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Remembering loved ones we lost to Covid.

Zelphyr

Gold Member
Over the last 2 years all of you on GAF helped me keep my head with entertainment & laughs.

However I lost my mom in May 2020 to Covid and wanted to share a bit.

This thread is for everyone who wish to honor the memory of a loved one.

I'll try to keep this short.
My mom was a "strong woman" before the term was invented and raised me by herself when I was born in 1968.
She was an English teacher for 30 years at a public school . She would rummage through my Iron Maiden & Rush records so she could play them to her students for vocabulary purposes.

She was strict but always fair and cooked a mean lasagna. She loved dogs.

In 2015 dementia set in and I had to put her in a nursing home. She was always against the concept of nursing homes but when dementia gets you you forget all about it you know? The irony.

Here she is in 2017 when she would still smile and we could still have "conversations" .


She died the 12th of may 2020, alone.
Her doctor called me and said that she died between his rounds. I found myself comforting him more than he did me. The man truly sounded tired and distraught.

Never could I have imagined a scenario where I could not be by my mom's side during her last moments.
The feeling of powerlessness & guilt still haunts me. Nobody deserves to die alone like a dog.

Time passing by helps a bit as I focus more on the happy memories than her shitty demise.

Thank you all again for making me feel like I'm not alone in this world and feel free to share as well ❤️
 

InfiniteCombo

Gold Member
OP, don't beat yourself up for not being able to not be next to her in her final moments. Rules during Covid times were crazy; I have a friend who lost her dad during Covid (in a foreign country, no less!) and not only could she not go to be next to him in his last moments, she couldn't even go to his funeral.

Sounds like your mom was an exceptional woman. May she rest in peace.

Thanks for sharing OP, not sure how easy it was to share your story, but I'm glad you did. I know this is just a video game forum but we're all human at the end of the day.

Stay strong brother 💪🏼
 

Raven117

Member
Never could I have imagined a scenario where I could not be by my mom's side during her last moments.
The feeling of powerlessness & guilt still haunts me. Nobody deserves to die alone like a dog.
Dude. You can't do this to yourself. This was not your call. There was nothing that could be done in those crazy times.

She sounds like a wonderful women, and you a great son.
 

Clear

Gold Member
I'm with you bro.

My mum passed on the 17th Feb. Not going into details because I'm still raw, can't even think about it.

Just wanted to say, hard as it is to see someone you love go so far away through mental and physical debilitation, the thought that kept me going. Keeps me going. Is that the stars are always there, even when we can't see them.

I hope that makes some sort of sense to you.

Peace.
 

Celcius

°Temp. member
Sorry to hear about that OP. I lost a cousin and an aunt to covid.
Whenever the pandemic is over and we finally start back having family reunions, it just won't be the same.
 
I lost my uncle and friend early on and my godmother lost her daughter during the pandemic. My uncle was 60 and my godmother's daughter was in her early 40s. I still feel guilt about not spending more time with my uncle. It's a hard feeling to get over as it was early in the pandemic and there was no idea what was going on when it happened. My friend died in his mid thirties in the pandemic when he was in the hospital as a nurse. It's not something that just goes away as there's always questions of what could have been done to keep them alive just a little bit longer.

I'm sorry for your loss, but you just have to take it as it comes. Almost everything is progress if you let it be.
 
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Sorry to hear that OP.

I lost my aunt (my dad's sister) to covid and she was all the way back in South Africa while my dad is living in Australia. And because of covid we coudn't attend her funeral.

My uncle had covid and we were close to losing him but he recovered however he is not the same person he was before covid. Have had several other family members get covid and have recovered.

My dad, mom and aunt that has passed on due to covid. RIP Aunt Anne, we love and miss you ❤
 
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Star-Lord

Gold Member
As many of you know, I was born and raised in Ireland, but moved to England during my uni years and never went back. I was due to fly home around the time COVID hit, but lockdown prevented that happening. My dad, who was suffering from an onslaught of diseases and conditions, was already in a bad state. I got a call on the 19th April 2020 to say that my dad had been admitted to hospital following a collapse at home. I managed to talk to him that night on the phone, and everything seemed to be alright. I was woken up at 4am the next morning by a call. As we all know, a call at that time is one of two things; a booty call, or someone has died. As I hadn't gone through my sexual reawakening at that point, I knew exactly what it was. I answered and pretty much collapsed to the floor in a heap. He had died, alone and afraid. I didn't get to say goodbye or attend his funeral.

My father was one of the most honest, most loyal, most determined and hard-working men I have ever known. He was my go-to guy for so many reasons, and there's not a day go by where I don't miss him.

RIP, Dad.
 
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