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I'm sick of all the waiting...pls respond..I confessed to u...unacceptable behavior..
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not even a troll post. office shit is just like high school.
Yes I have. The office environment is very vitriolic.
That being said, there's no need for comments like those. The guy's a creep, and he should acknowledge it before it gets out of hand before shit like that happens.
I, in my right mind, wouldn't tell him like that because the office environment is very YMMV.
I agree with everything in that blurb. Just not that one. As well as the harassment thing, but then again I'm going with the intention that the OP knows better than to escalate this shit.
Like high school, your experience may vary.
Lactose_Intolerant
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and if you ever run out of pens, you can start using letters cut out of magazines and newspapers
Incandenza
Banned
If you're calculating text/reply ratios, you need to take a step back.
Charles Foster Kane
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Oh boy. lol
* taken to court for harassment
*prepare for restraining order
late to the party
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It's something for me to learn. I understand a lot but practically realized little...
the hell? shuri's response is the most accurate, realistic, and helpful post in this thread
guys do not understand how women see this kind of stuff
That's putting it lightly.
Ninja Scooter
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I've seen 5 and 6 on Shuri's list happen at my office first hand.
Madrugador
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This is a terrible post and you should feel bad.
Thats too obvious. Hack on to her desktop and leave the messages there. Also add the obligatory flowers and gift card to your next dinner date next to the desktop.
Kano on the Phone
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Telling her she should behave herself? What the hell is won't with you? I'm being serious. Listen to yourself.
Don't listen to that guy, he probably bites chicks' elbows to seduce them.
You should probably keep it up. It's like the stories old married couples tell where the woman is reminiscing on how much of a loser her husband was and how disinterested she had been but he just kept on trying and eventually she fell for him. That's you Op! She loves you. She just doesn't know it yet. It's up to you to step your game up. Redouble your efforts. Hand deliver her flowers to her home. Arrange "random" meetings at places like the supermarket when she's shopping. Go from 3 txts a day to 6. You'll be telling your grandkids the story of how you guys met in no time.
It's entirely accurate.
Charles Foster Kane
Rosebud
Op, you needed to take the hint. Sometimes things don't need to be said.
Fuck that. No need to shift the blame on the other person like they're the ones who made this difficult.
OP got problems.
freenudemacusers
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yeah uh, i'm not sure what is objectionable about this:
all of these seem completely on point
seriously dudes, are you reading this? I wanna see screengrabs of these texts.
Spider from Mars
tap that thorax
Shuri is spittin truth, except for the get in trouble for harassment part. You will probably be seen as the office creep for a bit.
triplestation
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After the rejection if u ever meet her again just stare and nod
dark_prinny
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That´s exactly what my point is.
Horse Detective
Why the long case?
give them to one of her friends/coworkers.
we just saw in an other thread, that this works.
lmao this guy
i want to thank you and people like you for making average guys like me look way better by comparison
Ninja Scooter
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sabermetrics are everywhere. It lets you track your WAB (Wins Above Beta).
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late to the party
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I actually have asked her twice if she had felt annoyed but she told me she liked my messages...
She's either an attention whore or too scared to tell you you're creepy.
PhoenixDark
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Long story short: It’s one-sided romance. I texted her but haven’t got any reply (Seen ✓✓. I know I am done and just to vent.
Not sure if this is the right place. Anyway It’s my first thread here and, I just want to vent…
I met this girl about six months ago at my workplace (we are not in the same office though), and we started to do lunch together about once a week or two. When I asked her for lunch (I kept asking her once a week), she always replied yes and even if it’s no she would come up a reason. Every time, I brought her to a new restaurant and we did have some very nice conversations (at least to me). At the same time, I started to text (Whatsapp) her more but she’s not that responsive. I thought it’s ok because I could not expect people to reply to my every single message and sometimes I just wanted to share with her and she may not relate. Still, I always tried to bring up something fresh and relevant and encourage her to voice out her thoughts more, although she rarely did.
From February, she started to become evasive about my lunch proposals but I still managed to get her out with me. And we still had pleasant conversations when we met. I kept texting her every day (just about 3-4 messages) and tried to not to be annoying, and that’s when I noticed she became even less responsive (from to a 1/3 reply rate to a 1/6 reply rate). I got the sense that she’s losing interest in me while I had become more infatuated than ever with her. That’s why and when I started to become desperate…
There were many times (during our lunch times) I asked her out for movies/walk in park/dinner and she always said yes. She even proposed some movies and suggested a place for us to go. But when I make a proper invitation the very next day, she just acted evasive. At first, she declined with reasons, and then she just didn’t reply at all.
I kept texting her (with things may interest her and we have in common) but she was just ignoring my messages almost entirely. I also kept asking her for lunch (and trying my best to not be bothersome) but she always rejected me at the last minute, again with reasons (about friends/work/etc.).
I knew this could not be kept long so I stopped contacting her earlier this month. Then, only three days later, I happened to see her at the workplace so I again asked her for lunch for the week before Easter… She said yes but didn’t live up to it. Since I knew she’s busy for that week so I didn’t quite mind and instead asked her out for the Easter (via Whatsapp):
Me: It’s a long holiday; maybe we can find a day free and go out somewhere.
She: where
Me: (A lot of suggestions but I pointed out what I liked the most)
She: which one
Me: (replied in detail)
She didn’t reply since. I texted her that I didn’t like that and asked her to reject me if she wanted and just not to ignore my invitations because I was sick of all the waiting…
So a few hours ago I sent her my last message. Instead of telling her I was hopelessly in love with her, I just told her that “pursuing someone desperately will creep them out… It’s better to make mistakes and then learn from them…” It’s a short message. Not sure if it means anything or not but I guess it’s my last.
OK. Time to let go now. It’s hard though…
Sorry I didn’t realize it would be this long... as I just wanted to vent.
Share if you have any thoughts/experiences.
Can I be real? Because that's the only way I believe you'll learn from this situation.
1. Stop simping. You have tried to take this person out multiple times, and sometimes succeeded, when it was obvious she wasn't into you. You're spending time and money to entertain someone who doesn't like you. Don't ever do this again, it's a sign of weakness.
2. Take a damn hint. If you're sending someone lengthy texts and they respond with 1-4 word responses, chances are they're either not into you or talking to someone else.
3. She doesn't owe you. She is not legally required to respond to you, or reward your kindness with a date, a kiss, etc. She clearly viewed you as a friend or acquaintance, but you overstayed your welcome by being pushy. She clearly wasn't sending signals that she liked you, therefore don't act like she "led you on."
4. Walk away. There was no need to send that passive aggressive text, all it does is make you look like even more of a sucker. Again, I'm being hard because this is important to understand. Dust yourself off and never talk to her again, unless she initiates the conversation.
I guarantee you she told coworkers about all this btw, and they laughed. You should have taken the hint ages ago and moved on, or waited for her to initiate things (ie her asking you if you wanted to go to lunch). You lost. But you can dust yourself off and be better prepared in the future, IF you learn from this mistake.
Your Entertainer
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This is 100% accurate.
That was cringeworthy, OP. Legitimately hard to read.
And quit acting like "Oh I understand now" etc. No, you don't. It's clear from your interactions that you have serious social deficiencies and you are a long way off from correcting them. It's a process.
mingoguaya
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I've always wondered (mainly to female-GAF but if anyone has the answer I wont mind) what makes a girl lose so suddenly interest in you? Lets say, for example, you've been interacting with a girl via text message and things have been going pretty good. All of a sudden, everything changes and she seems distant, etc, BUT interactions never changed between what was working before and after. What gives? I've always had that curiosity, and never have I gotten a clear response by a female as to why it happens....
The Technomancer
card-carrying scientician
Its interesting seeing the reactions to Shuri's post break up into "spot on" and "entirely wrong"
I'm in the spot on camp for most of them, although I doubt this would go as far as an actual harassment charge.
I'm in the spot on camp for most of them, although I doubt this would go as far as an actual harassment charge.
rofl
Sometimes in life, people aren't gonna keep it real with you. They'll smile, nod, and once they get around the corner they'll drop the facade and quickly tell anyone who'll listen how fucked up their last experience was. People have no obligation to tell you the truth about stuff like that - especially when there's no reason for them to be confrontational either.
OP sorry bro, your text are already up on her twitter feed. Game over...
freenudemacusers
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i wanna see the texts op
gimme them shits
gimme them shits
not a chick but if you sit around waiting or being passive and not moving things in a particular direction i wouldn't blame someone for losing interest. "text interaction never changing" is probably the problem.
uhm... 5 is actually possible. I mean, I would want "help"/opinion on what to do or how to deal with a guy I'm not interested in who texts me everyday. Of course, she may have not done that, but let's not push away the possibility that she spread it around the office, mmkay?
Amory
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He contacted her too much but it's not like he was stalking her. OP said he knows he went about this the wrong way, there's no need to kick him when he's down.
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