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I'm sick of all the waiting...pls respond..I confessed to u...unacceptable behavior..

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You tried OP and she wasn't interested. At least you will learn from this experience. Next time if they are not as interested in you as you are in them then don't over text. Well it's good not to over text in general as you will seem desperate. Don't listen to anyone who said you were harassing her. She could of said I don't want you to text me anymore if she really found it annoying but she didn't. In the end at least you tried.
 
You need to use this event in your life as a major lesson - know when to stop.
Either be more aggressive right at the start of your lust and don't pull the bullshit of watching from afar and trying to warm up to her... or just forget her forever. You not giving a shit about her and going cold turkey is a million times more attractive than what you just pulled.
 
CarpeDeezNutz said:
Take the loss
Greatest of all time
Want someone really bad
Getting burned
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HateGames said:
1. loss
2. greatest of all time
3. horny
4. burn
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Sweet, I guessed correctly all of those. But I'm glad I'm all caught up..

shuri said:
  1. You creeped her out a long time ago.
  2. She was just being polite by saying yes and then cancelling/avoiding. It's a passive way to avoid confrontations.
  3. She is probably scared of you
  4. You confessed feelings for a woman without having much interaction with her at all. What the fuck?
  5. You probably are the laughing stock at the office and she has probably made aware all the other females about how creepy you are with her
  6. Don't be surprised if you get into MASSIVE TROUBLE at work over this for Harassment.
  7. Real life is not an anime or a dating sim, stop quantifying your interactions with her.
  8. Leave her alone, god damnit.
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For wanting to date someone?
 
I read the OP again and here's some advice and facts.

- She's not that into you and never was.

- Even 1 message per day on constant basis is too much unless you're actually going out 'officially'.

- 3 to 4 messages daily is creepy territory

- Trying to 'win someone over' is delusional activity. Everything has to start with some level of mutual attraction, always, and needing too much work means it's never going to work.

- 'Persistence' like that wastes everyone's time. You could've used that time to hang out with someone who actually likes you.
 
shuri said:
  1. You creeped her out a long time ago.
  2. She was just being polite by saying yes and then cancelling/avoiding. It's a passive way to avoid confrontations.
  3. She is probably scared of you
  4. You confessed feelings for a woman without having much interaction with her at all. What the fuck?
  5. You probably are the laughing stock at the office and she has probably made aware all the other females about how creepy you are with her
  6. Don't be surprised if you get into MASSIVE TROUBLE at work over this for Harassment.
  7. Real life is not an anime or a dating sim, stop quantifying your interactions with her.
  8. Leave her alone, god damnit.
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Real nice. How about you calm the hell down?
 
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shuri said:
  1. You creeped her out a long time ago.
  2. She was just being polite by saying yes and then cancelling/avoiding. It's a passive way to avoid confrontations.
  3. She is probably scared of you
  4. You confessed feelings for a woman without having much interaction with her at all. What the fuck?
  5. You probably are the laughing stock at the office and she has probably made aware all the other females about how creepy you are with her
  6. Don't be surprised if you get into MASSIVE TROUBLE at work over this for Harassment.
  7. Real life is not an anime or a dating sim, stop quantifying your interactions with her.
  8. Leave her alone, god damnit.
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This is worse than what the OP did.
 
late to the party said:
From February, she started to become evasive about my lunch proposals
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And from February you should have sort of gotten the hint and you could have avoided the next few paragraphs of cringeworthy heartache.

Dudes need to develop a better sense of awareness. It's usually so crystal clear when a girl is not that into you, or not into the idea of being in a relationship with you. If you are the one initiating all of the conversations and texts, even if she's being nice and responsive, that should tell you something.

You then proceeded to go off the deep end and by now she's probably creeped out by you.



User33 said:
I don't understand why people think "m'lady" is funny. Stereotypes are only funny if there's some truth to them, and I have literally never heard somebody say "m'lady" in real life.
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I think it's a play on how a lot of the guys being lampooned think they are so classy and chivalrous when in reality they can be passive-aggressive assholes.
 
Rayis said:
Your first mistake was texting someone you see a few times a week everyday, you came across as hopelessly needy and that just drives most people away.
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No, I don't see her that often, actually we may not even meet at all if I don't do it intentionally. Then, maybe it's a good thing for me now.
and yes, I have been so needy and that's a lesson for me now.
 
That OP was so cringe worthy to read. All you had to do was see the signs all over the place that she wasn't interested on you and you could have avoided all of that.
 
Wtf, why are ppl bagging on shruri? Every single point is bang on, op needs to read it and acknowledge that his behavior is creepy and will not land him a girl or a meaningful relationship.
 
shuri said:
  1. You creeped her out a long time ago.
  2. She was just being polite by saying yes and then cancelling/avoiding. It's a passive way to avoid confrontations.
  3. She is probably scared of you
  4. You confessed feelings for a woman without having much interaction with her at all. What the fuck?
  5. You probably are the laughing stock at the office and she has probably made aware all the other females about how creepy you are with her
  6. Don't be surprised if you get into MASSIVE TROUBLE at work over this for Harassment.
  7. Real life is not an anime or a dating sim, stop quantifying your interactions with her.
  8. Leave her alone, god damnit.
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I don't know the OP or girl from Adam, but I feel these are a bit extreme. I'd definitely move on though, she is clearly not interested. If you see her again, smile and say "hello" but nothing more than that.
 
Does anyone have that conversation where the guy pounces on the girl and uses anime emoticons and she just reponds straight to all of them?
 
Go to her house at 5 in the morning and wait politely until she exits

Then ask her

"I didn't get a reply to the text I sent you is your phone alright"?
 
OP the one sign you needed to know never came from any rejection or evasion of hers. Its that your entire post was about you making plans.... just you buddy...

Keep that in mind.
 
shuri said:
  1. You creeped her out a long time ago.
  2. She was just being polite by saying yes and then cancelling/avoiding. It's a passive way to avoid confrontations.
  3. She is probably scared of you
  4. You confessed feelings for a woman without having much interaction with her at all. What the fuck?
  5. You probably are the laughing stock at the office and she has probably made aware all the other females about how creepy you are with her
  6. Don't be surprised if you get into MASSIVE TROUBLE at work over this for Harassment.
  7. Real life is not an anime or a dating sim, stop quantifying your interactions with her.
  8. Leave her alone, god damnit.
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yeah, pretty much this..

OP that was way, way to much.
 
late to the party said:
So a few hours ago I sent her my last message. Instead of telling her I was hopelessly in love with her, I just told her that “pursuing someone desperately will creep them out… It’s better to make mistakes and then learn from them…” It’s a short message. Not sure if it means anything or not but I guess it’s my last.
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Silky said:
Yep. Troll post. If you'd remove 5 I'd probably take this seriously, because it's obvious you're not taking the discussion seriously.
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Have you ever worked in an office setting? This kind of stuff spreads like wildfire between employees because people are bored on the daily routine. Office Workers tend to -love- that kind of drama.
 
OP, there's one thing that I can't wrap my head around: did you ever EXPLICITLY ask this girl out on an actual date?

How many times were you planning to take her to lunch/the movies/etc before you stated your actual intentions? Did you think that the clouds would part, light would shine down, and she would just understand that she was your girlfriend now?

It seems like she just considered you a work friend whom she could have a nice conversation with over lunch, and she gradually came to resent the fact that you were obviously, but not openly, pursuing her. Had you simply come out and said so early on you could have saved the two of you a lot of grief.
 
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