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My wife wants a boob job. I've got mixed feelings.
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Tommie Hu$tle
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This is my default stance. I'm not a fan of elective surgery for cosmetic reasons. The other deal is that it's not one and done those implants have to be replaced after a while. So you have to consider the long term cost.
Uncle Rupee
Banned
Advise against. Is this like the midlife crisis for women or something? Tell her you'd rather invest the dough in a college fund for your kid(s).
Zuhzuhzombie!!
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They look awful and they feel awful.
triplestation
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Wow this thread
Get some goddamn water playas.
OP: She's unhappy with her body. You're unhappy at the prospect that the boob job might suck. These things can be reversed. I say take a leap of faith and stand behind your woman.
idk bout you homie
we dont like fake things
Yeah the only way I accept them is if a woman already had a truly monstrous set of her own and just wanted them a bit more firm and they look natural.
What if she suddenly wanted to cover her body in tattoos? I don't support mutilation.
Find a classy strip club in your area. Talk to the strippers. Surely you can find one or two who'll admit to getting some work done. See if you can get a chance to take 'em for a test drive, ask for referrals for doctors, etc. Take the wife, too: sounds like she has opinions on boobs, yes?
Although perhaps stripper boobs have different requirements than wife boobs... Still, probably a decent place to do some research?
Although perhaps stripper boobs have different requirements than wife boobs... Still, probably a decent place to do some research?
http://www.fda.gov/MedicalDevices/P...tsandProsthetics/Breastimplants/ucm064106.htm (NSFW)
Those are the risks of breast augmentation. Read the whole thing and make your decision.
Those are the risks of breast augmentation. Read the whole thing and make your decision.
Most strippers wouldn't afford a good job. This is good advice if you want to talk your wife out of it, though.
However, she's obviously happy with how her sister's turned out, so...yeah...
It's her body.
Count of Monte Sawed-Off
un33dab@dpu$$y
I guess it's personal taste, but I think they look pretty gross when they're fake.
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Deleted member 325805
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Just ask to squeeze the sisters, if you like hers then you'll be more on board and can support your wife better.
Zoe
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Wants aren't always natural or for the right reasons. You shouldn't have to give unconditional support to everything.
It's her body he fell in love with too, and now she wants to change it.
She's very free to do what she wants with her body, but he's equally free to reject the changes.
agreed
He isn't a 24 year old guy on his third date.
He is married with kids.
If the size of your tits would make you not want to be married, then you probably shouldn't have gotten married.
Lionel Mandrake
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So far in this thread the tally for words used is (not including quoted text):
Boob(s): 42
Tit(s): 3
Breast(s): 10
Nipple(s): 1
Mammar(y/ies): 0
Wombo Bombo(s): 0
Boob(s): 42
Tit(s): 3
Breast(s): 10
Nipple(s): 1
Mammar(y/ies): 0
Wombo Bombo(s): 0
Deathmistress
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As someone who has done years of research on the subject--
You will want to do under the muscle silicone implants if she is indeed a natural A cup. Under the muscle looks and feels a lot more natural as well as has less of a chance of popping (since you guys have a child).
Make sure that you are both comfortable with the size you select. Buy a bra in the size she wants to be and buy those creepy fake boob things to stuff it. Have her wear it around for a week or two, all day long. Does her back hurt? Is she comfortable? Does she feel sexy or unbalanced? Do you like how she looks at that size? Then adjust from there.
Finally, make sure the doctor is experienced and has a track record you can check. A lot of doctors will have a client list of people you can speak with about their surgery and recovery. From what I have seen, recovery from implants is a BITCH. It will take a year or so for them to settle and look how they should. However, silicone should last 10+ years. Oh yes, implants are not a one-time deal. They require check ups and need replacing every so often depending on multiple factors.
I don't have them so I can't speak from experience, but my friends and family who have them think all this trouble is more than worth it. Hope this helps
You will want to do under the muscle silicone implants if she is indeed a natural A cup. Under the muscle looks and feels a lot more natural as well as has less of a chance of popping (since you guys have a child).
Make sure that you are both comfortable with the size you select. Buy a bra in the size she wants to be and buy those creepy fake boob things to stuff it. Have her wear it around for a week or two, all day long. Does her back hurt? Is she comfortable? Does she feel sexy or unbalanced? Do you like how she looks at that size? Then adjust from there.
Finally, make sure the doctor is experienced and has a track record you can check. A lot of doctors will have a client list of people you can speak with about their surgery and recovery. From what I have seen, recovery from implants is a BITCH. It will take a year or so for them to settle and look how they should. However, silicone should last 10+ years. Oh yes, implants are not a one-time deal. They require check ups and need replacing every so often depending on multiple factors.
I don't have them so I can't speak from experience, but my friends and family who have them think all this trouble is more than worth it. Hope this helps
Maninthemirror
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Ok....
I have to say. She is your wife, not your girlfriend or a friend with benefit. This is someone you married and love. I think whatever you loved naturally and whatever she saw that you love naturally shouldnt be something that should be enhanced if the marriage is already good. In laymen terms your wife doesnt need a boob job if it hasn't mattered when you fell in love with her, because that was probably the peak of the loving emotion aside from marriage
I hope he fell in love with the rest of her and not just her body. If he didn't then they going to have problems regardless.
Not like she is saying she want triple Ks
This is flat-out assuming that she would only get bigger wombo bombos to impress and attract him.
no surgery is scar free, however a skilled surgeon can make a very clean incision, resulting in a far less noticeable scar. Also, the incision point can help hide the scar...sometimes, it's small enough right on the edge of the areola that you don't see it unless you look closely. Other times, for bigger implants, it can be 'hidden' in the undercrease of the breast, or in the armpit.
Maninthemirror
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preceisely. I don't think she needs to impress him anymore. she already impresses him since long ago
Deathmistress
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That sounds about right. Most good surgeons will charge between 6 and 10K
I wasn't arguing any of that, nor was I implying the marriage would fall apart. I was arguing why it's okay for him to feel negatively about her decision to change her body despite it being, yes, her body.
As Zoe said above, he is under no obligation to give unconditional support just because it's what his wife wants to do.
Of course, beyond any other objections, breast implants are also potentially dangerous, which is a pretty big reason not to just unthinkingly support her desire. There's a lot to consider.
If he isn't attracted to her body, that's a pretty big problem too, no? I wasn't suggesting he was only in love with her body, but it's a foolish thing to discount in a sexual relationship.
Zoe
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It's a life changing surgery, no matter the size, that will have an effect on their household.
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Deleted member 325805
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If porn has taught me anything, it's you don't want to cheap out when it comes to a boob job. I've seen girls with scars that are so awful, it looks like someone drew a red line under their tit with a felt tip.
XANDER CAGE
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A friend of mine got implants recently and is significantly happier because of it.
I'm not sure if you're just fucking around or not, but this is a rather sexist point of view. Judging by the OP, it's clear that his wife wants to get her breasts done for herself, and not for him (which, imo, is the proper reason).
blame space
Banned
make no mistake, this chop job is going to affect each and every one of our households.
Vermillion
Banned
It's her body, yes, but the most important part of a relationship is communication, yes? Pogi doesn't strike me as the type of guy to try and control his wife's actions. He is merely expressing his concerns. Also his wife told him to do research.
this is like that gay marriage thing I've been hearing so much about, isn't it?
Vermillion
Banned
Oh, Pogi? Do ask *precisely* why she wants a boob job.
Maninthemirror
Banned
its not sexist to think that point of view, there are many points of views and that is one so it doesn't make it sexist.
Guys, I'm reading all the responses, so I just want to say a general thank you.
Also, to answer questions about her motivation, my wife wants them because she feels like a little girl. She feels insecure. She has a great husband who loves her and she knows it, and she's got a great son, and she feels pretty, but for some reason she feels like small boobs means she's a little girl. She hates having to shop in the children's section of stores. It's just embarrassing to her, and she's been edging toward getting the boob job done for years. This last visit to her sister's is just the straw that broke the camel's back.
But she is still willing to hear about pros and cons, and weigh the value of it. She just wants it, at this point, although she knows further information may change her mind.
This is very helpful. Thank you.
Also, to answer questions about her motivation, my wife wants them because she feels like a little girl. She feels insecure. She has a great husband who loves her and she knows it, and she's got a great son, and she feels pretty, but for some reason she feels like small boobs means she's a little girl. She hates having to shop in the children's section of stores. It's just embarrassing to her, and she's been edging toward getting the boob job done for years. This last visit to her sister's is just the straw that broke the camel's back.
But she is still willing to hear about pros and cons, and weigh the value of it. She just wants it, at this point, although she knows further information may change her mind.
This is very helpful. Thank you.
Or an easier option is for the OP to keep her boobs big by breastfeeding himself from her boobs everyday.
Get fed and keep her boobs big and perky without surgery! WIN-WIN-WIN!
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