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Ever miss people that aren’t in your life anymore?

Been thinking about this and there’s people that no longer are in my life because of different reasons, mostly friends. Some friends weren’t good friends so I chose to leave the friendship, or some just took different paths and we grew apart.

I have never regretted any decision of leaving a bad friend. But I do miss some of my old friends, that I sometimes wonder if we could be friends now when we are older.

Had a very good and close friend, would say a best friend, that I lost not that long ago, we lost contact. He’s the one that showed me my first game and we have played soo many together. We knew each other for many years and it’s a weird feeling not having contact with someone you known for so long. I do wonder if we ever will have contact again and if we then can be as good friends as before or will the relationship change.

Had another friend I lost contact with but now we actually have contact, after a year of not talking. We both needed time to grow and now we have a different friendship and a better one I would say.

Have some old friends I just wonder how they are today.

Of course it’s a normal part of life to have friends that stay in your life and some don’t. Just something I have been thinking of lately :messenger_smiling_with_eyes:

Do you ever miss people (friends, parters) that no longer are a part of your life?

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Quasicat

Member
Grew apart from a friend of mine in high school. We stayed close until I moved away to complete my Master’s degree. A few years ago, before Covid, I spoke with several people eventually connecting with his mother to get his number, as neither one of us are on FaceBook. She gave me his number, told me where he lives, and even told me what he’s doing. I messaged him a couple of times, but there was literally no response.
 

Sidney Prescott

Gold Member
Of course. You have to accept that people move on though and so do their goals. There's a lot of people I haven't seen since I left School/College. They moved somewhere else or went to University etc. As Ferris Bueller said:

 

Coolwhhip

Neophyte
Grew apart from a friend of mine in high school. We stayed close until I moved away to complete my Master’s degree. A few years ago, before Covid, I spoke with several people eventually connecting with his mother to get his number, as neither one of us are on FaceBook. She gave me his number, told me where he lives, and even told me what he’s doing. I messaged him a couple of times, but there was literally no response.

Sounds like he chose to grow apart back then. I had to ignore an old friend for a while to finally get rid of him too.
 
Grew apart from a friend of mine in high school. We stayed close until I moved away to complete my Master’s degree. A few years ago, before Covid, I spoke with several people eventually connecting with his mother to get his number, as neither one of us are on FaceBook. She gave me his number, told me where he lives, and even told me what he’s doing. I messaged him a couple of times, but there was literally no response.
So sweet of you to try getting in touch again, just too bad he didn’t answer. But you gave it a try and you should be proud of that!
 
Many times in life, you find that your friends ultimately betray you due to some situation, so circumstances occur over time, if I miss some dear people, but if they take a different path, it is not your fault.

Life opens your eyes in most cases.
Yep, betrayal hurts like hell, but you learn from it. I agree in time you meet others and you get a different perspective
 

John Bilbo

Member
Sometimes I remember something cute or funny someone who is not in my life anymore did and I might chuckle a bit and smile. I guess it's a bit bittersweet in some sense. I still value those moments though.
 
Sometimes I remember something cute or funny someone who is not in my life anymore did and I might chuckle a bit and smile. I guess it's a bit bittersweet in some sense. I still value those moments though.
Exactly what I do and what made me think of this more and then write the thread. Some people have nice memories connected to them that I will always cherish.
 
Never felt I lost them, simply they had changed direction.

Still; I feel a great sorrow for their leaving.

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It’s a nice way to see it. But I feel like some of them I lost, especially one. But I have the memories left and I guess it’s part of life. And that song..thank you
 
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StreetsofBeige

Gold Member
Some decently hot chicks from high school which I was part of the pack of guys and gals who hung out at school (not outside friends, but in class friends). When we all went to university, we never spoke to each other again (no internet at the time and I lost their phone numbers).

When the internet came about, FB, Linkedin etc.... A ton of people in high school all linked up. Even people you didn't really know as there's always those couple of people that added everyone when FB got popular. Which is good because then you see their list and add people yourself.

None of them showed up on any friend's lists. Doing google searches turn up nothing. Linkedin/FB turned up nothing. I even messaged various people on FB if they ever heard from them (even one guy who went out with one of them). All of them had zero info what happened to them.

Who knows. Maybe they died.
 

OneBigPuss

Member
Yeah. Some because of my mistakes, other because of theirs. Its normal and you can always think about some great times together (before dementia or amnesia will take hold). Im at my limit anyway so its nice to think about the past.
 

carlosrox

Banned
I miss the sex, yep.

And sure I miss some friends too.


Some people I haven't seen in a long time that are sort of lapsed friends I feel like I could potentially reunite with. It just takes a message or phone call really.

It ain't over til it's over. I've gotten back together with exes and friends before a few times before, but I'm pretty good with friendships. Reconnecting isn't very hard for me.
 
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Northeastmonk

Gold Member
I reunited with some childhood friends that I haven’t spoken to since the late 90’s. That felt good. I don’t miss anyone I went to high school with. I did hang out with a lot of people back then. We spent everyday together and we experienced a lot with one another. There was such a longing to move on that speaking to each other now is weird. I haven’t exactly had a lot of adult friends except coworkers and college students. I am kinda glad life moved on.

I miss the experiences I had. The long summer nights, falling for a girl, and etc. I don’t think I miss the people as much as the experience. We all sorta got along because we wanted to be social and have fun. None of it really mattered in the end. My childhood friends are more interesting to me because we grew up on the same block together. As we get older we see past the limitations of our youth and we seek independence. The people from my past felt like they were only there for a period of time. We all had a life to live and none of it had a strong foundation in order to continue a friendship.
 

StreetsofBeige

Gold Member
I kinda miss being around people in general these days. I haven't seen any of my cousins since the pandemic began.
Our fam was mostly on isolation mode for about 12 months of it. Were back now to family dinners for the past few months.

When our office opens up again (it will at some point), I'm going to request going to the office 2-3 times a week even if they say its ok to stay home. I like going out to lunch with people and working with people in person.

This whole covid thing has only been 18 months and I've had enough long time ago.

Kudos to WFH people who can do this for 20 years.
 

jufonuk

not tag worthy
An old friend grew apart deliberately from me. I Tried to find out why. In the end I couldn’t be assed to try an reconcile. Apparently he does this to other people as well. According to one of his older friends.
But no I don’t miss them now.
More like why me ?!? Kind of thing.
 

Dark Star

Member
I used to jam with a guy, he played drums, we started a band. We hung out a lot for a couple years then I went to college and he went to a different city to pursue whatever. I haven't spoken to him in years now and honestly haven't felt the urge to reach out. He was sometimes really rude/mean, so I'm glad he's not in my life anymore. People change and move on and sometimes they aren't worth reconnecting with. Likewise, plenty of friends have left me in the dust to pursue their own goals, and that's fine.

It sucks when people move away for different reasons, though, and you can't really help them or do anything. Then eventually you come to the conclusion that it would be very awkward to see them again after so long, so you just let things be. I rarely reach out to people in general, so I don't worry about people I knew 5+ years ago.

Social media kind of helps me keep in touch with friends from highschool or whatever, but social media DM's and liking someone's new profile picture once a year isn't a substitute for actually hanging and being "friends" with someone IRL.
 
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nush

Member
I've lost friends years ago simply because they lost their phone and didn't keep a backup of the numbers anywhere so they could let people know the new number. One day the phone is just out of service and that's it, person gone. Most other people were friends at work who lose interest in being friends when you no longer work at the same company, friends of convenience.
 

DGrayson

Mod Team and Bat Team
Staff Member
Ya for sure. besides my parents (RIP) I miss one of my best friends. We became best friends in high school and we were roommates in college as well for a couple of years. I was in his wedding etc. I moved far away and I probably didnt keep in touch like I should but he ghosted me pretty hard as well.

Hard to say who was right and who was wrong in this situation but this wasnt just a good friend this was like my brother.

I wish him nothing but the best just wish we could hang out and chat like we used to.
 
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Shelbutt

Member
All the time tbh. Life has a funny way of bringing people back to you tho. My best friend in high school (who I only knew for 6months but she had made such a massive impact on me I never forgot her) moved away during the summer break and this was riiight when myspace was getting big so I didn't have a way to contact her. For the next 11 years I thought about her off and on. Searched for her on FB for those years...then one day last year when I needed a good friend, I was scrolling FB and randomly on those "people you may know" things...there she was . I had forgotten her last name and barely remembered her first name, and it hit me like a ton of bricks. We're the best of friends and love each other dearly now. And her little girl is my best buddy.
But I do miss the people that have left my life and the ones that left in a huge fight, turns out their true nature comes out...those just make me mad. Make me upset that I wasted so much time and energy on them.
 

navii

My fantasy is that my girlfriend was actually a young high school girl.
I miss some moments I spent with some people. In general though I prefer my own company.
 

Zenaku

Member
About 2 years ago a mate didn't turn up for work one day. Figured he had it booked off and didn't tell me, so I didn't think anything of it. I swapped shifts each week too, so I thought nothing of not seeing him the next week either. Wasn't until I was back on the same shift on the third week until I knew he was missing, but nobody knew anything.

Wasn't answering texts or calls, wasn't showing online on Steam, I even started checking local accidents online fearing the worst, and it wasn't until a month later that someone confirmed he'd been in touch with work and got sick leave.

Haven't seen him since. He did eventually start playing on Steam again, but he carried on ignoring all communication. Eventually removed me from his friend list, and blocked me after sending another friend request. He simply wasn't the type of guy that would do that to friends, and it pains me to think of what kind of shit he must have went through to cut everyone out of his life like that.

Hopefully someday he'll get in touch, if only to tell me he's alright.
 

StreetsofBeige

Gold Member
About 2 years ago a mate didn't turn up for work one day. Figured he had it booked off and didn't tell me, so I didn't think anything of it. I swapped shifts each week too, so I thought nothing of not seeing him the next week either. Wasn't until I was back on the same shift on the third week until I knew he was missing, but nobody knew anything.

Wasn't answering texts or calls, wasn't showing online on Steam, I even started checking local accidents online fearing the worst, and it wasn't until a month later that someone confirmed he'd been in touch with work and got sick leave.

Haven't seen him since. He did eventually start playing on Steam again, but he carried on ignoring all communication. Eventually removed me from his friend list, and blocked me after sending another friend request. He simply wasn't the type of guy that would do that to friends, and it pains me to think of what kind of shit he must have went through to cut everyone out of his life like that.

Hopefully someday he'll get in touch, if only to tell me he's alright.
Some people will cut off friends and coworkers because they want at some point only a tight circle of friends and fam networked with them going forward.

I've had coworkers who I went to their weddings, came to my house parties and got them tons of free shit from my old work and even got one of them a free concert ticket because someone else bailed at the last minute. Not the type of people I hung out with regularly in any way, but we know each other enough to eat lunch every day together at work and worked together in the same dept! We all went to each other's weddings (not me as I'm not married).

We'd even occasionally speak on FB to each other.

Next thing you know I'm unfriended.

Oh well. Hey, dont ask me for any more free shit or job listings you see which I might have an in for ya.
 
I had a good friend in high school. Eventually we went to different colleges, and he got new friends there. After that our interests started to drift apart. I remember he contacted me at some point excitedly because he wanted to show off his car. That's when I realized we didn't have anything in common anymore.

In college I had some great friends too. Most of them ended up dropping out (including me) but we still hung out semi-regularly even if it was difficult to arrange a meeting and travel all the way there. When the last few guys graduated, that was it though. We lost a place to meet. Some of them moved abroad and it's hard to talk to them anymore due to different time zones.

I don't miss them too much to be honest. We drifted apart because our priorities shifted or because of the distance. I've accepted that.
 
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MastAndo

Member
I very recently had someone I once considered a close friend commit suicide. In recent years, we had a pretty ugly falling out, shared some harsh/hateful words and lost touch. When I heard of his death, I broke down sobbing. It was a mixed feeling of guilt for giving up on him, and a longing for all the good times we had that will never happen again. As he was before his death, he wasn't the person I once knew, but I found myself reminiscing about the good old days and missing the laughs we shared.
 
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I have similar thoughts. Sometimes I think about what and how they are doing; I’ll look them up on Facebook but never bother to add or message them. There’s a solace in knowing they are doing ok (at least at face value from their profile). I have 1 main friend since high school that I chat and hang with regularly and whom I’ve know for 15 years.

I currently have a strong friendship with someone with whom I met at my job. Since it’s rare for me to have any friends, this one seems like such a great change of pace; however I cannot scratch the feeling of eventually growing apart. It’s a sad feeling to experience.
 

Tschumi

Member
i don't really miss anyone, i grew up travelling so i'm used to not being in close contact with people for more than a few years, i currently miss my parents because covid has kept me from seeing them for over 2 years, now.
 

BigBooper

Member
There's a couple I think back to and would like to see again, but most are a distant memory that I'd just as soon forget.

Unless you're talking about the deceased, there's a number of them I'd like to see again.
 
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ZywyPL

Banned
Sometimes. It's a natural thing tho, you move on with your life, people move on with theirs, everyone starts their own relationships, families, move to different cities or even countries, and you naturally lose touch while you meet new people who start to be regularly around you . The sad part is where there's no "goodbye" and people just seamlessly fade away from your life without a singel word, and when you want to make a contact, say "hi" and check what's going on with them you just get a short "I'm fine, thanks", or no reply at all, all you get is a yearly birthday wishes on FB...
 
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