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[Fornaximus]

I'm so glad that the internet was barely a thing during my awkward, desperate teenage years.

 

[Pagusas]

doesnt have to be either, the reason i asked is because what if someone like brad pitt had behaved the same way op did, would the girl still have been creeped out. whether people want to ignore it or not looks make a HUGE difference

Sure they do, ugly people will always have a harder time, most of us are wired that way, its natural to not want to date an ugly person. It doesn't matter though, wether she didn't like the op because he was ugly, a nerd, annoying, skinny, fat, smelled, or just had a creepy personality, it doesn't matter. She can dislike him for whatever reason she pleases, and there is nothing wrong with that.

 

[MilkBeard]

As usual, the Brad Pitt rule applies:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V0hlpctj0qs

Wow that's perfect. Should be posted in all of these threads, ha ha.

 

[Winterfang]

So I wonder, should a person never confess their love to someone else?

 

[RM8]

So I wonder, should a person never confess their love to someone else?

Let's say it's a particularly bad idea when it's so clear the other person doesn't care one bit. A love confession is not going to change a "uh, this guy is annoying" to a "oh well, I think I might try to love him back!".

 

[Citizen_Insane]

Haha, I wasn’t even that angry. It’s just a way of me to tell her that she should behave herself, even if it’s not for me. I am not in such a position though.

This thread is ridiculous, but I just wanna chime in and say this is the creepiest thing about it. Like what the hell.

Stop being a creep OP and start realizing women, or other people for that matter, are not entitled to like you or even talk to you if they don't want to. You'll be a lot better off.

 

[Chettlar]

So I wonder, should a person never confess their love to someone else?

Not up front, no. Never. Later on, when the feeling is mutual and the two of you have been with each other for a while, sure.

The important thing is to not sound needy (or be needy, but sound needy is more important I think since one may be perfectly secure himself and accidentally come off wrong. A person who is actually needy and insecure is pretty much going to always come off that way no matter what.).

 

[enzo_gt]

OP sounds like he's been in the friend zone for months.

 

[Arrogant Bastard]

So I wonder, should a person never confess their love to someone else?

Confessing your love for someone that has been blatantly giving you the 'not interested' vibe? Yah probably not the best idea.

 

[RM8]

Plus "confessing love" is dumb by itself. You don't love someone you're not even in a relationship with. OP doesn't love Denko... er, that girl.

 

[Necromanti]

Confessing your love for someone that has been blatantly giving you the 'not interested' vibe? Yah probably not the best idea.

Maybe she was being tsundere the whole time. It just took that one confession for her to accept her own feelings.

 

[Jinfash]

The whole "seen" mechanic is an amazing way to gauge just how insecure and needy someone is. Read it, mark it as seen, don't immediately respond.

WHY ARE YOU DOING THIS TO ME, DON'T YOU RESPECT ME? I HOPE YOU REALIZE THIS BEHAVIOR IS UNACCEPTABLE

Texting will probably result in the destruction of human civilization.

Evi-chan, you sound so tense.

*Pounces on you and gropes you butt* :33 lol just kidding.

*Hugs you accidentally touches your chest*

I bet you have a boyfriend :33 what's his name? ^w^

*Touches your hand* my heart is beating so fast.

...

Please respond.

 

[EmptySpace]

Let's say it's a particularly bad idea when it's so clear the other person doesn't care one bit. A love confession is not going to change a "uh, this guy is annoying" to a "oh well, I think I might try to love him back!".

but korean dramas told me otherwise....


p.s. lol at the title change.

 

[Delta Assault]

...and theeeeere's the title change.

 

[StalkerUKCG]

The only thing worse than being friendzoned is when the person can't tell he has been friendzoned

 

[Winterfang]

Let's say it's a particularly bad idea when it's so clear the other person doesn't care one bit. A love confession is not going to change a "uh, this guy is annoying" to a "oh well, I think I might try to love him back!".

Not up front, no. Never. Later on, when the feeling is mutual and the two of you have been with each other for a while, sure.

The important thing is to not sound needy (or be needy, but sound needy is more important I think since one may be perfectly secure himself and accidentally come off wrong. A person who is actually needy and insecure is pretty much going to always come off that way no matter what.).

Confessing your love for someone that has been blatantly giving you the 'not interested' vibe? Yah probably not the best idea.

I see, I was asking because a long time ago, a random girl which I didn't knew existed confessed to me out of the blue. She put me in a tough spot and I felt really bad to turn her down. Of course after that I notice her and we became friends. Years after that where started dating and became a couple for a time, so if she would never done it, I still probably wouldn't know who she was.

Though I guess this was a super rare occurrence.

 

[Magwik]

:lol at the title change

 

[Wind's Howling]

The whole "seen" mechanic is an amazing way to gauge just how insecure and needy someone is. Read it, mark it as seen, don't immediately respond.

WHY ARE YOU DOING THIS TO ME, DON'T YOU RESPECT ME? I HOPE YOU REALIZE THIS BEHAVIOR IS UNACCEPTABLE

Texting will probably result in the destruction of human civilization.

One of the reasons why I turned off the "last seen" status. The frustrated messages I had in the past because of that, phew.

Some people have such a low self esteem that not replying from the get-go makes them sink into a black hole.

 

[themagicalkitsune]

Title change lacks emoticon, meh/10.

 

[CarpeDeezNutz]

Lmao dat title change!

 

[doctorcdcs]

still on the fence about the title change. not sure if i like it to be honest.

 

[Brazil]

Oh god now that brings back memories

OP, read all of this: http://vgperson.tumblr.com/post/21533650696/help-the-girl-i-like-wont-respond-to-my-emails

OP, you are not that guy. Not yet. But you could be. The behavior you've shown is in the ballpark, you just didn't cross the line into stalker territory. Take a long step back and look at your attitudes and your life

I've been reading this.

I just reached the part where the guy says

Spoiler

he's starting to like Denko's friend.

#2ch
What?










What?

Sums it up pretty well.

Edit: Yeah, well, the entire thing is clearly fiction.

 

[umop_3pisdn]

I think I feel worse for her than I do you all things considered, since she had to deal with that.

 

[EmptySpace]

OP sounds like he's been in the friend zone for months.

i don't think they were even friends. more like, "that guy from work who i have lunch with once a week."

 

[freenudemacusers]

i tried this line on my wife and she shut down the excavation site for a couple days

 

[MannyToons]

Oh god now that brings back memories

OP, read all of this: http://vgperson.tumblr.com/post/21533650696/help-the-girl-i-like-wont-respond-to-my-emails

OP, you are not that guy. Not yet. But you could be. The behavior you've shown is in the ballpark, you just didn't cross the line into stalker territory. Take a long step back and look at your attitudes and your life

Oh my (´･ω･`)

 

[Winterfang]

I'm not feeling the title change. OP had being pretty calm, heck even absent to most lf the discussion which pretty most consisted of GAF shaming him and comparing him go all sort of creeps.

 

[Satch]

the fact that so many people were mad at that shuri posts speaks volumes rofl

 

[Chettlar]

I'm not feeling the title change. OP had being pretty calm, heck even absent to most lf the discussion which pretty most consisted of GAF shaming him and comparing him go all sort of creeps.

Same. There's actually a human being on the other end.

I'm just going to assume on behalf of the OP and say that the gifs and things aren't helping. I mean, he did come here for help.

Title change seems a little bit unnecessary, just saying.

 

[Arrogant Bastard]

I see, I was asking because a long time ago, a random girl which I didn't knew existed confessed to me out of the blue. She put me in a tough spot and I felt really bad to turn her down. Of course after that I notice her and we became friends. Years after that where started dating and became a couple for a time, so if she would never done it, I still probably wouldn't know who she was.

Though I guess this was a super rare occurrence.

Of course. There will always be those rare occasions that it works out. Regardless, it is going to come across as really fucking awkward. I mean think about it, this person just confessed that they 'love' you. How can they possibly 'love' you, they do not really even know you.

Too many people mistake infatuation, lust, and loneliness for 'love'.

 

[Kinyou]

i tried this line on my wife and she shut down the excavation site for a couple days

Just make her believe that you died in a car crash and then surprise her during your fake funeral. Women love that!

 

[Chettlar]

Of course. There will always be those rare occasions that it works out. Regardless, it is going to come across as really fucking awkward. I mean think about it, this person just confessed that they 'love' you. How can they possibly 'love' you, they do not really even know you.

Too many people mistake infatuation, lust, and loneliness for 'love'.

A lot of people in this thread need to look up limerence as well. It's a bit worse than just infatuation.

 

[plasmawave]

I don't mean to be a jerk, but is this for real?

 

[dalVlatko]

That was a great thread on Misc

 

[Chettlar]

I don't mean to be a jerk, but is this for real?

Sadly yes. It happens quite often, actually.

It's not always the way people think things are. Some people are legitimately nice, smart people but simply have no idea how to really interact with others. It gets even worse when a person starts liking a member of the opposite sex after never having done so before.

Just kind of a sad fact of life. People who've never gone through it have no idea what it's like.

 

[way more]

I like how women are forced into the position of either being accused of toying with men and playing them along for trying to have basic social consideration, or, they have to be straight up rude and dismissive and be accused of being a jerk.

 

[Replicant]

At the same time, I started to text (Whatsapp) her more but she’s not that responsive.

This was the point when you should have stopped.

When someone responded less enthusiastically to you it's a sign that your interest is one-sided. This applies not only to potential love-interest but also potential friendship.

 

[Atramental]

OP sounds like he's been in the friend zone for months.

The friend zone was never reached.

He went from "work acquaintance-zone" straight to "I'm going to file a restraining order on your ass-zone".

 

[Chettlar]

I like how women are forced into the position of either being accused of toying with men and playing them along for trying to have basic social consideration, or, they have to be straight up rude and dismissive and be accused of being a jerk.

I think the situation's pretty shitty for both sexes. One person has to be the "bad guy" and the other person has to deal with getting rejected, which can really hurt, especially if you're a pretty nice guy who just has sucky friends.

I wish there was another way it could work.

 

[Kinyou]

That was a great thread on Misc

Wait... It worked?

I guess that guy is Brad Pitt

 

[Chinner]

are you a terrorist?

because you just made my heart explode

 

[Derwind]

I like how women are forced into the position of either being accused of toying with men and playing them along for trying to have basic social consideration, or, they have to be straight up rude and dismissive and be accused of being a jerk.

Standards. They've doubled!

 

[Chettlar]

Wait... It worked?

I guess that guy is Brad Pitt

I don't think it worked lol. This likely isn't the first conversation between the two of them. Not by a long shot.

Standards. They've doubled!

He's right, though. Women always have to be the "bad guy."

That's not to say guys can't and don't have it tough.

 

[MartyStu]

the fact that so many people were mad at that shuri posts speaks volumes rofl

Yeah it really does.

I have been in similar shoes as the OP before, I wished I'd received advice half as sane.

 

[Chinner]

http://youtu.be/6laGvKtPZYQ

video includes nice guy

 

[plasmawave]

Wait... It worked?

I guess that guy is Brad Pitt

I need to take notes now.

 

[Professor Lich]

Wait... It worked?

I guess that guy is Brad Pitt

Or James Franco, he's pretty thirsty.

 

[patjburns89]

Are we really using friendzone here unironically?

 

[kingkitty]

Denko is inside all of us (´・ω・`)

 

[ItIsOkBro]

That was a great thread on Misc

Wait what