Yep, wouldn't be surprised if the OP has an harassment claim on his desk this week
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I'm sick of all the waiting...pls respond..I confessed to u...unacceptable behavior..
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Yep, wouldn't be surprised if the OP has an harassment claim on his desk this week
TUROK
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Of course, to the outside viewer with no personal stake in the matter, who isn't getting mixed messages, who is only privy to a few lines of information.
EmptySpace
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oh gosh.
the thirst is real.
seriously, how would you feel if you received 3-4 text messages from an "acquaintance/officemate" a day?
the thirst is real.
seriously, how would you feel if you received 3-4 text messages from an "acquaintance/officemate" a day?
phillipgessert
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The messages weren't mixed, the whole reason the OP self-destructed was because he finally realized what she was communicating the whole time.
they have a pill for that.
LMAO, We are certainly on to something. haha
Font for each text without a response gets lighter and lighter, until you no longer see what your typing.....
Scully Scully Scoo
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from reading some of op comments i kind of understand his mentality and i know people like him, they dont care about the social consequences. why else would he send a barrage of text messages to her and keep presuiing her even when she showed no interest. back of his mind he probably knew this was never going to happen for him but decided to proceed anyway knowing the consequences. (correct me if i am wrong op)
for people like him it would be more useful to tell them how they messed up rather than the consequences of messing up
def need to start including more emoticons, especially ones like ᕦ(ò_óˇ
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nvrndr
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Oh my god hahahahaha #DEAD
I confess my love4u
ITT people saying "Stop comparing to anime, iz rude" when obviously they themselves don't get WHY THE statement is being made in the first place.
OP.....man oh man oh man oh man. I mean this in the nicest way possible but this is one of the most cringe-worthy and embarrassing things I've read. While you and others can say it a good that you were able to recognize your errors and will be able to learn from them, in all honesty it should have never gotten that far. I'm not going to describe how you come across and all that, as others have and I don't want to be mean, but the best advice in this thread is from Shuri. Not only should you prepare for things to be extremely awkward but you should expect that she has told numerous people and now everyone is aware of you acting like a desperate creep.
You should have never let it go that far OP. You have no one to blame but yourself.
Mr.Monitor
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The thing is, it's not really her job to be up front with you. Just because you're the one sending all the messages and constantly going out of your way to make contact with her doesn't mean you're suddenly her responsibility. Would it be more convenient if she was straight up and told you she wasn't interested? Sure. But what you need to realize is, she doesn't owe that to you.
Maybe he just doesn't know what he's doing and wanted some help? Yes, he went about it the totally wrong way - but everyone is painting him as a creep or as a shut-in that gets his cues from anime. Maybe he really has a blank slate when it comes to socializing and needs to build on it.
Scully Scully Scoo
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bingo. op knew he had no chance of getting her by that point so wanted definitive closure from the situation. he knew of the social consequences but op just dont give a sh1t coz thats how op rolls yoo
terrisus
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If there was something that actually indicating that she was interested in him or showing any sort of positive sign, don't you think OP would've mentioned it?
weemadarthur
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Okay, i understand what you want from her. But, i don't see anywhere that you invited her out on a clearly expressed "date". I only see where you asked her to work lunches, and to hang out. Without you very clearly being upfront about the specific social interaction, she has no ability to be upfront in response.
Now, whether she will be upfront in a personal confrontation is another matter. See this thread for the female perspective. And don't insult that perspective, because you don't gain anything by wishing women behaved like men. They don't.
http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showthread.php?t=750266
All guys goes through something like this once in their lives. It's a right of passage to manhood. We throw our dignities to the wind and bear our naked souls and see them crushed in front of our weeping eyes. And then we're reborn - stronger, harder and colder - into men. Mark this day, OP. You are now in utero towards a glorious rebirth. Learn from this. Own this. Become a man.
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EmptySpace
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as we are on topic,
why is it that it's still the norm that it is the men pursue women?
honestly, that is just twisted. why can't women openly pursue men, in this day and age? can't believe this thing is still so "traditional". let women suffer as well! let them lose their self-confidence! let them pay for my meals!
i mean, let them express their feelings freely and not wait for someone to ask them out. do you know how much women pass out on something because they're "waiting for the guy to make a move".
why is it that it's still the norm that it is the men pursue women?
honestly, that is just twisted. why can't women openly pursue men, in this day and age? can't believe this thing is still so "traditional". let women suffer as well! let them lose their self-confidence! let them pay for my meals!
i mean, let them express their feelings freely and not wait for someone to ask them out. do you know how much women pass out on something because they're "waiting for the guy to make a move".
Threads like these, though they may seem funny to a few, but they actually piss me off.
Some of you dudes need to have some fucking self worth. The first sign that a female is not responsive, especially if the initiation of the contact is mostly one sided, you drop it. If she's even remotely interested, she'll get at you. If she doesn't then think of it as her loss, not yours, and move on to the next one. Stop treating females like they're some special breed of humans, to which you feel that you're not worthy of their glory. Not every female will be receptive to your advances, but for everyone that's not, there's one that will, so there's no reason to come off as a creep.
Also, and this is probably the most important: DON'T SHIT WHERE YOU EAT!
Some of you dudes need to have some fucking self worth. The first sign that a female is not responsive, especially if the initiation of the contact is mostly one sided, you drop it. If she's even remotely interested, she'll get at you. If she doesn't then think of it as her loss, not yours, and move on to the next one. Stop treating females like they're some special breed of humans, to which you feel that you're not worthy of their glory. Not every female will be receptive to your advances, but for everyone that's not, there's one that will, so there's no reason to come off as a creep.
Also, and this is probably the most important: DON'T SHIT WHERE YOU EAT!
terrisus
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How he messed up:
She was never interested in him to begin with, and he didn't pick up on any of the numerous hints.
TacticalFox88
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There isn't a GIF appropriate to describe how thirsty OP is.
nvrndr
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Plz beehive yourself.
Um, I'm pretty certain they do.
TUROK
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You mean aside from agreeing to go out somewhere with him and even suggesting places to go?
late to the party
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Thats right. I wasnt able to see things clearly then. (still not clear enough now maybe)
I thought I would end up being so miserable for some time but guess what? I am already feeling better now.
I love GAF
They do?
terrisus
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They can.
phillipgessert
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Here's the thing though dude: OP obviously knows by now that she's not interested, even though she never straight up articulated it. So how did he figure it out?
SquiddyCracker
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You're damn right.
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YES. OP reminds me a bit of what I did, and oh god that turned out catastrophic. I was acting like a complete idiot at times (although she wasn't innocent at all heh) and while that relationship at this point is probably never going to heal in any way, it all was a great "bro, that's NOT how to do things" for myself. It's a shame if it happens to you with a girl you honestly like (or because of that), but yeah, sometimes you just fuck everything up because you're completely out of whack.
I think I just lost my trail of thought. TLDR: It'll teach you, OP. If you let it.
Yeah, idk how you didn't get the hint if she only replies to one of your six texts. Honestly, I think texting twice in a row if you're not dating or something is way too excessive. Not always, but most of the time.
terrisus
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Darn, I need to stop going out with friends, they're going to get the wrong idea.
EmptySpace
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an overwhelmingly majority don't.
moreso if you don't live in the western world. even in the us, there are way more areas where women don't generally ask men out on a date.
Mr.Monitor
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Also, the more I read that 2ch thread, the more I think that it's actually a pretty valuable piece of reading material. Humor aside, it's an interesting insight into the whole "stalker" mentality.
Valerie Cherish
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You know, I was reading the OP and thinking "Fuck, I've been texting this guy pretty often..." but I've also been getting laid. I guess I can tell when people start being evasive (or when I do it myself), but I saw this red flag early on in the OP:
From February, she started to become evasive about my lunch proposals but I still managed to get her out with me.
You shouldn't have to manage to get anyone to go out with you. If you had it phrased in your head that way before you sent the confession, that should have been the clue to not send it.
Time for me to reign in my texting. My self image is crumbling and I need a shower. I love GAF.
From February, she started to become evasive about my lunch proposals but I still managed to get her out with me.
You shouldn't have to manage to get anyone to go out with you. If you had it phrased in your head that way before you sent the confession, that should have been the clue to not send it.
Time for me to reign in my texting. My self image is crumbling and I need a shower. I love GAF.
TUROK
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It probably has something to do with being stood up repeatedly. After many many many rejections, he finally got it.
Nice deflection. A++++.
Count Dookkake
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Some do, some don't.
In general, waiting for the man to ask is a good test of his ability to articulate desires and intent, and to take action on them. As women get enough offers, there is no real compelling reason for them to change this strategy.
Good luck.
Scully Scully Scoo
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he took the hints, he just decided to ignore them. its usually never a good idea to chase someone who isnt interested in u but maybe op felt up to the challenge.
well he would come off as creepy to the girl but that doesnt mean he is creepy, just misguided. op needs to learn how to play the game, he is too focused on 'give it to me on the chin' type of attitude which gets people no where. op needs to stop trying to force things and let them occur naturally. he needs a whole mental rethink, he is demonstrating self sabotaging qualities whereby he knows how the situation is going to end but proceeds with it anyway
Pejo
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That's not how harassment at the workplace..works. Despite the way the story has been told by OP, if she hasn't explicitly asked him to stop, she has no grounds for harassment claims.
Reminded me of this: http://youtu.be/bxO_wp0AQqY
kitchenmotors
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Oh, it's real. This isn't the first nor will it be the last time that GAF is graced with such awkwardness of guys who go after girls and never get the hint that they're not interested.
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