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[Harry Dresden]

My wife has talked about this. But, much like the op, she wants her 'old' boobs back. From before having kids.

She doesn't want a size increase, she just wants them to be perky again.

 

[Hari Seldon]

I don't really agree with those saying that it's her body and her choice. When married, your spouse is literally intimately involved with you on an ongoing basis, and as such I don't feel these decisions can reasonably be made in a vacuum any longer.

As a separate example, if I really wanted a tattoo but my girlfriend was strongly against it, I'd probably not get it. She would probably be looking at it more than I do anyway. In short: I don't feel that people are islands of personal choice once they decide to share their lives and bodies with someone else on an ongoing basis.

I completely agree with you. It may be her body, but it is the family's finances. I don't know how much these are, but I imagine they are pretty expensive.

 

[Krev]

I don't really agree with those saying that it's her body and her choice. When married, your spouse is literally intimately involved with you on an ongoing basis, and as such I don't feel these decisions can reasonably be made in a vacuum any longer.

As a separate example, if I really wanted a tattoo but my girlfriend was strongly against it, I'd probably not get it. She would probably be looking at it more than I do anyway. In short: I don't feel that people are islands of personal choice once they decide to share their lives and bodies with someone else on an ongoing basis.

Agree 100%. Was trying to say this earlier on, but you articulated it much better.

 

[yogloo]

I actually think that this might be a symptom of a problem that haven't surfaced yet.

 

[Zoe]

Why does she want breast enlargement surgery?

I don't understand why anyone would want larger breasts, to be honest. :/
If I were a woman, and I had breasts, I'd get a breast reduction surgery.

So even if you had bee stings for boobs, you'd get rid of them to have a flat chest?

Lolwut? She needs mental help now? Nonsense.

If a guy wants to show off, he can get a nice shiny sports car or a fancy suit. His wife can get a boob job or expensive jewelry. They'll cut quite the figure around town. So what? It's what some people like, nothing weird about it.

A plastic surgeon with any sort of decency would make sure that the decision is mentally sound before breaking out the scalpel.

 

[andycapps]

I completely agree with you. It may be her body, but it is the family's finances. I don't know how much these are, but I imagine they are pretty expensive.

I gave it a cursory glance a few months back for my wife and while I could be wrong, it looked like the procedures for a local place that does tons of them were around $3500. I'm not sure if insurance would cover anything because of it being a cosmetic surgery, unless you could get your doctor to say it was a medical necessity maybe they would pick up a percentage.

 

[Calabi]

Its sad that this has become normalized. People go into major surgery like its nothing and are so insecure that they think changing themselves is the way to deal with it. I cant imagine how horribly distorted people may become in the future.

 

[AkuMifune]

The implant scar is worse than being flat.

 

[shanshan310]

Omg don't do it. Implants with already large natural breasts can be disasterous as they sag at different rates :/ I've seen it first hand with my cousin and that shit is nasty and requires surgery

34DD isn't that large... I mean, I'm only a size down from that and mine are tiny ;.;

 

[PapaJustify]

34DD isn't that large... I mean, I'm only a size down from that and mine are tiny ;.;

But isn't double D like quite voluminous? Anyways, many girls wouldn't believe how many guys like or even prefer smaller (maybe tiny) breasts.

 

[anarckitty]

34DD isn't that large... I mean, I'm only a size down from that and mine are tiny ;.;

You've got huge knockers. I think I'll hold onto my C cup.

 

[PogiJones]

Again, thanks for the input, everyone. It's been helpful in guiding my research.

Okay, so my first thought about finding a surgeon was that if we're going to be spending thousands on this, we can spend hundreds to get her to wherever the most competent surgeon is (in the U.S.). I started looking broadly, but found that while most of the surgeons had one or two okay before-and-afters in their portfolios, none of them seemed consistently good. Mind you, I'm mostly concerned with looking at samples of procedures going small -> medium.

So then I started looking in my home state, and still wasn't very satisfied with what I saw. But then I looked in the city where we live (Provo), and I found this surgeon that seems to have a very solid portfolio, especially for small -> medium procedures.

(The following links are obviously NSFW)
This is pretty much analogous to the procedure she wants, showing the sizes my wife would be going from and to (although she's a bit more voluminous than the "before" in this sample).
This is his portfolio generally, and it seems to me that they're all pretty well done.

My question is this: Am I experiencing some sort of geography bias? Do you guys agree that this portfolio is better than others? Or, more directly to the point, can you find a better portfolio? I don't want to skimp on this, if she goes through with it.

It's rare that someone gives you an assignment to find the best boobs, but the time has arisen, ladies and gents. Let's find the golden boob portfolio!

And thanks.

Man, I used to like you OP

What did I do?

 

[Zoe]

But isn't double D like quite voluminous? Anyways, many girls wouldn't believe how many guys like or even prefer smaller (maybe tiny) breasts.

It should mean that the circumference around the boobs is 5 inches larger than around the rib cage. Most girls wear the wrong size though, so any proclamations should be taken with a grain of salt.

 

[emiranda061288]

My advice is to let her do it. Just be sure to get a good doctor.

 

[XiaNaphryz]

But isn't double D like quite voluminous?

What a lot of guys think are supposed to be DD cups are actually quite a bit larger.

 

[SmokyDave]

What did I do?

You have been offered a sweet and beautiful gift and now you're not sure whether or not to take it. Sort yourself out man! Support your tremendous wife in her fantastic endeavours!

Any woman that looks down at her chest and thinks 'man, I want bigger tits' is a winner in my book.

Spoiler

I was just playin' with ya

 

[Indrid Cold1]

blame space has been great in this thread.

 

[andycapps]

34DD isn't that large... I mean, I'm only a size down from that and mine are tiny ;.;

If you think D's are tiny, you've been watching a lot of porn.

 

[Newline]

I would have mixed feelings too.
Omg i'm so anxious, I want it to happen now and...
Omg i'm so fucking excited.

Spoiler

Is what a scrub would say, I love small titties.

 

[PogiJones]

You have been offered a sweet and beautiful gift and now you're not sure whether or not to take it. Sort yourself out man! Support your tremendous wife in her fantastic endeavours!

Any woman that looks down at her chest and thinks 'man, I want bigger tits' is a winner in my book.

Spoiler

I was just playin' with ya

Ah, I didn't know which way you fell on this, since I expressed mixed feelings.

But now I understand: Boob jobs are the Vita of cosmetic surgery.

Spoiler

Except they sell.

 

[IdreamofHIME]

My brothers ex-wife got a nose job and a boob job, 6 months later she got a new man.

:/

 

[kerotan_eater]

PogiJones,

As much as I love boobs, they are just boobs. I think you should tell your wife that nobody actually cares about boob size all that much.

Yep, I'm saying it, I don't think anyone really cares.

If I check a woman out, I don't think ... "oh her boobs are too small let's laugh at her because she looks like a boy." Nobody cares, or even thinks that, you might need to be the tiniest A cup, an extreme, extreme, where one might may a decent argument that this extreme variation warrants some sort of expansion, even then I would talk to that person about the superficiality of it. I wouldn't say your wife is there by the way.

Anyway I have never heard a guy or woman in my life that has really ever cared all that much about the size of someones else's boobs. You might OP, but are you really going to be that much happier? Society most definitely doesn't care so what I don't see is why your wife does, she already has you.

 

[PogiJones]

As someone who has done years of research on the subject--

I was wondering what your thoughts are on silicone vs. saline. Seems most people say silicone looks and feels more natural, but there are some that say saline looks more natural under the muscle. And it seems that most of the portfolios I look at consist mostly of saline. Do you have thoughts on why saline seems to be gaining in popularity?

PogiJones,

As much as I love boobs, they are just boobs. I think you should tell your wife that nobody actually cares about boob size all that much.

Yep, I'm saying it, I don't think anyone really cares.

If I check a woman out, I don't think ... "oh her boobs are too small let's laugh at her because she looks like a boy." Nobody cares, or even thinks that, you might need to be the tiniest A cup, an extreme, extreme, where one might may a decent argument that this extreme variation warrants some sort of expansion, even then I would talk to that person about the superficiality of it. I wouldn't say your wife is there by the way.

Anyway I have never heard a guy or woman in my life that has really ever cared all that much about the size of someones else's boobs. You might OP, but are you really going to be that much happier? Society most definitely doesn't care so what I don't see is why your wife does, she already has you.

I hear you, man. Like I said, while the bigger boobs she had while breastfeeding were a nice bonus, I still love her just as much without them. But without going too into it, my wife has confidence issues in a lot of areas, and she knows it. She doesn't care that I love her boobs as are, and she doesn't care that other people don't really care her boobs are small; she cares. She understands it's not rational, but sometimes people gotta treat symptoms. If she does go forward with this, it won't cure her underlying insecurities with herself generally (she honestly believes she's a 5 out of 10; I completely disagree, of course), but at least she perhaps won't feel developmentally stunted physically, hopefully.

 

[XiaNaphryz]

If you think D's are tiny, you've been watching a lot of porn.

No, she's right. D's aren't small, but they aren't super huge either. Plenty of stories of girls who thought they were D cups but when they got properly measured discovered they're actually something like G or K. Don't get Girl-GAF started on bra sizing rants.

 

[Septimius]

Boob jobs go against my personal philosophy. I also think there often is an element of low self-esteem involved, which won't be rectified by a boob job. Or only temporarily. It is a common tale of those getting boob jobs, that they'll be very satisfied at first, then find something else that's "not right".

My ex talked about this, which I found to be absolutely absurd. While her boobs weren't the biggest, they certainly weren't the smallest. At the same time, they were perky, and fit her body extremely well. As for "corrective surgery" or whatever you'd call it after having a child - I have no idea if the same things go into it. To me, it's very much a point to allow what's natural to happen. We all need to learn to accept the way things are - it is my belief that that is a secret to happiness.

 

[SmokyDave]

Ah, I didn't know which way you fell on this, since I expressed mixed feelings.

But now I understand: Boob jobs are the Vita of cosmetic surgery.

Spoiler

Except they sell.

Boob jobs are the greatest thing mankind ever conceived. Better than penicillin. Better than air travel. Better than the Vita. I'd never pressure my missus into a boob job (she's pretty healthy upstairs anyway), but if she said she wanted one, I'd dash down to the clinic with her post-haste.

 

[kurbaan]

Christopher Titus:
"And gentlemen, if you've been with a woman for over five years and she decides to get a boob job.....hehe, she ain't getting it for you."

Seriously though, she doesn't need one. shrugs

this. This right here.

 

[jmdajr]

No, she's right. D's aren't small, but they aren't super huge either. Plenty of stories of girls who thought they were D cups but when they got properly measured discovered they're actually something like G or K. Don't get Girl-GAF started on bra sizing rants.

It's true.....

 

[Schmo Florez]

Speaking from experience:

1. Her confidence will shoot through the roof around you. On the streets and in the sheets.

2. Unfortunately, this is very much about her and has very little to do with you. What I mean by that is we're all dudes and we'd be happy with floppy jalopies to nipple on a rib and everything in between. We love our woman and we love everything about her. But in her eyes she had a kid (2 in my case) and her body has changed dramatically. Why not reward her for giving you the amazing gift of a baby (or 2) with a little confidence boost.

3. Silicone looks and feels natural. It is pre-shaped in the form of a natural breast. Saline is water in a bag. Can't shape water in a bag and its hard as a rock. Going under the muscle also helps with the natural look and feel. They look great without giving her the stripper/poon star look.

4. The scar depends entirely on your ladies anatomy and physiology. Women with less elastin in their skin have a higher chance of scaring. This includes people prone to stretch marks.

5. Above all, you have to find a quality surgeon. You're going to be spending 7,000-10,000 bucks. Make it count. I recommend going to a surgeon that has done work on a friend. If you like their work you will most likely go with that surgeon. We went with a Dr. in Newport Beach California.

6. Enjoy my friend. Your wife is going to be very happy.

 

[blame space]

www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ybic2cioU-M‎

 

[kerotan_eater]

I hear you, man. Like I said, while the bigger boobs she had while breastfeeding were a nice bonus, I still love her just as much without them. But without going too into it, my wife has confidence issues in a lot of areas, and she knows it. She doesn't care that I love her boobs as are, and she doesn't care that other people don't really care her boobs are small; she cares. She understands it's not rational, but sometimes people gotta treat symptoms. If she does go forward with this, it won't cure her underlying insecurities with herself generally (she honestly believes she's a 5 out of 10; I completely disagree, of course), but at least she perhaps won't feel developmentally stunted physically, hopefully.

Mmhm ... I would say going to see a good psychologist/therapist (good meaning at least try a few) first would be a good idea before going on to possibly indefinite cycle of trying surgery. So what I'm saying is, people do get addicted to that kind of thing, so perhaps a better course of action before she becomes unrecognizable and/or indefinitely depressed about her body image.

Also I'm not sure what her problem is, I guarantee, if she wanted to prove to herself she was beautiful, tell her to go to a bar, she'll get plenty of offers from guys =]

 

[SmokyDave]

Also I'm not sure what her problem is, I guarantee, if she wanted to prove to herself she was beautiful, tell her to go to a bar, she'll get plenty of offers from guys =]

That doesn't prove she's beautiful, it proves there are a lot of drunken men in bars. That ain't the kind of validation that improves ones self-image.

 

[Bam Bam Baklava]

Seeing some of pictures I gotta say they really have done well in mastering this procedure. I mean the after picture was 2 months after operation and you couldn't even tell at all they had a surgery. No scarring, no swelling, no nothing.

 

[PogiJones]

Speaking from experience:

1. Her confidence will shoot through the roof around you. On the streets and in the sheets.

2. Unfortunately, this is very much about her and has very little to do with you. What I mean by that is we're all dudes and we'd be happy with floppy jalopies to nipple on a rib and everything in between. We love our woman and we love everything about her. But in her eyes she had a kid (2 in my case) and her body has changed dramatically. Why not reward her for giving you the amazing gift of a baby (or 2) with a little confidence boost.

3. Silicone looks and feels natural. It is pre-shaped in the form of a natural breast. Saline is water in a bag. Can't shape water in a bag and its hard as a rock. Going under the muscle also helps with the natural look and feel. They look great without giving her the stripper/poon star look.

4. The scar depends entirely on your ladies anatomy and physiology. Women with less elastin in their skin have a higher chance of scaring. This includes people prone to stretch marks.

5. Above all, you have to find a quality surgeon. You're going to be spending 7,000-10,000 bucks. Make it count. I recommend going to a surgeon that has done work on a friend. If you like their work you will most likely go with that surgeon. We went with a Dr. in Newport Beach California.

6. Enjoy my friend. Your wife is going to be very happy.

Have you witnessed/felt a saline breast before, or is your view grounded in others' reports? If we do it, we're leaning toward silicone for this reason, but I've also heard the scar is bigger for silicone since it's pre-filled. Is this accurate in your experience? (Oh, and she got 0 stretch marks during/after pregnancy, fwiw.)

Do you have a link to your doctor's portfolio, by chance?

Can't complain about a confidence boost between the sheets...

 

[kerotan_eater]

That doesn't prove she's beautiful, it proves there are a lot of drunken men in bars. That ain't the kind of validation that improves ones self-image.

I'm trying here -__-

I certainly would though. Plus I don't know about you, but when I'm drunk I still go for "traditionally" attractive ladies, but ................. hey whatever,

 

[Schmo Florez]

My saline experience comes 100% from strippers lol. They look too round and are very very hard. I think most of the regret stories you will hear are from saline.

As for the scar, we went under the nipple and you can't see them even if you looked for them. We are very happy with the results and recommend it fully. I will PM you the details.

 

[PogiJones]

My saline experience comes 100% from strippers lol. They look too round and are very very hard. I think most of the regret stories you will hear are from saline.

As for the scar, we went under the nipple and you can't see them even if you looked for them. We are very happy with the results and recommend it fully. I will PM you the details.

Much obliged, thank you.

I'm trying here -__-

I certainly would though. Plus I don't know about you, but when I'm drunk I still go for "traditionally" attractive ladies, but ................. hey whatever,

Ha, SmokyDave's response is actually exactly the kind of justification she would use to brush it off. When we were in Vegas, she got compliments left-and-right, and she was somehow able to justify away every one of them as being something other than a sincere compliment. She's like a self-deprecation wizard. (Not in the fishing way, though.)

 

[evilromero]

Mmhm ... I would say going to see a good psychologist/therapist (good meaning at least try a few) first would be a good idea before going on to possibly indefinite cycle of trying surgery. So what I'm saying is, people do get addicted to that kind of thing, so perhaps a better course of action before she becomes unrecognizable and/or indefinitely depressed about her body image.

Also I'm not sure what her problem is, I guarantee, if she wanted to prove to herself she was beautiful, tell her to go to a bar, she'll get plenty of offers from guys =]

This is horrible advice. What happens when no guys hit on her? Then she'll feel even worse. The truth is, breast size matters to a lot of people. To say it doesn't just baffles me. It's animal psychology. In our case we look at a woman's physical features first to judge if she will make a good mother or mate. There's no sugar coating it. I understand this desire to live in a utopia where we can pretend that everyone is given a fair shake based on their shining personality first. But we ain't living in it.

 

[kerotan_eater]

This is horrible advice. What happens when no guys hit on her? Then she'll feel even worse. The truth is, breast size matters to a lot of people. To say it doesn't just baffles me. It's animal psychology. In our case we look at a woman's physical features first to judge if she will make a good mother or mate. There's no sugar coating it. I understand this desire to live in a utopia where we can pretend that everyone is given a fair shake based on their shining personality first. But we ain't living in it.

Well I'm just saying what is the truth, she would get hit on. If she doesn't, wrong kind of bar, probably a weird couples one or something ...

But like I said she would, I would hedge a huge bet on it, but your right its not exactly great advice, not one that works all the time, for every other woman in existence that does not follow the traditional standards of beauty.

I don't know where you live, it might be LA, where this notion is so entrenched in everyone that big boobs are a absolute necessity to everyone and anyone (I actually don't know, is that what its actually like there?), but I don't, and most of the world I'd say don't care nearly as much as people think. It is an increasing issue but not one that I see as a big deal to most people, other than to the people themselves.

It's an issue, but its not like the whole penis size issue for men. I think those two things are worlds apart, with small boobs being a way distant second. Look at plenty of female celebrities, plenty of them are small and making it into Top 100 lists. I'm just trying to add a bit of perspective.

 

[XiaNaphryz]

Look at plenty of female celebrities, plenty of them are small and making it into Top 100 lists.

And yet it still wouldn't be surprising if any of them stated they had self-confidence issues about their figure or chest or face or whatever. Being constantly fawned over doesn't necessarily mean anything when it comes to self-image issues. Hell, in some cases it could exacerbate the issue.

 

[kerotan_eater]

And yet it still wouldn't be surprising if any of them stated they had self-confidence issues about their figure or chest or face or whatever. Being constantly fawned over doesn't necessarily mean anything when it comes to self-image issues. Hell, in some cases it could exacerbate the issue.

Your right, maybe logic doesn't work in this ... sometimes it does though.

His wife is not traditionally unattractive to me, and I'd very much argue to most men. So there may be something underlying or so entrenched like the OP said. Which is why I'd say talking to someone professional is important.

 

[Banjo-Kazooie]

If she liked her sister's boob job then she must have seen them right? I mean, if so and she still wants one and thinks her sister's are what she is looking for, why can't she use her sister's surgeon?

 

[foxuzamaki]

She looks fine as he is.

Oh god, I hope that is a typo lmao

 

[davepoobond]

If she liked her sister's boob job then she must have seen them right? I mean, if so and she still wants one and thinks her sister's are what she is looking for, why can't she use her sister's surgeon?

That would be my thought.


Also, boob surgeon portfolios are like a strangely interesting new type of amateur porn wouldn't you guys say?

 

[Draft]

Dudes on the net are so vehemently anti boob job, and I am positive that most of them have not fuxt wit fake boobs for any appreciable amount of time, if at all.

I don't really know much about the procedure but I do feel like this is a purchase that does not make sense to cut corners. Get a bargain on your toilet paper, not a surgical procedure that will forever alter your body. Find the best doctor available and pay him whatever he wants.

 

[studyguy]

Girlfriend is Jewish, her nose has a slight ridge she dislikes even though she's damn gorgeous. She wants a nose job, but I tell her she's beautiful as she is. I'm not about to leave her over it though if she goes through with it. If she can finance it, then sure... whatever, it's not my choice to decide what she does with her body. I'll support her regardless of how she looks anyway.

 

[tensuke]

Boob jobs are the greatest thing mankind ever conceived. Better than penicillin. Better than air travel. Better than the Vita.

Hahaha oh my god. You didn't.

 

[civilstrife]

Maybe it's her body and she can do whatever the fuck she wants with it?

 

[chifanpoe]

Well I guess I should give my 2 cents. My wonderful wife after having two kids was very sad when her once great 32B cups did not come back after having our 2nd child.

We did a lot of research and she ended up getting silicone implants by a very good doctor in our area. The sizes and shape will be determined by the CC amount and style of implant.

One of her best friends had saline implants done and was not very happy with them. After feeling both, I can say while silicone cost a lot more, they feel and look way more natural.

When all was said and done it ended up being around $9,000 and my wife as well as me are very satisfied. After they settled, takes about 5-6 months, she ended up having a 34D cup with very little scaring if any at all.

 

[chickdigger802]

should take her to the local strip joint. motorboat a few and then decide.

its like a test drive.