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Streamer mistreats his wife and his son while streaming live.

What entitlement are feminists fighting for that they don’t currently have?

Equality.
Equality by law is one thing. At least in the west thats largely met, bar a few exceptions like abortion rights here and there.
But a society, its values, prejudices, stereotypes, norms, expectations and many more things can't be changed as quickly as laws.
So unsurprisingly this is the hardest task for feminism, societal values reproduce themselves practically automatically and people internalize them to an insane degree, in many instances even extending to their own identity.
Questioning or changing them is obviously met with a lot of resistance.
And since entertainment media is a unique reflection of society, video games are at the center of the resulting controversy.

If this interests you in any way, there is an old but brilliant collection of essays about this. Just instead of feminism its about the changes in society due to the industrialization and instead of video games its about the reflection of this in movies.
http://www.hup.harvard.edu/catalog.php?isbn=9780674551633
 
Thanks for ruining this thread. You somehow took this story and made it about your feminist agenda.

Because thats what this incident is about.
I was just asked what feminists are fighting for: They are fighting for a world in which stuff like this doesn't happen, and when it does, no one is going to defend or justify the perpetrator and blaming them victim.
Just like, when a drunk driver kills another person on the road, no one is blaming the victim for driving at night where the chances of encountering drunk drivers is higher. "Had it coming..."

I wouldn't have brought any of this up if there hadn't been so many people here, on Twitter and on Youtube defending or justifying this guys reactions.
This response by many made this about feminism, otherwise it would have just been another case of domestic violence, unanimously condemned by people here for 2 or 3 pages.
 
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Kadayi

Banned
I'm not even going to watch the video because I find domestic abuse of any kind regardless of whose instigating it completely unacceptable on every level.

As an aside its unclear to me whether our antipodean posters are being serious or otherwise however as some one who enjoys browsing GAF at work during lunch might I request a curbing of the C-word. I get that maybe it's not that big a deal in the land of Thunder but sadly elsewhere its still pretty much considered the absolute worst in the world.
 

TheSHEEEP

Gold Member
Incels
Sexist
Entitled
Gender
Regressive
Far right
Violence
Alt-right
Young
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Gamergate

I think you missed a few checkboxes. Do better.
Aren't there these machine learning text generators?
I wonder what would happen if those were fed a few Kotako or Polygon articles and a few forum posts, and then told to tell you a story.:messenger_crystal_ball:
 
Aren't there these machine learning text generators?
I wonder what would happen if those were fed a few Kotako or Polygon articles and a few forum posts, and then told to tell you a story.:messenger_crystal_ball:

For a forum that prides itself on the open debate it allows the debates I have on here are always extremely one sided. I make an argument and get snarky or trollish responses without any actual counter arguments.
I get that some of you guys don't agree with my position, but can you actually argue against it in a proper way?
 
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Saruhashi

Banned
But a society, its values, prejudices, stereotypes, norms, expectations and many more things can't be changed as quickly as laws.
So unsurprisingly this is the hardest task for feminism, societal values reproduce themselves practically automatically and people internalize them to an insane degree, in many instances even extending to their own identity.
Questioning or changing them is obviously met with a lot of resistance.
And since entertainment media is a unique reflection of society, video games are at the center of the resulting controversy.

If this is true then Feminism has a massive problem in that it inherently promotes certain values, prejudices, stereotypes etc within itself.

You aren't just talking about "questioning or changing" them. You are talking about replacing them with others. So how is that an improvement?
"We used to have weird prejudices and biases against Group X but it's OK now we just have them against Group Y instead".

It's not such a good "sales pitch" for Feminism when you think about it.

How do you explain "manspreading", "mansplaining" and "toxic masculinity" etc if the goal is actually to challenge or change or even just question "prejudices, stereotypes, norms, expectations" etc?

Surely the things I've mentioned above are just symptomatic of new prejudices?
So rather than solving a problem you would just be moving the problem?

Hey, what if we solve the problems of prejudice by just giving people a whole new set of prejudices to internalize instead.
That's... kind of dumb.
 

BANGS

Banned
I was just asked what feminists are fighting for: They are fighting for a world in which stuff like this doesn't happen, and when it does, no one is going to defend or justify the perpetrator and blaming them victim.
Just like, when a drunk driver kills another person on the road, no one is blaming the victim for driving at night where the chances of encountering drunk drivers is higher. "Had it coming..."
First of all, you can never make a world where domestic violence completely disappears. Sometimes people in a relationship fight, and sometimes they're trashy enough to physically assault each other, no amount of culture change could ever stop that on any level...

Secondly, while the man's actions here are inexcusable, a certain level of victim blaming is appropriate here. This isn't at all like a person getting hit by a drunk driver because they chose to drive at night, this is more like you chasing down a drunk driver, provoking him and throwing stuff at him until he finally crashes his car into you. Then you keep provoking and doing the same shit over and over again so he crashes into you two more times... and then you're STILL talking shit...

This woman was begging to get hit, she just wanted ANY sort of attention from her man, even if she had to get it negatively. It's a far too common psychosis unfortunately...
 
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RedVIper

Banned
Equality.
Equality by law is one thing. At least in the west thats largely met, bar a few exceptions like abortion rights here and there.
But a society, its values, prejudices, stereotypes, norms, expectations and many more things can't be changed as quickly as laws.
So unsurprisingly this is the hardest task for feminism, societal values reproduce themselves practically automatically and people internalize them to an insane degree, in many instances even extending to their own identity.
Questioning or changing them is obviously met with a lot of resistance.
And since entertainment media is a unique reflection of society, video games are at the center of the resulting controversy.

If this interests you in any way, there is an old but brilliant collection of essays about this. Just instead of feminism its about the changes in society due to the industrialization and instead of video games its about the reflection of this in movies.
http://www.hup.harvard.edu/catalog.php?isbn=9780674551633

Are you willing to admit that men and woman, maybe, just maybe, are diferent, from both a physical and physiological level, and that's ok?
 

Ozrimandias

Member
I do not know in what minute this became a topic exclusive of the feminist agenda, but what i do know is : I am father and husband, first of all you do not hit your wife, and second and perhaps more important, do not expose your child to your violence. Even less for a video game. If you do not understand the above, you do not understand anything and you deserve to be treated like an idiot.
 

Bill O'Rights

Seldom posts. Always delivers.
Staff Member
Hey everyone,


Just to hark back to my earlier post in this thread, we are having to temporarily reply ban people from this thread to have no interest in honest discussion and/or end up spamming emotionally charged rants/rhetoric. As detailed earlier it's expected that posters are able to be calm and rational on the whole and make genuine points. There will be some points where posters naturally clash and flint sparks are created and we're being a little forgiving in a heavily charged thread.


However, we're now creeping into territory where people are disingenuously representing and falsely contextualising certain narratives. If you do see a post which you can demonstrate with 100% certainty is advocating they support and endorse abuse then please report it. There are some posts discussing provocation and response threshold as pertains to social constructs but these would largely appear to be from hypothetical/philosophical standpoints.
 

Saruhashi

Banned
For a forum that prides itself on the open debate it allows the debates I have on here are always extremely one sided. I make an argument and get snarky or trollish responses without any actual counter arguments.
I get that some of you guys don't agree with my position, but can you actually argue against it in a proper way?

All I can say is if you want people to take you seriously then dropping "Incel", "Alt-Right" and "Gamergate" into a single post might not be the way to go about it.

That's three massively different groups with a whole mess of definitions and theories and arguments surrounding them. I have no doubt that they intersect in some way but figuring the extent of that intersection alone would take an age.

Instead you've set yourself up as the one with the final say on what these groups are AND how they are related to somehow tie that to this situation right here.

Then you're like "why don't you debate me properly"?

I'd ask "what is anyone supposed to debate"?

You drop an utter mess of specific terminology all over the place and then moan that nobody wants to debate you "in a proper way", Sorry but your style of posting is something of a "debate stopper" in itself.

To even BEGIN to debate you I have to clear up AT LEAST: Incels. Sexist. Entitled. Gender. Regressive. Far right. Alt-right. Gamergate.

That's all before we can even get started.

I hate break it to you but your own "gish gallop" method of debate is also not the "proper way".
 
If this is true then Feminism has a massive problem in that it inherently promotes certain values, prejudices, stereotypes etc within itself.

You aren't just talking about "questioning or changing" them. You are talking about replacing them with others. So how is that an improvement?
"We used to have weird prejudices and biases against Group X but it's OK now we just have them against Group Y instead".

How do you explain "manspreading", "mansplaining" and "toxic masculinity" etc if the goal is actually to challenge or change or even just question "prejudices, stereotypes, norms, expectations" etc?

Thats the feminist straw man the right has built for itself. Completely ignorant of feminism, its history and its academic presence, the right takes a few flashy talking points, blows them out of proportion or misrepresents them and then acts like thats what feminism is about.


Surely the things I've mentioned above are just symptomatic of new prejudices?
So rather than solving a problem you would just be moving the problem?

Hey, what if we solve the problems of prejudice by just giving people a whole new set of prejudices to internalize instead.
That's... kind of dumb.

Obviously thats the conclusion you come to if your concept of feminism is the right wing caricature of it thats portrayed in the right wing media and right wing filter bubbles online.



Abolishing gender roles and raising awareness towards societal norms and their effects on our behavior isn't the creation of "a whole new set of prejudices".
The interesting thing about many on the right, and many incels actually, is that their insecurity stems from not meeting the standards of the male ideal they hold themselves to.
But instead of questioning these ideals, they are attacking the ones who question these ideals, because they don't do it from their own male perspective, but from the female one(because women overall suffer more much gender ideal and societal norms), completely missing the fact that, no matter the perspective, the issue is the same.

So, a video on Youtube looking into the reasons(ideals, expectations, norms) for higher suicide rates amongst men will receive a glowing reception.
But a video about the same exact issues, but from a female perspective, will be downvoted to oblivion.
And then people go ahead and attack intersectionality. From an academic perspective this is completely and utterly ridiculous, but the reason for that is simple: Its a complex topic, emotionally charged and people bring their personal experiences and biases into it and then discuss in a non-academic way and end up getting their shit in a twist.
 

TheSHEEEP

Gold Member
For a forum that prides itself on the open debate it allows the debates I have on here are always extremely one sided. I make an argument and get snarky or trollish responses without any actual counter arguments.
I get that some of you guys don't agree with my position, but can you actually argue against it in a proper way?
The problem comes from you accusing people of defending this guys actions, which I at least haven't seen happening here. Who would defend that, seriously?
Stating the fact that the victim has a part to play in all of this as well is an entirely different statement than defending what the guy did.
 

odhin

Member
Because thats what this incident is about.
I was just asked what feminists are fighting for: They are fighting for a world in which stuff like this doesn't happen, and when it does, no one is going to defend or justify the perpetrator and blaming them victim.
Just like, when a drunk driver kills another person on the road, no one is blaming the victim for driving at night where the chances of encountering drunk drivers is higher. "Had it coming..."

I wouldn't have brought any of this up if there hadn't been so many people here, on Twitter and on Youtube defending or justifying this guys reactions.
This response by many made this about feminism, otherwise it would have just been another case of domestic violence, unanimously condemned by people here for 2 or 3 pages.

NO, its not. Get your head out of the sand and see the video for what it really shows.

It has nothing to do with gender equality (inequality), its a video where a wife mistreats her husband because of an easy to understand reason, and then the husband mistreats her back in a worse manner, and is paying for it (or should be if he isn't already). It was a very serious problem (especially with the kids involved) and those "parents" should and will be judged by it.

But let me guess, actually analysing a simple video is wrong, and I'm suddenly a woman beater apologist like some dude already called me yesterday :messenger_tears_of_joy:
 

TheSHEEEP

Gold Member
But let me guess, actually analysing a simple video is wrong, and I'm suddenly a woman beater apologist like some dude already called me yesterday :messenger_tears_of_joy:
In an unrelated topic of an unrelated forum, I was called a sexist, racist, gator and right-wing within just two posts, for disagreeing on a truly minor detail.
I think you got off very easily ;)
 

Saruhashi

Banned
Thats the feminist straw man the right has built for itself. Completely ignorant of feminism, its history and its academic presence, the right takes a few flashy talking points, blows them out of proportion or misrepresents them and then acts like thats what feminism is about.

Obviously thats the conclusion you come to if your concept of feminism is the right wing caricature of it thats portrayed in the right wing media and right wing filter bubbles online.

Abolishing gender roles and raising awareness towards societal norms and their effects on our behavior isn't the creation of "a whole new set of prejudices".
The interesting thing about many on the right, and many incels actually, is that their insecurity stems from not meeting the standards of the male ideal they hold themselves to.
But instead of questioning these ideals, they are attacking the ones who question these ideals, because they don't do it from their own male perspective, but from the female one(because women overall suffer more much gender ideal and societal norms), completely missing the fact that, no matter the perspective, the issue is the same.

So, a video on Youtube looking into the reasons(ideals, expectations, norms) for higher suicide rates amongst men will receive a glowing reception.
But a video about the same exact issues, but from a female perspective, will be downvoted to oblivion.
And then people go ahead and attack intersectionality. From an academic perspective this is completely and utterly ridiculous, but the reason for that is simple: Its a complex topic, emotionally charged and people bring their personal experiences and biases into it and then discuss in a non-academic way and end up getting their shit in a twist.

Again, you are coming at me with a laundry list of things that needs to be cleaned up before we can get to the crux of the argument.

Right wing media, right wing filter bubbles, incels (again, wtf), societal norms, youtube upvotes and downvotes. You seriously want me to deal with ALL of that? Not going to happen dude.

I'm not right wing and know very little about incels AND you've shown very little reaosn why i should trust your "knowledge" on those subjects.

My basic take is that Feminism is not abolishing gender roles or prejudices but is simply shifting prejudices and reinforcing gender roles.

Let's just agree to disagree, yeah? Probably a "non-academic" like me wouldn't be able to comprehend your big brain, complex, academic topics anyway.

Of course the idea that "non academics" just can't deal with the topic and end up "getting their shit in a twist" isn't a prejudiced or stereotypical viewpoint AT ALL, no sir.
 

AV

We ain't outta here in ten minutes, we won't need no rocket to fly through space
I feel like there's larger and broader points being made here than the topic at hand; it's getting away from the scope and context of the specific video(s). I get that people are trying to have an open discourse, but folks on both sides of this are going off on tangents that address wider issues. This thread isn't about that, it's about an isolated incident and the discussion is becoming abstract, and some of the arguments made seem irrelevant. Maybe this thread should maybe be closed in favor of opening another to discuss the above? Or is it too far gone? Bill O'Rights Bill O'Rights
 

llien

Member
Equality by law is one thing. At least in the west thats largely met
It actually is not, although not in direction you would expect, e.g. right to "abandon" your (born) child is exclusively female, gargantuan incarceration gap (6+ times larger than racial gap in US)

I was just asked what feminists are fighting for...
Does this question even make sense, without specifying which kind of feminists?

I have a couple of rather concrete questions if you have time.


If anything women are unprotected in society hence the high statistics of rape, abuse, and so on...
Would you mind linking it, because last time I've checked overwhelming number victims of violence were men and not only that, but according to major US victimization surveys about 6 million of men are "made to penetrate", sensible chuckle.
 
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The problem comes from you accusing people of defending this guys actions, which I at least haven't seen happening here. Who would defend that, seriously?
Stating the fact that the victim has a part to play in all of this as well is an entirely different statement than defending what the guy did.
The only part she played was starting a completely reasonable argument with her husband because he didn't show up to the family dinner for an hour and rather played video games.
Attributing any fault on her side is completely unacceptable here. And doing that definitely meets the definition of "defending" and "justifying" the guys following actions.

And since you claim to have not seen that happening here, take a look, I didn't even have to search for an example:

its a video where a wife mistreats her husband because of an easy to understand reason



But let me guess, actually analysing a simple video is wrong, and I'm suddenly a woman beater apologist like some dude already called me yesterday :messenger_tears_of_joy:
Yes, saying a pregnant wife is "mistreating her husband" because she complained to him after she cooked dinner and he let it sit for an hour so he can play video games, makes you a "woman beater apologist".
And this ridiculous perspective of yours is also the reason why this is about feminism.
 

RedVIper

Banned
Thats the feminist straw man the right has built for itself. Completely ignorant of feminism, its history and its academic presence, the right takes a few flashy talking points, blows them out of proportion or misrepresents them and then acts like thats what feminism is about.

First and second wave feminism had a role to play and was very important. People question if third wave feminism is about equality because that was already achieved in most of the west.

Abolishing gender roles and raising awareness towards societal norms and their effects on our behavior isn't the creation of "a whole new set of prejudices".
The interesting thing about many on the right, and many incels actually, is that their insecurity stems from not meeting the standards of the male ideal they hold themselves to.

These roles exist because man and women are inherently different. "not meeting the standards of the male ideal they hold themselves to", you want them to meet the standarts you want instead, how is that any different/better?

"And then people go ahead and attack intersectionality. From an academic perspective this is completely and utterly ridiculous, but the reason for that is simple: Its a complex topic, emotionally charged and people bring their personal experiences and biases into it and then discuss in a non-academic way and end up getting their shit in a twist"

People attack intersectionality because that's what you do in face in of a theory, you question it, especially when it has been show to have many flaws.

The only part she played was starting a completely reasonable argument with her husband because he didn't show up to the family dinner for an hour and rather played video games.
Attributing any fault on her side is completely unacceptable here. And doing that definitely meets the definition of "defending" and "justifying" the guys following actions.
Yes, saying a pregnant wife is "mistreating her husband" because she complained to him after she cooked dinner and he let it sit for an hour so he can play video games, makes you a "woman beater apologist".
And this ridiculous perspective of yours is also the reason why this is about feminism.

Stop with the bullshit and the white knighting, she didn't just ask him to come to dinner. She was throwing his stuff at him and provoking him after he asked her to stop. Are his actions justified? Obviously not. Did she play a part in it? Yes, the dude just didn't get up and slap her. You're trying to misrepresent the situation to make it seem like her actions can't be criticized. Streeming also happens to be his job btw.

We're derailing the thread so if you want to talk about this make your own thread.
 
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Right wing media, right wing filter bubbles, incels (again, wtf), societal norms, youtube upvotes and downvotes. You seriously want me to deal with ALL of that? Not going to happen dude.

Most of those I just used in example to illustrated what I am talking about, to make it less abstract, but its not really relevant to the argument.

My basic take is that Feminism is not abolishing gender roles or prejudices but is simply shifting prejudices and reinforcing gender roles.
And that take is wrong. I don't know where you got it from, which is why I just broadly mentioned filter bubbles.
I can't possible know what you watch, but Fox News, Breitbart, Jordan Peterson, countless of Youtubers, like Sargon Of Akkad or Stefan Molyneux and many, many more are part of that filter bubble where people are fed this nonsensical, oversimplified and regressive perspective on feminism.



Let's just agree to disagree, yeah? Probably a "non-academic" like me wouldn't be able to comprehend your big brain, complex, academic topics anyway.

Of course the idea that "non academics" just can't deal with the topic and end up "getting their shit in a twist" isn't a prejudiced or stereotypical viewpoint AT ALL, no sir.
This has nothing to do with peoples comprehension skills, it has everything to do with selective information.
 

Saruhashi

Banned
And that take is wrong. I don't know where you got it from, which is why I just broadly mentioned filter bubbles.

Wait, so that's your "debate"?

"That take is wrong." Full Stop.

Then spray more stuff about right wing, youtubers etc.

As another poster said Academic Feminism should welcome challenge as so many of these ideas such as "abolishing gender roles" are not even remotely settled. They are theories and theories are there to be challenged, tested etc.

Your response to that is "you are wrong". Followed by a wave of alt right, incel, fox news this youtuber, that youtuber etc etc etc.

You don't want debate mate. You just want to tell people how wrong you think they are.

You're more of a preacher than a debater, if you ask me.

I think we're done here, yeah?
 
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First and second wave feminism had a role to play and was very important. People question if third wave feminism is about equality because that was already achieved in most of the west.
I'll keep it short:
The point of third wave feminism is that equality on paper is still a long way from true equality. And that true equality must comes with changes in societal values and norms.
The core controversy third wave feminists engage in is a very old question: Whats biological and whats societal.

The average person tends to vastly overestimate biological factors and vastly underestimate the arbitrarity of societal standards.
Ultimately its a difference in world view: One where humans are at the mercy of circumstances and one where humans are considered smart enough to shape the circumstances in accordance with certain ideal like equality, freedom, individualism etc.
And just like third wave feminism is controversial today, values like freedom, equality and individualism were controversial some time ago, because they represented deviations from the established norms people grew up with.
 

Zog

Banned
I feel like there's larger and broader points being made here than the topic at hand; it's getting away from the scope and context of the specific video(s). I get that people are trying to have an open discourse, but folks on both sides of this are going off on tangents that address wider issues. This thread isn't about that, it's about an isolated incident and the discussion is becoming abstract, and some of the arguments made seem irrelevant. Maybe this thread should maybe be closed in favor of opening another to discuss the above? Or is it too far gone? Bill O'Rights Bill O'Rights
Discussions should be allowed to evolve. No one is stopping people from talking about the video itself.
 

odhin

Member
This has nothing to do with peoples comprehension skills, it has everything to do with selective information.

OMG the IRONY!!!

Well, I was about to quote your previous post where you indeed called me out as "defending" / "justifying" this idiot's actions. Thanks for that, you just proved my point, not gonna waste another minute discussing this topic with you. You seriously cannot argue (rather, talk) with folks like this, who really do see everything as either black or white.
 
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RedVIper

Banned
I'll keep it short:
The point of third wave feminism is that equality on paper is still a long way from true equality. And that true equality must comes with changes in societal values and norms.
The core controversy third wave feminists engage in is a very old question: Whats biological and whats societal.

The average person tends to vastly overestimate biological factors and vastly underestimate the arbitrarity of societal standards.
Ultimately its a difference in world view: One where humans are at the mercy of circumstances and one where humans are considered smart enough to shape the circumstances in accordance with certain ideal like equality, freedom, individualism etc.
And just like third wave feminism is controversial today, values like freedom, equality and individualism were controversial some time ago, because they represented deviations from the established norms people grew up with.

Simple question, do you think there are places where women are "priviliged" in both law and/or societal standards?
 

AV

We ain't outta here in ten minutes, we won't need no rocket to fly through space
Discussions should be allowed to evolve. No one is stopping people from talking about the video itself.

Like I said, evolve it into its own thread before this one is outright closed because people are so far off track.
 
Well this can happen to anyone when they're over 12 and still play Fortnite. :messenger_poop:

Why is anyone surprised is beyond me.







can't believe what I saw.. may lord have mercy on fartnite players
 
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Wait, so that's your "debate"?

"That take is wrong." Full Stop.

Well, let me explain.
You attack a version of feminism that doesn't exist. Its created by exactly the outlets(and many more) I mentioned.
And if you'd just take a look at academic feminism, or even just European feminism, you'd realize that its something completely different from what you where told feminism is.
But I can't do that for you. You need to do that yourself.


As another poster said Academic Feminism should welcome challenge as so many of these ideas such as "abolishing gender roles" are not even remotely settled. They are theories and theories are there to be challenged, tested etc.
"Abolishing gender roles" is not a theory. If anything its a normative conclusion. And while feminism is generally normative, like 95% of academic feminism isn't at all.

Also, academic feminism isn't at all unwelcoming to being challenged. But these challenges need to meet certain criteria.
If in your criticism it becomes obvious that you haven't understood the point you are criticizing in the first place, then you won't be met with engaging debate.
Just like climate change deniers aren't met with engaging debate when they try to enter the debate about climate change.
At some point, this isn't a game of opinions anymore. In academia, an opinion is worth nothing.

Your response to that is "you are wrong". Followed by a wave of alt right, incel, fox news this youtuber, that youtuber etc etc etc.
Yeah, if you were a climate change denier I would also tell you that you are wrong and then list some of the outlets who spew this nonsense.
Because as long as I don't know how you personally rationalized this opinion, I can't really argue against it in any other way than simply stating that you are wrong.

You don't want debate mate. You just want to tell people how wrong you think they are.

You're more of a preacher than a debater, if you ask me.

I think we're done here, yeah?

Over the past few pages I made countless of arguments and was first met with snarky and trollish responses, then I called you out on it and was met with statements of opinion(not arguments).
I can debate an argument, I can't debate a stated opinion, all I can do in that case is tell you that this opinion is wrong.

In a normal debate an opinion is backed up by argument and this argument is then picked up and discussed.

You never even brought whats necessary for a debate, and now you claim that I am the one who doesn't want a debate?
Y'all are ridiculous.



Edit: I have to agree with you on one thing, though.
This is off-topic by now.
I am not going to make a separate thread, though, because I don't think issues like these can be discussed properly on this forum anymore, and whenever I tried it ended just like this.

I am always giving people the benefit of the doubt and think that they somehow must have rationalized their opinions in a proper way and need to be able to argue and defend them in debate. Maybe I shouldn't do that anymore.
 
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Basic biology is sexist now?

Oh well. Better call the Olympic Committee and tell them women should compete with men, because assuming they're weaker than men is a sexist way to go through life.

Still being silly with these ridiculous arguments I see. How does your mind equate a woman you know nothing about, to athletes that have to be in peak condition? You see, for one we have a requirement were we know men will be stronger and for the other we have the sexist worldview of a silly man; I'll let you figure out which one is which.
 

Saruhashi

Banned
I'll keep it short:
The point of third wave feminism is that equality on paper is still a long way from true equality. And that true equality must comes with changes in societal values and norms.
The core controversy third wave feminists engage in is a very old question: Whats biological and whats societal.

The average person tends to vastly overestimate biological factors and vastly underestimate the arbitrarity of societal standards.
Ultimately its a difference in world view: One where humans are at the mercy of circumstances and one where humans are considered smart enough to shape the circumstances in accordance with certain ideal like equality, freedom, individualism etc.
And just like third wave feminism is controversial today, values like freedom, equality and individualism were controversial some time ago, because they represented deviations from the established norms people grew up with.

I don't see how it's ultimately a difference in worldview. The 2 worldviews you presented are not mutually exclusive and also not the only possible worldviews. So already we are all over the place here.

Up to a certain point humans ARE at the mercy of circumstances. Usually scarcity. Once a certain level of development is reached we can shape our circumstances but the ability to do that varies across, and within, societies. So it's a bit of both really in varying amounts depending on the situation.

So for a family who is dirt poor, or for a developing nation, the standard "gender roles" that were at least initially influenced by biology might be the support they need to move up to the next level of development.

Once a suitable level of development is achieved and scarcity is less of an issue they can begin to sculpt their own circumstances.

So for the poor uneducated family it may be a great help to them to have the man doing some harder labour to bring in money while the woman raises the kids. Maybe they don't lift themselves out of poverty but the stable and "traditional" upbringing gives the kids a platform to get a good education and move onto a life that isn't as restricted as their parents/ancestors. Rinse and repeat.

People use the older, less developed, worldview as a basis for incremental improvements. Some people are further behind that others but they are all using the same structures to move up to the next level where different structures are viable.

Think of that wonderful utopia you are striving towards as being build on the more traditional worldviews that came before which is in turn built on the biological impulses that facilitated survival in times of extreme scarcity. Each level has a "stepladder" up to the next level.

Now, what modern, first world, third wave feminism appears to be saying is "let's get rid of the step ladder". Problem is that this is being said while people are still in need of those old structures.

Isn't it just a weird coincidence that the main support for modern feminism isn't coming from regular people who just want basic human rights but rather the main "pushes" are coming from the extremely privileged world of academia?

I mean, you don't seriously think that the only "backlash" to Feminism comes from Right Wing sources and you don't seriously believe that any and all criticism of, or opposition to, Feminism is 100% misguided and wrong?
 

TheSHEEEP

Gold Member
The only part she played was starting a completely reasonable argument with her husband because he didn't show up to the family dinner for an hour and rather played video games.
Attributing any fault on her side is completely unacceptable here. And doing that definitely meets the definition of "defending" and "justifying" the guys following actions.
Maybe you did not watch the video, but what I watched clearly showed her constantly pestering him about coming to dinner. To which he repeatedly states that he will, in a short while. That goes on for a minute or so with her simply not letting it go (despite it being obvious he wouldn't come right now). After that, she begins throwing stuff at him and knocking his webcam over.
Nothing in this is a "completely reasonable argument". At least I haven't encountered that style of argumentation being called reasonable.
Without any doubt at all, she has a part in this escalation and could have handled it much better.
Which does NOT excuse his side, nor does it justify his actions, I have no idea where you get that notion from. You're constructing one giant strawman with that, and nobody here is falling for it.

Asking him to come to dinner? Sure reasonable. Getting angry at him not coming? Sure.
Not letting go of the topic, not accepting an answer, while he was clearly not being receptive to stopping to play now? Not reasonable.
Beginning to throw and knock stuff over just to make a point? Is there anyone alive believing we're still within reasonable territory?

No, the guy did not behave reasonable in any of this, either, but that's entirely besides the point.
You might not know what actually happens in the video, but due to that lack of knowledge, you come across as whiteknighting.

I also wonder if the guy was streaming for a living or just as a hobby? I honestly don't know.
If it was just as a hobby, that makes him even more of a dick (if that was possible). I get not being able to pause an online game at any time, but you can leave after a few minutes usually.
If he was actually doing it for a living, that should have given him some leeway, as "my wife has made dinner, so now I'll be gone in the middle of the stream" isn't exactly something viewers would like. It would also be something that would usually be discussed prior to streaming with his wife.
My bet is on hobby streamer.
 
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Are you willing to admit that men and woman, maybe, just maybe, are diferent, from both a physical and physiological level, and that's ok?

Thats certainly true. But at the same its true that our reality is, too a large degree, socially constructed.
Its our job to find out whats biological and whats not and how society and its values and norms can be improved for everyone.


Simple question, do you think there are places where women are "priviliged" in both law and/or societal standards?

Yes, at least in western meritocracies women are met with lesser expectations, which is one of the main reasons why burnout and depression and suicide affect men in higher numbers.
On the other hand, this also means that women's abilities to perform are usually underestimated.

Women also sometimes get an unwarranted benefit of the doubt in legal contexts, especially when it about domestic violence towards men.

There are many more examples, but generally male privilege far outweighs female privilege. Although this also depends on the context.



It actually is not, although not in direction you would expect, e.g. right to "abandon" your (born) child is exclusively female, gargantuan incarceration gap (6+ times larger than racial gap in US)
I don't know what you are referring to here?
The right to abandon a born child is exclusively female? How many single moms are there because fathers abandoned the child?

Does this question even make sense, without specifying which kind of feminists?
Well, in academia and Europe in generally I'd say the term feminism is reasonably well defined, so you don't always have to specify.
In US pop culture and internet debate spaces the term feminism has become a canvas for everyone to project their own concept of feminism onto. So in that case we would need to define it first.

I have a couple of rather concrete questions if you have time.
PM if you like.







I don't see how it's ultimately a difference in worldview. The 2 worldviews you presented are not mutually exclusive and also not the only possible worldviews. So already we are all over the place here.
I'd call that a worldview and I'd consider the difference significant and precise.
I'm a political scientist and in political science we use this to explain the evolution of politics from ancient Greece to today.
In ancient Greece it took several events(wars) for the population to realize their importance and demand democratic participation in return.(Rome saw the same thing happening, but granted economic participation instead of democratic) The fact that they had multiple and fallible gods was also integral. After Greece and Rome we went back to 1000+ years of leaders by gods grace(which makes sense when you believe in one all knowing god) and people being unaware of their ability to steer the ship they are on.
The enlightenment brought back the idea of agency and this idea was the root cause for the past 300 years of political evolution.
So yeah, I think these difference in world view are significant. Bringing this concept over from political sciences to social sciences is not a stretch and I am certainly not the first one to do it. Adam Smith did it hundreds of years ago and thereby shaped this entire planet in a profound way. Karl Marx did it and achieved the same.

Up to a certain point humans ARE at the mercy of circumstances. Usually scarcity. Once a certain level of development is reached we can shape our circumstances but the ability to do that varies across, and within, societies. So it's a bit of both really in varying amounts depending on the situation.

So for a family who is dirt poor, or for a developing nation, the standard "gender roles" that were at least initially influenced by biology might be the support they need to move up to the next level of development.
Once a suitable level of development is achieved and scarcity is less of an issue they can begin to sculpt their own circumstances.
Yes, but we are talking about western nations here. Feminism approach to circumstances in developing countries is entirely different to its approach in western countries.
What you mean is already taken into account.



Now, what modern, first world, third wave feminism appears to be saying is "let's get rid of the step ladder".
It is not.
Feminism is actually very good at not just demanding change but rather setting the stage for change to happen naturally. For example with the help of media criticism.
Media criticism, even though its always met with resistance, falls on open ears with content creators and slowly but steadily changes the landscape.
I personally think this is even visible in gaming. Anita Sarkeesian was met with harsh criticism, mainly by parts of the community, but among content creators she was definitely heard and especially the past few years have already shown substantial change.
Although, its not fair to attribute that to Sarkeesian exclusively, many if not most content creators where already on that track.

Isn't it just a weird coincidence that the main support for modern feminism isn't coming from regular people who just want basic human rights but rather the main "pushes" are coming from the extremely privileged world of academia?
Understanding the ways in which you are disadvantaged by the society you grew up in is not something that comes naturally. In german there is a saying along the lines of "The worst chains are the ones you don't realize are there".

I mean, you don't seriously think that the only "backlash" to Feminism comes from Right Wing sources and you don't seriously believe that any and all criticism of, or opposition to, Feminism is 100% misguided and wrong?

If I would believe I'd have to label parts of my own work "right wing". I'm a political scientist and my work is mainly quantitative(numbers) as opposed to qualitative(words). I regularly go crazy reading social science, because I think it usually neglects the quantitative side of things.
There is lively debate around feminism. Criticism, constructive debate, new ideas etc.
But whats exclusive to the right wing is the "backlash", an aggressive (in its rhetoric) rebuttal of nothing specific, but the idea and the concept as a whole.


1 1.21Gigawatts Get back on topic please. Tangents are fine, full on derails are not.

I'm done now.
 

gela94

Member
Let's be honest alot of men are trash people and alot of women are also trash people and somehow alot of times these people always find each other and make babies they probably don't want. I watched this video a few times and to me its not clear who is hitting who, I don't feel sorry for the woman .. .she made her choice to have a kid with this guy but damn the kid T_T
 

G-Bus

Banned
Geesh, did some of y’all not have fathers? Don’t ever hit a women. That’s it. The end. Next topic.

Nah. There most definitely are times where raising your hand against a women is acceptable. You don't need to beat the shit out of a girl because one good smack is going to make her realise she can't walk all over you because "men shouldn't hit women".

I would try way, way harder to defuse a situation with a girl but if there wasn't an easy way to walk away from a situation and she hit me first, then continued to do so, I would most definitely hit her back.

I don't give a fuck what your gender is. You hit me, be prepared to be hit back.

Just to be clear, I've never hit a women and have been slapped before. The threshold for physical retaliation is high.
 

kingbean

Member
Nothing about this is right. Don't hit your SO, if it comes to that just break it off. The wife's reaction to him streaming instead of eating is excessive, but probably because ole boy is a shithead even when he's not slapping her.

If the escalation was like that on both sides they clearly don't need to be together.
 

Brawlz

Neo Member
The wife incited the violence, but the husband took it to the absolute hyperbolic extreme. Nonetheless, you don't lay a hand on anyone in a situation like this, especially a female, and in front of your kid no less, solely (Ostensibly), because you want to play video games and not be diligent with your "adult" responsibilities.

Absolutely despicable.

Now I want to go give my girlfriend a hug after that atrocity, but I can't atm :(
 
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Cragz

Neo Member
14 pages of people excusing this shit. Absolutely unbelievable. I imagine, and also desperately hope, that the majority of the worst offenders are single and remain single.
 

RedVIper

Banned
14 pages of people excusing this shit. Absolutely unbelievable. I imagine, and also desperately hope, that the majority of the worst offenders are single and remain single.

No one is excusing it lol. Pointing out that she's being childish != than saying she deserved it.
 

Azelover

Titanic was called the Ship of Dreams, and it was. It really was.
My father used to beat my mother when I was a kid, and the law was terrible back then, we weren't protected at all. I'm glad things are changing.
 
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