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Drama DnD streamer 'Arcadum' accused of emotional abuse and sexual assault - here we go again gaf!!!!

Loope

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Don't know why people are being shitheads about that. Happy that you can be accepting of your past and that it seems like you got help with recovery. Keep it up.
It's cool, i did what i did, payed for it, came back stronger. 15 years now. Anyaway don't mean to derail the thread, my point was that we are responsible for our action, at the time some people put the blame on the guys i hung out with, i never did. It was always my fault.
 

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I can guarantee you women are very aware of how men have no clue, and that they can be dangerous when things are taken the wrong way. They SHOULD feel free to tell a man straightforward they're not interested... In an idealistic world. However, (not all) women cannot simply do that - out of fear of retaliation.

An awkward guy gets mixed signals and is told to fuck off, they can still act out of line and be threatening. Women are used to it and often the safest course of action is to try and ignore it or "let it happen" if it isn't forcefully endangering.

For example, my friend was outside of a bank and a guy catcalled her from his window and made remarks to her. She is a brave gives-no-fucks soul and told him to fuck off. Then he started to pull over and park in the bank lot. She had to run inside and hide with the employees until they saw him drive off + she got escorted out. Different scenario than the OP story, but it shows women can't just shut men's advances.

That is why the onus is on us men to do better. We shouldn't be the ones putting them in uncomfortable positions and why communication is key.
I agree that it’s on the guys to do better. But I have 2 young daughters and I want to teach them the reality that lots of guys don’t behave like gentlemen and you have to deal with them smartly and protect yourself.

It’s like if you leave a bunch of cash and jewelry in plain view inside your car and then it gets broken into. Yes, the thief is the guilty one who deserves to be punished. But you also acted foolishly by creating the conditions where that would predictably happen.

Also I think there’s a difference between dealing with random aggressive assholes vs niceguys trying to get all touchy feely under the guise of friendship.
 
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I can guarantee you women are very aware of how men have no clue, and that they can be dangerous when things are taken the wrong way. They SHOULD feel free to tell a man straightforward they're not interested... In an idealistic world. However, (not all) women cannot simply do that - out of fear of retaliation.

An awkward guy gets mixed signals and is told to fuck off, they can still act out of line and be threatening. Women are used to it and often the safest course of action is to try and ignore it or "let it happen" if it isn't forcefully endangering.

For example, my friend was outside of a bank and a guy catcalled her from his window and made remarks to her. She is a brave gives-no-fucks soul and told him to fuck off. Then he started to pull over and park in the bank lot. She had to run inside and hide with the employees until they saw him drive off + she got escorted out. Different scenario than the OP story, but it shows women can't just shut men's advances.

That is why the onus is on us men to do better. We shouldn't be the ones putting them in uncomfortable positions and why communication is key.

I agree men have a bigger responsibility in ensuring they aren't assholes towards women they're interested in, but your example here to support your point is highly contextual.

In the case of the OP, the woman in question was friends with him. He wasn't some random stranger on the street catcalling her. That relational context provides a stronger basis for her to have to courage to say no clearly and concisely without fear of retaliation, because of the assumption that both parties wouldn't want to jeopardise the friendship.

When the man in question is an unpredictable unknown quantity, I can totally get women feeling fear of reprisal if she responds to his sexual advances in a negative way. On the other hand, if there is a preexisting relationship/friendship, there's far less reason for the woman to be fearful unless she's such a poor judge of character that she'd willingly choose to be friends with a dangerous asshole.
 
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I'm slightly torn here. He looks like he more commonly sexually assaults boxes of Oreos, but also "it was only after these vtubers got purged that they started relaying their stories," kind of makes it sound like the clout chasing that is far too common in these stories. But also also, I've never heard of this guy, and he looks like the type to berate your taste in music because it's not French shoegaze black metal written by Neo-Nazis, so how much clout could you get from him in the first place?

Also, not to victim blame, but who looks at this guy and thinks "yeah, a backrub from him totally doesn't hold any lecherous undertones," ?

But also also as well, is a backrub really worthy of being deemed sexual assault when there's literally rape rooms by cartels who traffic woman like they're cocaine? I mean, the "dry hump hug," sounds awkward, but I mean, look at the dry hump hugger in this case.

But then again, crying into someone's shoulder with your boner after a back rub session also gives me some heavy Norman Bates vibes, so like...

Fuck it, I don't have a degree in philosophy, this is above my pay grade.
 
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No, not all of us are degenerates.
backing up homer simpson GIF
 

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I can guarantee you women are very aware of how men have no clue, and that they can be dangerous when things are taken the wrong way. They SHOULD feel free to tell a man straightforward they're not interested... In an idealistic world. However, (not all) women cannot simply do that - out of fear of retaliation.

An awkward guy gets mixed signals and is told to fuck off, they can still act out of line and be threatening. Women are used to it and often the safest course of action is to try and ignore it or "let it happen" if it isn't forcefully endangering.
Jesus fucking Christ, one of the first things parents ( or sex educators in general) should start teaching is that there's nothing more dangerous that not being firm enough with a rejection when you are getting awkward and undesired sexual attentions.
This "fear of retaliation" is bullshit with hardly any basis in reality. Violent retaliation to a firm rejection is something that just doesn't happen unless you were already dealing with a ax-crazed mass murderer on a war path.
 

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What. The. Fuck.

okay yeah this lady is full of shit. She gave him “asexual” lap dances and let him scratch her back and play with her hair and is making these excuses like these are all just normal non-sexual things that make/female platonic friends do.

bullshit. Sounds more like she was benefitting from their relationship so she allowed the creepy stuff to continue, then only decided to speak up once she was no longer benefitting from it. There’s no way in hell that she didn’t know what was going on.

I’d feel a lot more sorry for her if this were just some creepy guy making unwanted advances. Sounds more like she was leading this guy on in order to get what she wants from him.

obviously the guy is also a total creep who is also guilty, and was using his clout to try to get in her pants. But I am having a hard time seeing her as an innocent victim
 

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God, I wasted my time clicking on all those profiles.

So uhm yeah, hope this resolves in whatever way is favorable, not going to read all those statements lol
 

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These days you need to do up contracts stating you wanna fuck. Gone are the days of flirting or showing affection.

The first chick legit said she allowed back rubs and playing with her hair, dude was showing intimacy and she knew and didn't pull him up on it saying she wasn't interested?.
 

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We are animals with a bigger than average brain. That's all. Look what a porn site offers. EVERYTHING you can imagine. 90% of that is degenerate. Sending up a train into a woman's vagina, pissing, shitting, ejaculating on her face. That's not fucked up? Making her drink urine?

Sir, this is a fucking Wendy’s.
 
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Neckbearded weeb VR chatting RP anime god D&D GM master who can't take criticism ends up being a loser creep? Nah. No way. Never could have seen that coming!

Never watched him as it's not my stuff, but I knew of him from others on Twitch (namely Moonmoon). Dude seemed weird just in passing to me.

Anyway. HE DONESO.
 
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We are animals with a bigger than average brain. That's all. Look what a porn site offers. EVERYTHING you can imagine. 90% of that is degenerate. Sending up a train into a woman's vagina, pissing, shitting, ejaculating on her face. That's not fucked up? Making her drink urine?

A totally fucked up society, that's what we have. And what can a person who doesn't know anybody from this equation do with accusations like this? So now people will serve justice? Based on what?

Speak for yourself, dude. Just because it exists doesn't mean that we're ALL prone to it. Like you're walking down the street and you trip and "Awww, shucks, ma'am, excuse me for pissing in your mouth and giving you a Nesquick enema while I furiously beat off, it wasn't my fault, I'm a man, hahaha,"

"Oh, it's no problem, sir, I've got three of them at home, myself!"
 
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Why do these morons make their relationship drama so public" Tiffany Tiefling's Twitter is so cringe right now.
 

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Arcadum continued to say I was the only one he could trust, that we had a personal friendship, and wanted personal lap dances. Even though I am Asexual, I used to pride myself in my dances and I thought they were great for folks to distract themselves and as a form comfort

I guess this is victim blaming but come the fuck on. "I've always seen my lap dances are a great way to distract and comfort people.....BUT NO BONERS OR FEELINGS K?" *grinds ass on guys dick* "HEY WATCH IT BUDDY THIS IS THERAPY"
 

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Speak for yourself, dude. Just because it exists doesn't mean that we're ALL prone to it. Like you're walking down the street and you trip and "Awww, shucks, ma'am, excuse me for pissing in your mouth and giving you a Nesquick enema while I furiously beat off, it wasn't my fault, I'm a man, hahaha,"

"Oh, it's no problem, sir, I've got three of them at home, myself!"
You are stating the obvious.
 

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We are animals with a bigger than average brain. That's all. Look what a porn site offers. EVERYTHING you can imagine. 90% of that is degenerate. Sending up a train into a woman's vagina, pissing, shitting, ejaculating on her face. That's not fucked up? Making her drink urine?

A totally fucked up society, that's what we have. And what can a person who doesn't know anybody from this equation do with accusations like this? So now people will serve justice? Based on what?

Woah woah boomer! I'll be pissing and shitting on my ladies till I die. That's cultured true love I'll have you know.
 
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Oh, I just read the account in question. Yes, giving "personal lap dances," as a comfort is fucking Einstein level. I don't know enough about this chick's situation to really comment on it, either, but given she made this public information, I won't say I don't believe her, but it is interesting that these people are always the victim of some former sexual assault and/or rape. In my (admittedly limited) world scope, running into people who have been raped in real life is like running into people who have been struck by lightning. Rare. Actual victims of this shit (not making any suppositions on her place on the spectrum) should be listened to, and actual perpetrators should have the book, shelf and library thrown at them, but, not being a naive person, I have to wonder about the validity of Twitter personalities who make it sound like they can't go outside and accidentally show a centimeter of ankle without getting fondled en masse like Sam Porter-Bridges fending off BTs.
 

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And you aren’t doing him any favors by trying not to hurt his feelings. You should feel free to tell him straightforwardly that you’re not interested, and tell him to fuck off if he gets all defensive and plays the victim afterward.
He will not get defensive, he will get aggressive, harass the woman and call her names. Which is the reason women prefer ghosting on dating apps.
 

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"Scratch back and play with hair", yeah right, as if any girl would let a man casually do that without ulterior motive (from the girl that is).
She probably was very disappointed that he started crying like a bitch, otherwise they would've fucked like normal people and nobody would've heard about this.
 
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I’m so glad I am old and married lol. Dating today would be a huge headache having to bring and sign written agreements to flirt and make advances. “ okay just sign here, here, and initial here and we can make out..”
 
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It’s best not to give this kind of stuff more space online than it’s taking up. Who is this guy? People actually watch DND streamers? I’ll roll a tahc0.
 
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lol everyone involved has a fucking lame ass anime twitter icon, and they all seem like a bunch of fucking losers (the dude included) from their pathetic twitter posts. Sounds like your typical over the top Twitter drama. Plus, it seems to be difficult to work out how much of this happened in person and how much happened in VR or online or whatever the fuck these weirdos are doing.

In fact, why are we even talking about this on GAF? Let them duke it out on Twitter (like they always do).
 
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I'm slightly torn here. He looks like he more commonly sexually assaults boxes of Oreos, but also "it was only after these vtubers got purged that they started relaying their stories," kind of makes it sound like the clout chasing that is far too common in these stories. But also also, I've never heard of this guy, and he looks like the type to berate your taste in music because it's not French shoegaze black metal written by Neo-Nazis, so how much clout could you get from him in the first place?

Also, not to victim blame, but who looks at this guy and thinks "yeah, a backrub from him totally doesn't hold any lecherous undertones," ?

But also also as well, is a backrub really worthy of being deemed sexual assault when there's literally rape rooms by cartels who traffic woman like they're cocaine? I mean, the "dry hump hug," sounds awkward, but I mean, look at the dry hump hugger in this case.

But then again, crying into someone's shoulder with your boner after a back rub session also gives me some heavy Norman Bates vibes, so like...

Fuck it, I don't have a degree in philosophy, this is above my pay grade.

Hey! this really bothers me.

Not all french shoegaze black metal is written by neo nazis, this only adds to the whole black metal are nazi's trope and really offends me
 
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back in my day if you where kissing a girl and went for jumper tit and the girl didnt want it you got a fucking slap or told fuck off, now you get your face plastered all over twitter and called a rapist.. i dont envy you young cunts leaving your basement and anime pillows and going out into the real world, youse are all proper fucked.. and not in the good way
 

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back in my day if you where kissing a girl and went for jumper tit and the girl didnt want it you got a fucking slap or told fuck off, now you get your face plastered all over twitter and called a rapist.. i dont envy you young cunts leaving your basement and anime pillows and going out into the real world, youse are all proper fucked.. and not in the good way
don't worry when you get big those cunts from the past even back then will still try to fuck you over ;)
 

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And you thought internet drama was dead!!!

Source: https://www.dexerto.com/general/dd-...-abuse-of-women-sexual-assault-claim-1642933/
Account #1: https://t.co/EXa41Dmjd2?amp=1
Account #2: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1vXVU0Y3Z1n_4PSJIwLHjtsgRsdtbXcQCbPykzAfLGGI/edit
Account #3: https://t.co/ZpsXd3UB64?amp=1




Popular Dungeons & Dragons streamer Jeremy ‘GloriousArcadum’ Black has been accused of manipulation, emotional abuse, and sexual assault. In total, at least ten women have made similar accusations against the streamer, who says he will issue a response.

The allegations​

It is alleged that on August 26, Arcadum reached out to multiple women with whom he was friends, explaining that he was going to “block, and ban all the girls he had been involved with or close with” in an attempt to save his relationship with streamer Tiffany Tiefling.

However, Momo claims that “it was not until later, when I was approached by the other women who he had forcibly removed, that he was simply trying to sweep all his wrongdoing under the rug, to salvage his reputation with his community.”

Another nine women have posted similar messages, all relaying their experience with Black. These include VTubers/streamers Lyra121, Cri, NaomiOop, SummerSalt, Rediculous, UzuriMia, Kelli Siren, and Folkona.

Folkona’s claims include an accusation of sexual assault. “Arcadum asked to scratch my back and play with my hair,” she wrote. “I was obviously okay with this because he hadn’t been intimate with me before this point and I am super friendly in this sense with others. It was only when his hands started wandering where they shouldn’t when it became something more.

“I finally got the courage to get up from the seat I was in, he also stood up and attempted to embrace me very close. I allowed it because I assumed it was a hug, only to feel his erection against my leg. I remained motionless and did not touch Arcadum back in any way, shape or form. This weird, dry-humpy embrace lasted several minutes as he cried into my neck. I could feel him gripping at my shirt and pants and holding me violently and just crying into my neck.”



Oh my fucking God. I'm ordering a Japanese wife robot...fuck it. I give up.

There have definitely been times where I've had "friendly" encounters with a female friend that escalate into something more in a similar fashion that's described by one of these women. If it had not gone that way...am I considered a sexual offender now?

Lock me the fuck up and throw away the god damn key.

I don't want to be in this world anymore.
 
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