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[Count Dookkake]

Don´t worry OP.

Should be a version that says: NO MATTER HOW NICE HE SEEMS SOMEONE SOMEWHERE IS TIRED OF HIS SIMP.

 

[Carcetti]

I've always wondered (mainly to female-GAF but if anyone has the answer I wont mind) what makes a girl lose so suddenly interest in you? Lets say, for example, you've been interacting with a girl via text message and things have been going pretty good. All of a sudden, everything changes and she seems distant, etc, BUT interactions never changed between what was working before and after. What gives? I've always had that curiosity, and never have I gotten a clear response by a female as to why it happens....

You get to know each other better and find out that you're not actually compatible and the needed chemistry is not there. Don't think you can form a logical rule for this. The early days are a trial period for a relationship.

 

[Konka]

I've always wondered (mainly to female-GAF but if anyone has the answer I wont mind) what makes a girl lose so suddenly interest in you? Lets say, for example, you've been interacting with a girl via text message and things have been going pretty good. All of a sudden, everything changes and she seems distant, etc, BUT interactions never changed between what was working before and after. What gives? I've always had that curiosity, and never have I gotten a clear response by a female as to why it happens....

She didn't like you in the first place and was just being nice by responding to you and you never got the hint.

 

[Leeness]

Telling her she should behave herself? What the hell is won't with you? I'm being serious. Listen to yourself.

I don't even know what "behave herself" means...

Like...is he going to stalk her if she doesn't "behave herself"??? Murder her in her sleep? It sounds really weird.

Behaaaave yourself around me.

 

[aeolist]

uhm... 5 is actually possible. I mean, I would want "help"/opinion on what to do or how to deal with a guy I'm not interested in who texts me everyday. Of course, she may have not done that, but let's not push away the possibility that she spread it around the office, mmkay?

also it's not malicious or shuri saying "haha you look like a loser to all of your coworkers," it's a fair warning that this is something that will happen when you behave like this

 

[The Technomancer]

I've always wondered (mainly to female-GAF but if anyone has the answer I wont mind) what makes a girl lose so suddenly interest in you? Lets say, for example, you've been interacting with a girl via text message and things have been going pretty good. All of a sudden, everything changes and she seems distant, etc, BUT interactions never changed between what was working before and after. What gives? I've always had that curiosity, and never have I gotten a clear response by a female as to why it happens....

Uhm, it happens for the same reason it happens with guys. I've been that guy before, lord knows, although I usually try to explain it. Maybe they found someone else who they connected with better? Maybe they just woke up one morning and realized that there's something just not really working and they're not interested in continuing?

 

[dark_prinny]

I've always wondered (mainly to female-GAF but if anyone has the answer I wont mind) what makes a girl lose so suddenly interest in you? Lets say, for example, you've been interacting with a girl via text message and things have been going pretty good. All of a sudden, everything changes and she seems distant, etc, BUT interactions never changed between what was working before and after. What gives? I've always had that curiosity, and never have I gotten a clear response by a female as to why it happens....

Women can be interested in you as a friend. Women can be uninterested in you at everything else.

 

[commedieu]

Everything Shuri said is 100% correct.

and i'll note that "I don't know that women are people." type men are still going very strong it appears.

 

[EVOL 100%]

Haha, I wasn’t even that angry. It’s just a way of me to tell her that she should behave herself, even if it’s not for me. I am not in such a position though.

She owes you nothing goddamnit

 

[Deleted member 57681]

1. You creeped her out a long time ago.
2. She was just being polite by saying yes and then cancelling/avoiding. It's a passive way to avoid confrontations.
3. She is probably scared of you
4. You confessed feelings for a woman without having much interaction with her at all. What the fuck?
5. You probably are the laughing stock at the office and she has probably made aware all the other females about how creepy you are with her
6. Don't be surprised if you get into MASSIVE TROUBLE at work over this for Harassment.
7. Real life is not an anime or a dating sim, stop quantifying your interactions with her.
8. Leave her alone, god damnit.

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✓✓

 

[edbrat]

OP you've already received much good advice, listen to Shuri. And man the fuck up, if it doesn't work with someone don't contort yourself every which way until you really fuck it up, leave the situation with your dignity intact and get to work on someone else or take up juggling or some shit. Just don't become "that guy".

So a few hours ago I sent her my last message. Instead of telling her I was hopelessly in love with her, I just told her that “pursuing someone desperately will creep them out… It’s better to make mistakes and then learn from them…” It’s a short message. Not sure if it means anything or not but I guess it’s my last.

I just cannot work out what possible positive outcome you could have envisaged when sending this. They are all bad and they all make a bad situation worse. If you ever get to a point where you feel inclined to text something like this again it is leon_bailout.gif time.

 

[shuri]

Maybe her phone is broken, I'd start leaving hand written notes on her desk at work.

Why stop there? Don't half-ass things:

• Buy her a new phone (top of the line too), and of course with her first year pre-paid.
• Change the background to a picture of yourself (to remind her of who bought this phone);
• Add your phone numbers at work, at home and your cells as her first contacts in her list.
• Take tons of selfies of yourself, and include bonus pics of things you own that might interest her (blurays, games, books, comics)
• Don't forget to txt her new phone a few times to test it. Test it again in front of her when she unpacks it to show her that it works.
• Activate the gps localization service by default for all apps!
• Pre-add important dates in the phone's calendar such as "The first time we met at work", "Our first lunch at Subway", "Christmas time at my parents' home", "Most fertile time of the month according to my estimations and research"
• Preload the phone with carefully selected romantic tracks.
• Fill the "Notes" apps with deep thoughts about your relationship with her; your expectations, your needs and how you plan to make her the happiest woman on Earth. Be detailed!

 

[DY_nasty]

He contacted her too much but it's not like he was stalking her. OP said he knows he went about this the wrong way, there's no need to kick him when he's down.

Dude literally sent her off with a 'behave yourself'. Telling someone 'no, you're still wrong' isn't kicking them when they're down. And all the 'don't worry bro, don't worry - you'll find someone who thinks you're awesome' is fucking terrible considering its just gonna reinforce that way of thinking.

 

[Silky]

uhm... 5 is actually possible. I mean, I would want "help"/opinion on what to do or how to deal with a guy I'm not interested in who texts me everyday. Of course, she may have not done that, but let's not push away the possibility that she spread it around the office, mmkay?

Fair enough. It'd be incredibly malicious of the person, though

 

[ZeroX03]

OP, here's your problem, and I'm shocked that nobody in the thread has corrected you:

You're texting her. You should have been calling her. 3-4 times a day. Maybe more, it doesn't count if she doesn't pick up of course. It's not a real "I love you" unless you speak it, and she'll find your stuttering charming like Emma Stone did in The Amazing Spider-Man. Consider breathing heavily instead of talking too, it'll really put her at ease. I guarantee you'll get results.

 

[dark_prinny]

Should be a version that says: NO MATTER HOW NICE HE SEEMS SOMEONE SOMEWHERE IS TIRED OF HIS SIMP.

:lol.

 

[Artanisix]

Holy shit what the fuck is wrong with you op

 

[DrEvil]

1. You creeped her out a long time ago.
2. She was just being polite by saying yes and then cancelling/avoiding. It's a passive way to avoid confrontations.
3. She is probably scared of you
4. You confessed feelings for a woman without having much interaction with her at all. What the fuck?
5. You probably are the laughing stock at the office and she has probably made aware all the other females about how creepy you are with her
6. Don't be surprised if you get into MASSIVE TROUBLE at work over this for Harassment.
7. Real life is not an anime or a dating sim, stop quantifying your interactions with her.
8. Leave her alone, god damnit.

ITT I witnessed first hand the difference between married / in a relationship / socially skilled GAFfers and those like the OP and everyone who thinks Shuri's above post is wrong or bad.

 

[Ninja Scooter]

Shuri is spittin truth, except for the get in trouble for harassment part. You will probably be seen as the office creep for a bit.

It's not that far fetched. I've seen it happen at my office over unwanted texts/phone calls (granted the clincher was that the dude ended up following the girl home one night) but some HR offices are super sensitive to this kind of shit.

I've always wondered (mainly to female-GAF but if anyone has the answer I wont mind) what makes a girl lose so suddenly interest in you? Lets say, for example, you've been interacting with a girl via text message and things have been going pretty good. All of a sudden, everything changes and she seems distant, etc, BUT interactions never changed between what was working before and after. What gives? I've always had that curiosity, and never have I gotten a clear response by a female as to why it happens....

Maybe she didn't like you that much to begin with but didn't have the heart to let you down? Maybe she met someone else? Maybe she realized after a few interactions that she doesn't like you as much. It could be anything. When you say that what you were doing was "working" is, I think, the wrong way to look at things. Women and relationships are not a video game boss where you figure out the obvious attack pattern and win. You have to be able to roll with shit and not be so rattled when things unexpectedly change from what you were expecting because they will. The actions you take when dealing with the opposite sex (or a romantic relationship) shouldn't be taken because you think that's what it takes for you to win. It comes across very unnatural and people can sense that.

 

[freenudemacusers]

force her hand op and list her as your significant other on facebook

Fair enough. It'd be incredibly malicious of the person, though

given that the op told her to 'behave herself'*, i can only imagine what the previous messages looked like.


*lolwut

 

[aeolist]

He contacted her too much but it's not like he was stalking her. OP said he knows he went about this the wrong way, there's no need to kick him when he's down.

her post is hardly that. if he wants to get a girlfriend he needs to understand how he comes across to women, and shuri is totally right that this particular behavior looks really REALLY bad (especially at work).

also this lady is probably seriously creeped out right now and very possibly feels threatened. he needs to lay off for her sake more than his own.

 

[asvpxjad]

3-4 texts a day? Jeez.

I for one never will be the first to initiate first contact with a female. If they're interested they can spark the conversation first & it works for me. I hate feeling like I'm annoying someone.

 

[Kyoufu]

Haha, I wasn’t even that angry. It’s just a way of me to tell her that she should behave herself, even if it’s not for me. I am not in such a position though.

Jesus Christ.

I've made mistakes when I was younger but I can't stop shaking my head at everything posted by you in this thread.

 

[bud23]

So a few hours ago I sent her my last message. Instead of telling her I was hopelessly in love with her, I just told her that “pursuing someone desperately will creep them out… It’s better to make mistakes and then learn from them…” It’s a short message. Not sure if it means anything or not but I guess it’s my last.

OP she is ignoring you, she just is not interested in you, she probably doesn't like you. It´s fine mate. Just move on.

Maybe her phone is broken, I'd start leaving hand written notes on her desk at work.

YES MOYES.

 

[PhoenixDark]

Haha, I wasn’t even that angry. It’s just a way of me to tell her that she should behave herself, even if it’s not for me. I am not in such a position though.

Behave herself? What the hell is that, a threat?

 

[Jhoan]

Maybe her phone is broken, I'd start leaving hand written notes on her desk at work.

And while you're at it OP, you should go through her waste basket to see if she threw away said notes and wait for her by her car to confront her.

 

[daycru]

Why stop there? Don't half-ass things:

• Buy her a new phone (top of the line too), and of course with her first year pre-paid.
• Change the background to a picture of yourself (to remind her of who bought this phone);
• Add your phone numbers at work, at home and your cells as her first contacts in her list.
• Take tons of selfies of yourself, and include bonus pics of things you own that might interest her (blurays, games, books, comics)
• Don't forget to txt her new phone a few times to test it. Test it again in front of her when she unpacks it to show her that it works.
• Activate the gps localization service by default for all apps!
• Pre-add important dates in the phone's calendar such as "The first time we met at work", "Our first lunch at Subway", "Christmas time at my parents' home", "Most fertile time of the month according to my estimations and research"
• Preload the phone with carefully selected romantic tracks.
• Fill the "Notes" apps with deep thoughts about your relationship with her; your expectations, your needs and how you plan to make her the happiest woman on Earth. Be detailed!

also it's not malicious or shuri saying "haha you look like a loser to all of your coworkers,"

lol

 

[Konka]

Behave herself? What the hell is that, a threat?

And some people are claiming he didn't freak her the fuck out.

 

[ItIsOkBro]

Anything less than a 1/1 reply rate and it's time to call it quits, damn.

 

[Derwind]

Why stop there? Don't half-ass things:

• Buy her a new phone (top of the line too), and of course with her first year pre-paid.
• Change the background to a picture of yourself (to remind her of who bought this phone);
• Add your phone numbers at work, at home and your cells as her first contacts in her list.
• Take tons of selfies of yourself, and include bonus pics of things you own that might interest her (blurays, games, books, comics)
• Don't forget to txt her new phone a few times to test it. Test it again in front of her when she unpacks it to show her that it works.
• Activate the gps localization service by default for all apps!
• Pre-add important dates in the phone's calendar such as "The first time we met at work", "Our first lunch at Subway", "Christmas time at my parents' home", "Most fertile time of the month according to my estimations and research"
• Preload the phone with carefully selected romantic tracks.
• Fill the "Notes" apps with deep thoughts about your relationship with her; your expectations, your needs and how you plan to make her the happiest woman on Earth. Be detailed!

Bullets 5 through 9..... can't breath...

 

[The Technomancer]

Behave herself? What the hell is that, a threat?

No, just a warped view of human interaction.

OP is salvageable, he just has to rethink....a lot of stuff. Its going to take a while.

 

[Brinbe]

Omfg @ behave herself. What does that mean?
That sort of explains everything in a weird, twisted way. Christ.

 

[Mr.Monitor]

1. You creeped her out a long time ago.
2. She was just being polite by saying yes and then cancelling/avoiding. It's a passive way to avoid confrontations.
3. She is probably scared of you
4. You confessed feelings for a woman without having much interaction with her at all. What the fuck?
5. You probably are the laughing stock at the office and she has probably made aware all the other females about how creepy you are with her
6. Don't be surprised if you get into MASSIVE TROUBLE at work over this for Harassment.
7. Real life is not an anime or a dating sim, stop quantifying your interactions with her.
8. Leave her alone, god damnit.

Nah, I think that's taking it a little far. I mean, he just sounds like your average awkw-

Haha, I wasn’t even that angry. It’s just a way of me to tell her that she should behave herself, even if it’s not for me. I am not in such a position though.

yup ok nevermind

 

[Courage]

Omfg @ behave herself. What does that mean?

I think OP is trying to be Austin Powers, except he got laid on the daily.

 

[aeolist]

Pre-add important dates in the phone's calendar such as "The first time we met at work", "Our first lunch at Subway", "Christmas time at my parents' home", "Most fertile time of the month according to my estimations and research"

#dead

 

[BigDes]

And while you're at it OP, you should go through her waste basket to see if she threw away said notes and wait for her by her car to confront her.

Indeed, have you been through her garbage bags at her apartment yet? Usually valuable intel about the female in there

 

[NoctisVsStar]

Walk away bro one thing you have learn from this situation never give the sense of hopelessness and unconsciously control to a girl.. Sometimes you just can't beg or show thrist to a girl, you have to show indifference/interest it's a delicate line. Have some pride and just don't text no more. Listen to usher- burn(everything will make sense) and life continues and someone outthere is going to apreaciate you more op.

 

[EviLore]

Sometimes you just have to jump out of an airplane without a parachute to understand why you need one. With the parachute being your balls, OP. Go make your best swimming motion in the air and try to retrieve them.

 

[Acorn]

I insta-cringe when I read "confessed" in relation to catching feelings.

 

[The Technomancer]

Omfg @ behave herself. What does that mean?
That sort of explains everything in a weird, twisted way. Christ.

Its speaking to the entire underlying dynamic behind the OPs issues and the issues of a lot of guys like him, where human interactions have reciprocative obligations. Its behind the whole "nice guy" thing, its behind the whole "she should reply to me thing", etc

 

[Muppet345]

OP this is you: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e8teRxOSNHs

 

[Relix]

This is kind of sad.... =/

 

[Kano on the Phone]

I don't even know what "behave herself" means...

Like...is he going to stalk her if she doesn't "behave herself"??? Murder her in her sleep? It sounds really weird.

Behaaaave yourself around me.

For real. Some of the shit OP says sounds like shit that might be used as evidence someday.

 

[late to the party]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vZChD_Gni8U

I get a better sense now... can feel the exact same feeling... haha

 

[Charles Foster Kane]

OP, behave yourself.

 

[Azuran]

Haha, I wasn’t even that angry. It’s just a way of me to tell her that she should behave herself, even if it’s not for me. I am not in such a position though.

Oh my god, this is just so bad. You really sound entitled and desperate like hell. No wonder she started ignoring you. Most people would do the same rather than deal with someone like you.

 

[triplestation]

Op do you like to tie sweaters around ur neck

 

[EVOL 100%]

OP when you shower a person with unwanted attention, it's just that, unwanted. She turned you down with subtlety of a brick to the face, she owes you nothing and the notion of telling her to 'behave herself' for not repricorating is ridiculous

 

[braves01]

I kept texting her every day (just about 3-4 messages) and tried to not to be annoying, and that’s when I noticed she became even less responsive (from to a 1/3 reply rate to a 1/6 reply rate).

I don't know, that seems like a lot of texts to me. Try your best to move on, since it's clear she doesn't want to reciprocate.

 

[PhoenixDark]

I've always wondered (mainly to female-GAF but if anyone has the answer I wont mind) what makes a girl lose so suddenly interest in you? Lets say, for example, you've been interacting with a girl via text message and things have been going pretty good. All of a sudden, everything changes and she seems distant, etc, BUT interactions never changed between what was working before and after. What gives? I've always had that curiosity, and never have I gotten a clear response by a female as to why it happens....

What makes you lose interest in someone? The same applies to women. They aren't some exotic animal hidden deep in the jungle, only viewable on National Geographic.

Sometimes I'm busy. Sometimes the conversation gets tiring, or you want to "move on." Sometimes she says something dumb that turns me completely off. I remember giving a girl the silent treatment after she told me she was watching The Godfather with her brothers and thought it was stupid because "there aren't any black people in this LOL." On to the next one.