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I'm sick of all the waiting...pls respond..I confessed to u...unacceptable behavior..

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OP, don't get disheartened at this experience or everyone else making fun of you. Just take a hard note of this and remember it for the future. Learn from your mistake. Many people won't admit it but trust me, they would have at point made the same mistake as you either on smaller scale, same scale, or grander scale. We all make mistake. It's whether or not you learn from it is what's important.
 
PhoenixDark said:
Can I be real? Because that's the only way I believe you'll learn from this situation.

1. Stop simping. You have tried to take this person out multiple times, and sometimes succeeded, when it was obvious she wasn't into you. You're spending time and money to entertain someone who doesn't like you. Don't ever do this again, it's a sign of weakness.

2. Take a damn hint. If you're sending someone lengthy texts and they respond with 1-4 word responses, chances are they're either not into you or talking to someone else.

3. She doesn't owe you. She is not legally required to respond to you, or reward your kindness with a date, a kiss, etc. She clearly viewed you as a friend or acquaintance, but you overstayed your welcome by being pushy. She clearly wasn't sending signals that she liked you, therefore don't act like she "led you on."

4. Walk away. There was no need to send that passive aggressive text, all it does is make you look like even more of a sucker. Again, I'm being hard because this is important to understand. Dust yourself off and never talk to her again, unless she initiates the conversation.


I guarantee you she told coworkers about all this btw, and they laughed. You should have taken the hint ages ago and moved on, or waited for her to initiate things (ie her asking you if you wanted to go to lunch). You lost. But you can dust yourself off and be better prepared in the future, IF you learn from this mistake.
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This is much better advice than shuri's post.

Though shuri's gives good advice, the post he/she made was insulting in tone and just anger-laden and fear-inducing. And I see that he/she has just taken the opportunity to further clown the OP throughout this thread so yeah.. OP focus on the constructive criticism in this post instead.
 
Reminds me of this:

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http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showthread.php?t=748235
 
From February, she started to become evasive about my lunch proposals but I still managed to get her out with me. And we still had pleasant conversations when we met. I kept texting her every day (just about 3-4 messages) and tried to not to be annoying, and that’s when I noticed she became even less responsive (from to a 1/3 reply rate to a 1/6 reply rate). I got the sense that she’s losing interest in me while I had become more infatuated than ever with her. That’s why and when I started to become desperate…
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You what?
 
Yeahhhh, she made it pretty obvious she wasn't into you. Basically she didn't mind going out as friends, but the more obsessive you got, the more she pulled back. Seems to me she was trying to ease off so you would get the hint and stop pursuing her more than friends.
 
The only people I know who engage in sweeping confessions learned to do so from TV/Movies. Confessions itself...honestly that's not even much of a thing, and they rarely work.
 
late to the party said:
Long story short: It’s one-sided romance. I texted her but haven’t got any reply (Seen ✓✓). I know I am done and just to vent.

Not sure if this is the right place. Anyway It’s my first thread here and, I just want to vent…

I met this girl about six months ago at my workplace (we are not in the same office though), and we started to do lunch together about once a week or two. When I asked her for lunch (I kept asking her once a week), she always replied yes and even if it’s no she would come up a reason. Every time, I brought her to a new restaurant and we did have some very nice conversations (at least to me). At the same time, I started to text (Whatsapp) her more but she’s not that responsive. I thought it’s ok because I could not expect people to reply to my every single message and sometimes I just wanted to share with her and she may not relate. Still, I always tried to bring up something fresh and relevant and encourage her to voice out her thoughts more, although she rarely did.

From February, she started to become evasive about my lunch proposals but I still managed to get her out with me. And we still had pleasant conversations when we met. I kept texting her every day (just about 3-4 messages) and tried to not to be annoying, and that’s when I noticed she became even less responsive (from to a 1/3 reply rate to a 1/6 reply rate). I got the sense that she’s losing interest in me while I had become more infatuated than ever with her. That’s why and when I started to become desperate…

There were many times (during our lunch times) I asked her out for movies/walk in park/dinner and she always said yes. She even proposed some movies and suggested a place for us to go. But when I make a proper invitation the very next day, she just acted evasive. At first, she declined with reasons, and then she just didn’t reply at all.

I kept texting her (with things may interest her and we have in common) but she was just ignoring my messages almost entirely. I also kept asking her for lunch (and trying my best to not be bothersome) but she always rejected me at the last minute, again with reasons (about friends/work/etc.).

I knew this could not be kept long so I stopped contacting her earlier this month. Then, only three days later, I happened to see her at the workplace so I again asked her for lunch for the week before Easter… She said yes but didn’t live up to it. Since I knew she’s busy for that week so I didn’t quite mind and instead asked her out for the Easter (via Whatsapp):

Me: It’s a long holiday; maybe we can find a day free and go out somewhere.
She: where
Me: (A lot of suggestions but I pointed out what I liked the most)
She: which one
Me: (replied in detail)

She didn’t reply since. I texted her that I didn’t like that and asked her to reject me if she wanted and just not to ignore my invitations because I was sick of all the waiting…

So a few hours ago I sent her my last message. Instead of telling her I was hopelessly in love with her, I just told her that “pursuing someone desperately will creep them out… It’s better to make mistakes and then learn from them…” It’s a short message. Not sure if it means anything or not but I guess it’s my last.

OK. Time to let go now. It’s hard though…

Sorry I didn’t realize it would be this long... as I just wanted to vent.

Share if you have any thoughts/experiences.
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Replicant said:
OP, don't get disheartened at this experience or everyone else making fun of you. Just take a hard note of this and remember it for the future. Learn from your mistake. Many people won't admit it but trust me, they would have at point made the same mistake as you either on smaller scale, same scale, or grander scale. We all make mistake. It's whether or not you learn from it is what's important.
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We need more of these posts in this thread.
 
I don't care who you are, guy or girl, if you text me 3-6 times every day I will stab your phone to death the next time I see you.
 
late to the party said:
She didn’t reply since. I texted her that I didn’t like that and asked her to reject me if she wanted and just not to ignore my invitations because I was sick of all the waiting…
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Oh man.

If she is not responding after several days just keep the honor to yourself, don't seem desperate. Enough fish in the ocean amigo
 
Jebus suppahstar, OP, you should REALLY chill..
By the fist of it... She was just being polite.. But made it abundantly clear that she was NOT into you by missing some meeting, last minute excuse on a ludicrous success:failure ratio..
Just... Move on...
 
shuri said:
  1. You creeped her out a long time ago.
  2. She was just being polite by saying yes and then cancelling/avoiding. It's a passive way to avoid confrontations.
  3. She is probably scared of you
  4. You confessed feelings for a woman without having much interaction with her at all. What the fuck?
  5. You probably are the laughing stock at the office and she has probably made aware all the other females about how creepy you are with her
  6. Don't be surprised if you get into MASSIVE TROUBLE at work over this for Harassment.
  7. Real life is not an anime or a dating sim, stop quantifying your interactions with her.
  8. Leave her alone, god damnit.
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This so much OP. Seriously dude, don't be that guy.
 
Brinbe said:
Not gonna lie, op. That was a really tough read. Should have took your L a long time ago and moved on. A women who is genuinely interested will make an effort to reply to you. Forcing things never ever works.

You're better off finding someone that isn't a chore to talk to and coordinate plans with.
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This. Exactly.

Unless she texts you first, never text her again. Also, try not speaking to her either. She knows you want her but if you stop your persuit now, she will either respond to you eventually about it or act like it never happened. You have to let her go and go after someone else. It's tough but that's life.
 
OP, you're doing it wrong. First of all, you're suppose to text her at least 10x a day. You also need to surprise her and show her a side of you she's never seen. That'll catch her attention. I suggest getting yourself a new accessory. I know, buy a fedora! I know the perfect brand for you.

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Very good brand.
 
OP, I don't usually like being this honest, but it's something you need to hear.

That was one of the creepiest posts I have ever read in my years of surfing GAF.

Not only is the girl not interested, she is likely afraid of you at this point.

And while that might not be fair, you may be completely harmless, there comes a time when we're socializing with other people that we need to take a step back and evaluate how we are coming off and what are actions are saying.

You missed that mark. Completely.

Also, we can't get so caught up in the result that we want to get that we completely ignore what's actually happening. This girl was not being subtle. She's just not into you. And you're so caught up in your own desires that you're not paying attention to any of the feedback that she's actually giving you. So not only are you being creepy, but you're being self-absorbed.

Learn from this, OP.
 
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