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One thing someone did or said that completely destroyed your respect for them

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Usually it takes a lot for people to lose total respect for each other, but sometimes there's just a single instance that gets under your skin and makes them irredeemable in your eyes. This could be a person you know personally, or a celebrity. Just something someone did that totally killed your perception of them.

One example from me is when I found out about Woody Allen marrying his adoptive daughter. He's a really talented guy and I admired him, but this just ruined him for me. Mind you this is without knowing about the sexual assault allegations by his other daughter, but just the knowledge that he actually raised a girl and then got into a relationship with her creeps me the fuck out. I don't care what says or does from now on, I can't really respect him.
 
I unsubscribed a professional movie reviewers' podcast when one of them mentioned he was not familiar with Hitchcock's works.

I guess movie reviewers out of Portland do have lower standards?
 
Found out an old friend was abusing his girlfriend and kept threatening her with violence if she told anyone.

I was friends with this guy for close to 15 years, he helped me through my parents death and it didn't just make me lose all respect for him, made me cut off contact too because I kept feeling the urge to smash the cunts face in whenever we'd hang out.
 
Goodstyle said:
Usually it takes a lot for people to lose total respect for each other, but sometimes there's just a single instance that gets under your skin and makes them irredeemable in your eyes. This could be a person you know personally, or a celebrity. Just something someone did that totally killed your perception of them.

One example from me is when I found out about Woody Allen marrying his adoptive daughter. He's a really talented guy and I admired him, but this just ruined him for me. Mind you this is without knowing about the sexual assault allegations by his other daughter, but just the knowledge that he actually raised a girl and then got into a relationship with her creeps me the fuck out. I don't care what says or does from now on, I can't really respect him.
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Wait, why is that even legal? You shouldn't be allowed to groom and conditional a child until they are of legal age just to marry them... That's the exact same as doing it with your actual daughter. There is no real difference.
 
Skii said:
Wait, why is that even legal? You shouldn't be allowed to groom and conditional a child until they are of legal age just to marry them... That's the exact same as doing it with your actual daughter. There is no real difference.
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That's because she wasn't his daughter legally. Mia Farrow was his longtime romantic partner, and had an adopted daughter from a previous marriage. By some accounts he wasn't a father figure to her, but even so, pretty weird.

I'm not defending him by any means, but just trying to clarify.
 
Bill cosby was a serial rapist

Joe Paterno harbored a serial child rapist

Afrika Bambaata raped hundreds of young boys

etc
 
I used to be into Michio Kaku and his writings but when he went all alarmist we're all going to die doom-and-gloom over Fukuoka I was like WTF? What happened?
 
♪ now if I fuck this model
and she just bleached her asshole
and I get bleach on my T-shirt
I'mma feel like an asshole ♫
 
One of my co-workers who helped me learn the ropes when I first started, covered for me when I made mistakes, took me home once when I was piss drunk.

Hard worker, bends over backwards for people and really goes the extra mile to get the job done has revealed himself to be incredibly racist against black folks of all races. Black Hispanics, African-American, anyone who is dark this dude just loathes.

After 3 years of friendship I've found this out. We all knew he was a GOP supporter and his political leanings were a bit off, but over the past year he has really become emboldened about his stance on black folks.

Really torn about it.
 
My Muslim friend said that he thought all gays should be shot. Loudly. At Burger King.

We're not friends anymore.

I've specifically mentioned the fact he's a Muslim because when I talked to him about his opinions he said it's down to his religious beliefs. No, before somebody jumps on me, I don't think he represents others.
 
Makai said:
♪ now if I fuck this model
and she just bleached her asshole
and I get bleach on my T-shirt
I'mma feel like an asshole ♫
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I was high when I met her
We was down in Tribeca
She get under your skin if you let her
She get under your skin if you-uh
 
Honestly I usually just cut anyone (non-family) with outrageously homophobic/sexist/racist beliefs out of my life. I used to try and reason with people and I still do if it's more innocuous (i.e. they're not that far gone) but man fuck it, it's not worth it.

Also I'm really turned off by judgmental people and shit-talkers. There's quite a few people I've met who I want nothing to do with because all they do is shit on other people behind their backs, whether I've been a target or not.
 
Got into with a friend about #AllLivesMatter. Absolutely crushed my respect for him, he is also a Trump supporter. Actually I shouldn't say supporter, but he did mention that he doesn't see why Trump would be so bad. Usually I don't mind friends having different political affiliations, but that one seriously bothered me. I didn't jump down his throat, but we all got into a pretty heated drunken debate. It was all good, no hurt feelings or anything. And we all kept drinking afterwards...but it was disappointing.
 
Goose_Se7en said:
One of my co-workers who helped me learn the ropes when I first started, covered for me when I made mistakes, took me home once when I was piss drunk.

Hard worker, bends over backwards for people and really goes the extra mile to get the job done has revealed himself to be incredibly racist against black folks of all races. Black Hispanics, African-American, anyone who is dark this dude just loathes.

After 3 years of friendship I've found this out. We all knew he was a GOP supporter and his political leanings were a bit off, but over the past year he has really become emboldened about his stance on black folks.

Really torn about it.
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Shame. Almost certainly the environment he grew up in. Sometimes people can learn and change and sometimes they don't.
 
Neil Patrick Harris rolling out a specially made cake designed to look like Amy Winehouse's rotting corpse for a Halloween party, just after she died.

Prick.
 
Goose_Se7en said:
One of my co-workers who helped me learn the ropes when I first started, covered for me when I made mistakes, took me home once when I was piss drunk.

Hard worker, bends over backwards for people and really goes the extra mile to get the job done has revealed himself to be incredibly racist against black folks of all races. Black Hispanics, African-American, anyone who is dark this dude just loathes.

After 3 years of friendship I've found this out. We all knew he was a GOP supporter and his political leanings were a bit off, but over the past year he has really become emboldened about his stance on black folks.

Really torn about it.
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These are always hard because it just goes to show how multilayered humans really can be. On the other hand you see them exhibiting class act behaviour all around but then you see them exhibiting disgusting behaviour.
 
Every time I hear an adult support Trump. This isn't about a difference of opinion or philosophy. Trump is a liar, a nonsense peddling almost incoherent intellectual lightweight and a fraud who has flipped positions on everything except racism.

Every person who has tried to explain their support for him had used either "he's the only honest one" (despite the fact he is caught in lies literally every day) or "he says stuff everyone else is thinking but too afraid to say" (racism and misogyny).
 
I was watching a stream and the streamer admitted he cheated on the game(he hacked the game) and that he cheated on other games too. What's worse was that he tried to justify it with a lame excuse.


I lost respect for this guy I know because he's a Trump fan. Initially, I was fine with him, despite him being a Trump fan, but he started irritating me after every talk of his was very pro-trump and hated everything not Trump(he would bash on anyone not named Trump).
 
This isn't as extreme as the thread title but it made me see this guy in a lesser light and shattered an illusion.

A mentor who filled the role of big brother/awesome uncle explained to me that Asian women are bad drivers, and that it's not racist to say that because reasons.
 
Guy I knew for like 7 years. He was one of my best friend.

I get a gf, and for some reason he doesn't really like her. I don't really care, but then he comes and tells me shit like '' your gf is a rat, I don't like her, shes a bitch'' (for no reason, im serious)

and thats how you destroy a 7 years long friendship and lose all my respect
 
Elder co-worker who is totally chill, nice, friendly funny. When it came out that gay marriage was legalized he revealed his "I don't agree with that life style. It's gross" side to me. Completely fucked my head up since the dude seems so damn charming. Has the same backwards ass opinions now that trans rights are on the table now.
 
A coworker admitted that he raped a girl when he was a teen. He also knew he had HPV and didn't tell his last girlfriend and proceeded go have unprotected sex with her.
 
Former good friend of mine tried to pitch me a pyramid scheme that was his main job (shop.com IE Market America). Of course when I said no, emphatically but politely, it was like I had killed his dog.
 
Going by this thread, the saying that you don't get to pick your family is nothing compared to how you don't get to pick your co-workers.
 
When I learned about the bevy of things Mother Teresa did that would paint her, pretty dramatically, in a light completely opposite to that of her reputation. Her "charity" work in India particularly hits closer to home.
 
My ex telling me her psychotic abusive ex treated her like a princess because she wasn't getting her way with me. It was like a stab in my heart.

Another ex said Super Mario 3D World was childish after we played it only 1 minute. She knew I was a Mario fanatic. Mario figurines, shirts, etc.. It was basically like she was telling me I was childish. I had no respect for her opinions after that. That sounds really shallow, but it was just the way she said it. Like so cold and blunt.
 
If anything racist, sexist, homophobic, or just bigoted comes out of your mouth, thats enough. That's pretty much it. I can understand depending on the situation and where they came from, but nOT much more than that.
 
The Youtuber Boogie2988 had an account here and during the whole Gamergate fiasco was semi active on the boards. He eventually devolved into accusing people arguing with him of wanting for him to kill himself.

I lost respect for a decent handful of people over Gamergate but he was the biggest one. I don't think he really even held too many disgusting beliefs but it was clear he had a big martyr complex and it colored my perspective of the rest of his videos. Can see it in his constant references to so called consumer advocacy and "I don't care what you say about me, but don't say anything bad about muh fans" style videos. He's done similar things where he's claimed to be blacklisted by sites, with it not even occurring to him that maybe his content wasn't worth covering. Constantly going on and on about protecting the little guys and yadda yadda. You see this in a lot of youtubers, especially those that do a lot of gaming related videos, and for some I kinda buy it but for a lot of it feels like they're patting themselves on the back.
 
Oops sorry wrong thread.

EDIT: Actually, let me contribute.

I had a friend in middle school whom I considered one of my best friends. I was a really shy kid, and didn't really know how to make friends, and on top of that it was my first year in this school. He and I became friends, I hung out at his place and him at mine. And then one day, he just stopped talking to me, stopped hanging out with me in general. It was like one day he was my friend, the next day I was a stranger to him. And I became alone again. I became that kid who sat in a corner of the yard and ate his lunch alone. It made me sad and angry and it hurt knowing I was alone. Fair-weather friends or friends who'll abandon you once they trade up to being popular destroy any respect I would have had for them.
 
Stinkles said:
Every time I hear an adult support Trump. This isn't about a difference of opinion or philosophy. Trump is a liar, a nonsense peddling almost incoherent intellectual lightweight and a fraud who has flipped positions on everything except racism.

Every person who has tried to explain their support for him had used either "he's the only honest one" (despite the fact he is caught in lies literally every day) or "he says stuff everyone else is thinking but too afraid to say" (racism and misogyny).
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This. I've cut off more than a few friends because of how they're so adamant that trump would be good as a president.
 
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