I feel the need of buying…

How you control yourself when you want to buy stuff you don’t need?

Recently I’m adding on my cart game laptop… I don’t need it at all but boring before sleep I always end up buying some stuff.

Sometimes I feel that buying online with no real cash transaction feel cheaper 😂

When I do need to move the money it feels completely different.

Last month was good , didn’t spent much , this month just started and laptop, shoes, toys ready to go.

My trick now is using a new credit card that I need to charge before buying , some times I buy and as I don’t charge it I get the card declined email ,
I forget about it and I don’t buy anything at the end.

Btw I don’t over spent. I have my monthly saving that I never touch. 0 loans or debt as well.

It can be middle age depression issues? 😂
 

dr_octagon

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jufonuk

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I think I try to think about it and wait a while. Then if I really want it after I’ll get it. Sometimes I think I’m more addicted about buying games then playing them all lol.

Also think about what you are buying not in the money it costs but the amount of time it would take for you to earn it. Unless you are rich then Ehhh

Also budget and try and make more use of what you already have.
 
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Grildon Tundy

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I've got a method that works really well for me for keeping my non-essential purchases in check. Think of something you already own that you know you enjoy, and compare it's emotional value to the thing you're considering buying.

Recent example: I really want The Last of Us PS5 Remake (eventually). But, it will cost me $70 today. For comparison, I bought Dragon's Dogma for ~$5 on a key site not too long ago. So I ask myself: "Will I enjoy The Last of Us Remake 14 TIMES more than I enjoy Dragon's Dogma? ($70 / $5 = 14x). I can pretty confidently say that I will not.

So it's now easier for me to justify waiting because I have converted my emotions into a quantitative measure (14x!)
 
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Heimdall_Xtreme

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Since I was a child I have the gift of willpower.

We are simply in a global crisis.

I see my future and the best thing is to save money.

On my own, I am limited to spending only 130 dollars a month on my hobby, or clothes or whatever I need.

The rest what I do is save, because we don't know what the future holds.

The example was Covid-19, which condemned many people.

Fortunately, Covid-19 did not harm me in health or financially, because I have always been taught the importance of saving.
 

Lasha

Member
I have a rule that I need to wait 5 days before buying anything above 100$. The break usually extinguishes whatever desire I had for the item. You can also experiment with putting more of your disposable income into savings/investments to leave less cash around to tempt you. You'll avoid dumb purchases and have lots of money around for actual baller stuff.
 
Still get that Dopamine hit from the purchase I see. Been there as well, as everyone else.

Completely on the opposite now. I rarely buy anything aside from food. It‘s actually grown to a point where it pisses me off. Last time I was truly excited to buy something was the Series X last year. But since even that purchase turned out to be a bit of a blunder (I haven‘t used it since around January) my impulse to buy something has decreased even further.

Dunno but especially on the tech side there have been no real leaps any more. Everything is just a minor update, so I just can‘t help but to not get excited.
 
always stick to cash. Payment by credit/debit card is too convenient that it's easy to lose track of your spending.

And stop looking at amazon, best buy or just any online store period.
 

Grildon Tundy

Gold Member
The key thing to solve for is something phlosophers have been pondering for centuries and every person has to find their own solution to: why do you want to buy these things in the first place? Answer that question, or the questions that arise from that answer, and you might get to the root of it.
 

killatopak

Member
Invest in life insurance or something productive.

As long as it’s an asset and not a liability, it’s worth it.
 

Warnen

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Any big purchases I try to wait a day or 2 see if I really want it, that said with most retailers u can treat it as a rental if you change your mind. Just make sure you know the return policy.
 

Rival

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I won’t make any large purchases without researching extensively and I’ll never pay full price for anything. Small things that are less than say $100 I don’t really think about too much but I also don’t like clutter so I really don’t buy too much. Most of my impulse buys are digital PC games.
 

Maiden Voyage

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Why Wanting Expensive Things Makes Us So Much Happier Than Buying Them​

Even for the most materialistic consumers, it's the experience of shopping (and the anticipation of buying) that makes us truly happy​


The idea that you can't buy happiness has been exposed as a myth, over and over. Richer countries are happier than poor countries. Richer people within richer countries are happier, too. The evidence is unequivocal: Money makes you happy. You just have to know what to do with it.

So what should you do with it?

Stop buying so much stuff, renowned psychologist Daniel Gilbert told me in an interview a few years ago, and try to spend more money on experiences. "We think that experiences can be fun but leave us with nothing to show for them," he said. "But that turns out to be a good thing." Happiness, for most people not named Sartre, is other people; and experiences are usually shared -- first when they happen and then again and again when we tell our friends.

On the other hand, objects wears out their welcome. If you really love a rug, you might buy it. The first few times you see, you might admire it, and feel happy. But over time, it will probably reveal itself to be just a rug. Try to remember the last time an old piece of furniture made you ecstatic. For me, at least, it's a difficult exercise. The wonder of my potted plants certainly wanes with time. "Psychologists call this habituation, economists call it declining marginal utility, and the rest of us call it marriage," Gilbert wrote in Stumbling on Happiness.

But there might be another reason why buying objects rather than experiences tends to disappoint. For the most materialistic people, there might be something dull -- even disappointing -- about the act of buying itself.

"Materialists are more likely to overspend and have credit problems, possibly because they believe that acquisitions will increase their happiness and change their lives in meaningful ways," Marsha L. Richins of the University of Missouri concludes in her new paper, "When Wanting Is Better Than Having," published this month in the Journal of Consumer Research. But in three separate studies, materialists reported significantly more happiness thinking about their purchase beforehand than they did from actually owning the thing they wanted.

"Thinking about acquisition provides momentary happiness boosts to materialistic people, and because they tend to think about acquisition a lot, such thoughts have the potential to provide frequent mood boosts," Richins wrote, "but the positive emotions associated with acquisition are short-lived. Although materialists still experience positive emotions after making a purchase, these emotions are less intense than before they actually acquire a product."

Once again, it would seem that experiences makes us happier than stuff -- even in the act of buying.

The finding that paying for something is less satisfying than wanting it shouldn't be confused with the idea that buying things makes us sad. It's hard to find a study showing that "retail therapy" (i.e.: shopping your way out of a bad mood) doesn't work; most research suggests that a well-timed excursion to the mall can lift one's spirits. But if Gilbert and Richins are right, then the bulk of the therapy provided by shopping is everything that happens before the check-out counter. You don't have to go into debt to achieve nearly the same emotional gains from materialism.

In my column for The Atlantic this month, Death of the Salesmen, I found that the retail space is generally divided between stores racing to the price bottom to attract lower-income consumers and stores clinging to the patina of a shopping experience to lure richer shoppers. Maybe those stores, and their customers, understand Richins' research, intuitively. When we're shopping, not for the things we need, but for the things we merely want, it's the experience of shopping and buying that makes us truly happy.
 
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i tell myself if i still want it in a week then i'll get it.

i do try not but shit but i do get the urge. usually after a couple days i forget about it so if i still want it a week later then i'll get it. not really a golden rule because i still buy stuff and think what a waste :messenger_grinning_sweat: i suppose it's mostly for my own peace of mind. once i get something in my head it takes over and i start to get annoyed.

Buy stuff with a good return policy.
this is why i mostly buy from amazon. they don't seem to have any problems with you returning stuff. not that i abuse it but at times i've had them offer to replace/refund stuff i bought months ago because i had a simple issue with it (and wanted to keep it).

over the years i have had to return stuff to them and it's never been a problem even outside the 30 days or whatever it is they give you.
 
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