell you how many times I've witnessed or been a party to women just straight-up fondling or touching all over me or other dudes and trying to be sexy. Drunk
and sober. If I did that shit...I'd be cancelled on Twitter (or worse). I don't understand how both a man and woman being drunk and having sex equates to the man raping the woman. That's kinda misogynistic, to be honest...because in a way, it's implying that women are weaker physically and mentally/emotionally and that they are helpless victims around big, strong, vicious, scary men.
Bullshit. Damn near every woman I've gone on a date with or hung out with in the last decade+ has literally shown me the weapons they carry in their purses and in their bras. From knives and pepper spray, to tasers, to fucking loaded pistols. Women are adults and can handle themselves, they shouldn't be viewed as or treated as some frail construct of purity incapable of having poor judgment (especially while drunk). Also, what I would hope is the case majority of the time, two drunk/high people sometimes truly do just wanna have sex with each other and are lucid enough to understand/desire and consent to this. Women are anything but frail or weak, they birth humans...I mean, come on. Even beyond that, there are TONS of women in the world who can whoop my ass.
Probably not making sense and went off on a tangent but hey, I just don't dig men being at fault by default when two adults have sex while drunk and the woman later regrets her decision. That being said, obviously every situation is not so cut and dry or black and white (that term would probably get me banned from ResetEra). If consent is supposedly impossible to give while under the influence...how are
any of the choices we make while drunk safe? If you are drunk in New Orleans and you go stop by a gift shop and buy a $100 pewter statue of a rotting penis covered in thorns and oatmeal, are you telling me that person truly didn't give consent to have their credit card charged? And they should be entitled to a refund but also be allowed to keep the item they purchased? If being drunk means you're unable to consent to sex, it should also mean you're unable to consent to anything. I'm sure someone can explain the logic to me but I didn't get much sleep last night so my head is hazy and I'm certain my ignorant arguments are suffering because of it. It just doesn't make sense to me that people (mostly women) can't agree to have sex while drunk but they certainly can agree to anything else while drunk.