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My wife wants a boob job. I've got mixed feelings.

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You'll keep on wondering until you change the prissy attitude. Relationships require compromise.

Oh hey honey, you want to what? Completely change what you look like? Oh ok, I'll just sit here and accept it. Sure babe, shave your head and start piercing every orifice, get tattoos to cover every inch of your body.

I mean, I should accept that, because its her body.

Sorry, I don't. The OP may be totally fine with implants, and by all means, more power to him, that's totally cool. But boob jobs is one of many lines I draw.
 
I don't have any opinions on the matter but I can say your a good husband my dude. I can tell you are just trying to help your wife and want what makes her happy.

Tons of respect for ya.
 
Oh hey honey, you want to what? Completely change what you look like? Oh ok, I'll just sit here and accept it. Sure babe, shave your head and start piercing every orifice, get tattoos to cover every inch of your body.

I mean, I should accept that, because its her body.

Sorry, I don't. The OP may be totally fine with implants, and by all means, more power to him, that's totally cool. But boob jobs is one of many lines I draw.

Jesus Christ, there's only extremes with you.
 
Oh hey honey, you want to what? Completely change what you look like? Oh ok, I'll just sit here and accept it. Sure babe, shave your head and start piercing every orifice, get tattoos to cover every inch of your body.

I mean, I should accept that, because its her body.

Sorry, I don't. The OP may be totally fine with implants, and by all means, more power to him, that's totally cool. But boob jobs is one of many lines I draw.

Im in the all natural camp too but its your wife's decision. If she is compelled from within to make this decision rather than compelled from outside then more power to her.
 
this is not the same thing at all

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well hopefully thats the type his wife gets.

Yeah, but those aren't cheap, that's for sure. And even then, you still know they're fake, they're just soft. But I mean, was I really going to complain? I was getting some boob action, so I'm certainly not going to turn up my nose because they were fake. Lol.
 
Oh, I would make myself clear what I would or would not accept before marriage, and discuss those things with my partner, and learn to respect similar opinions from her. Like if I suddenly wanted to cover my face in tattoos and she objected, and told me she would leave me, I would weigh that consequence before deciding what to do with my own body, and I would not begrudge her.
So if you wanted to start lifting weights and put on muscle for your own betterment and she didn't approve and left you that sounds like a healthy relationship? Leaving someone for getting a boob job sounds like something a 12 year old would say.
 
Peer pressure the thread. This is a losing battle for the OP, if the older sis likes her new jugs a lot that will be a huge influence on his wife. I'm curious to see the older sister before the boob job.

In my opinion and if you are an ass man as you say, I would keep insisting against the boob job. Surely you both can find a way to spend money on something else that would make her sisters jealous.
 
Im in the all natural camp too but its your wife's decision. If she is compelled from within to make this decision rather than compelled from outside then more power to her.

I kind of agree with him though. Most decisions in a relationship should be mutual. Now, one party cannot force the other, but they can reach agreements like the OP is trying to do. A whole relationship can break down because one party ignores the input of the other.
 
Why does she want it? Will it make her change? I've seen horror stories after girls got em done and they just want to show it every chance they get.

Your wife looks down to earth however so maybe not.
 
I kind of agree with him though. Most decisions in a relationship should be mutual. Now, one party cannot force the other, but they can reach agreements like the OP is trying to do. A whole relationship can break down because one party ignores the input of the other.

Most good couples can identify each other's inner compelling desires.
 
I have to pop back in after reading some of the comments. I can legit tell you just want what will make your wife happy and you may have chosen the wrong forum (or general input method) unfortunately.

I love GAF and I respect the intelligence of this forum over all of the bullshit online nowadays.

That being said, all these people who are not married or who have never had a significant other they would die for without question truly have no business helping in this matter. I think you are already on the right track, you know your wife better than any of us sitting behind the keyboard.. and if a boob job is really going to make her happier than go for it.

Obviously this has been something bothering her for quite a while and not like she woke up this morning and decided on it. I have known a few females who have taken this route and none of them have regretted the decision.
 
So if you wanted to start lifting weights and put on muscle for your own betterment and she didn't approve and left you that sounds like a healthy relationship? Leaving someone for getting a boob job sounds like something a 12 year old would say.

If she let me know well ahead of time that she is not a fan of muscle bound dudes, that's actually perfectly reasonable. I also do not approve of extreme dieting and am not a fan at all of skinny chicks. So if I go chubby chasing, and the girls suddenly decides to lose fifty pounds, I'm out. I am no longer attracted, and attraction is an incredibly important part of a relationship. Boob jobs for my taste are completely unsightly. I would let anyone know well ahead of time, and if they decide to get one anyway, well off I go.
 
Guys, again, I'm reading all the posts, so thanks again to those contributing things to consider. I just can't respond to all of them.

No, she can't really take birth control for other reasons. And when she was on it, it didn't seem to do anything to her breast size.

Yes, we're going to have more kids, but everything I've read from legit sources suggests that won't be a problem if she does decide to get them.

No, perpetual pregnancy isn't really an option, ha.

this is not the same thing at all

Meh. Guess I'm jaded from the "Show off your SO" thread. I don't see a problem with it.
 
Boobs are fantastical things. Let her know you support whatever decision she decides to make and make sure she does plenty of her own research - risks and complications of the surgery and whether it's worth it, costs, etc.

Not much you can do beyond that really.
 
now i'm more curious about her 'amazing butt' :(

Do what you must, but make sure to present your argument in a powerpoint to know you at least tried.

live life with no regrets.
 
It's not a very good way to promote self security...
 
The only advice I can give, because ultimately it is her decision and you know her as a person, her insecurities and preferences, more than anybody on this forum, is to make sure she thoroughly researches the costs and risks (both short term and long term) of the procedure and implant itself, and makes her decision aware of these things and not purely for aesthetic reasons. She won't just have breast implants for the next few years to fill out that swimsuit, she'll have them all her life, into her elderly years, and should be aware of any risks they pose.
 
if you wife wants bigger tits...why not?
matter of fact my brother have bigger or equally big tits than your wife, some times i wish my brother put on always a fucking t-shirt i mean his fucking tits man
 
After giving it some thought, and looking at the comparison pictures, I think that if it really bothers your wife that much, then support her in her decision.

Personally, I think she looks fine, and doesn't need a boob job, but I can understand feeling insecure about how you look, and wanting to improve something if you can.

All I have to say is; don't go cheap. You don't want those weird, round ball looking boobs that are about as hard. I would also not encourage boobs over a C cup. The girl who's boobs looked great nude, and felt incredibly awesome, but they were fake, were somewhere in the large B to C range. She wasn't terribly big before the job. It's the stretched skin look that, for me, is a bit offputting when women that are really small (A and small B's), get something like D's.

So, yeah, I've changed my mind, support your wife, and if she wants the breast job, get it for her. I'm generally not one for plastic surgery, but as someone who has just started to find his confidence and self esteem thanks to how exercise and a better diet has made me feel about myself, I can't argue against someone who simply wants to feel better about herself.
 
Meh. Guess I'm jaded from the "Show off your SO" thread. I don't see a problem with it.

Usually I'd agree, but like... It's a thread about her insecurities and you've posted her pictures in the same topic. If they were separate fine, but. Meh. So long as you think she'd be cool with it
 
Usually I'd agree, but like... It's a thread about her insecurities and you've posted her pictures in the same topic. If they were separate fine, but. Meh. So long as you think she'd be cool with it

Would you still feel like that if he had removed her wife's head from the picture?
 
She's on the small end of an A cup. So probably a high B is the biggest she can go to still look and feel natural, if it's well done?

Usually I'd agree, but like... It's a thread about her insecurities and you've posted her pictures in the same topic. If they were separate fine, but. Meh. So long as you think she'd be cool with it

That's a fair point. After the thread's run its course I'll probably kill the links.
 
They're very small right now, like a size A, but even that apparently is a bit loose on her. Like I said, their smallness never bothered me, as I've never been a huge boob guy (much more of a butt guy, and her butt's always been incredible). But I'd be lying if I said the bigger size wasn't a nice bonus when it came along. I don't really mind their current small size, but it's been bugging her.

Oh, and the "it's her body" people: Of course it is. Who said I was trying to control it? But that doesn't mean I can't try to convince her in one way or the other on the matter.
My nigga.

I'm also in a similar boat as you only my wife would never consider surgery.
 
either she's typing out these posts or I'm about to white knight a dude's wife in his own thread about her jugs.

I'm dying here

Also OP: Yeah I can see her side of the story now, holy shit. Her older sister went full on C cup and her younger sister is likely to get larger (perhaps). She'll feel like the youngest perpetually. It must be crushing her inside.
 
I think that she worries too much about how she looks. She's a beautiful grown ass woman with a husband and kids, why is she worried about how she looks next to family members? She has a partner that is happy with how she looks. Buying clothes in the kids section as you state it is probably embarrassing, but I'm sure there are stores that sell clothes to adults that will fit her, online or otherwise. She's not like a stick or something.

I dunno. I'm not really for plastic surgery except in extreme cases. She should do whatever makes her happy, but she should be 100% sure this is going to fix the actual problem before going through with it.
 
I'm dying here

Also OP: Yeah I can see her side of the story now, holy shit. Her older sister went full on C cup and her younger sister is likely to get larger (perhaps). She'll feel like the youngest perpetually. It must be crushing her inside.

lol

I don't know man, haven't had the chance to play with some faker's but usually in porn u see the big kind which almost always look wrong. Id imagine the less drastic the change the less of a chance for deformities.

Hard to tell as I cant say I've seen/felt enough tits to judge properly, but part of me still feels its shallow and most women don't need to deform themselves.

My lame list of possible exceptions: if you're basically flat and want to know what its like to have boob's, if you're born deformed, if your too big and it causes health problems that exercise and building some muscle cant fix, if you've gone though and accident or illness that has left you with boob problems.

Girl's should compare themselves less, they're always in competition with each other and that leads to some nasty built up mental things. The last thing I think 3 sisters should be doing is comparing and critiquing their freakin boobs.

Oh and the sister who is the cause of all this should at the very least let you see the glorious tit's she's touting to your woman, making her feel lesser...

+I wonder what the youngest thinks of all this boob drama? Being the one of the 3 with the larger breasts.
THE POWER
 
Take care in finding a good surgeon. Some can do surprisingly natural-looking work. Check the before & after section here: http://www.drpfeifer.com/ (NSFW, of course)

This actually makes me feel just a bit better about the prospect. Some of those in the silicone section going from quite small to medium-sized look pretty good. Not so bad I'd hate 'em, by any means. If we can get someone good like this, and it boosts her confidence, I'll be okay with it, even if it's not my ideal natural or if it doesn't turn out completely perfect.
 
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